My daughter is two years old and likes to pack her book bag with different items from different places. She carries the bookbag everywhere. It takes her a very long time to pack her bag so that we can leave the house. She won't go in the stores with out the bag and it is driving me crazy. She takes strange things to bed with her example (calculator). I think my child has insecurity issues but I don't know why. I love my daughter very much and I want her to feel secure and comfortable, but it is a lot of work in getting her to leave the house or anywhere with out that bookbag. I have tried to give her one item to have all the time (teddy bear) but she prefers to have a variety of things to carry. Help me to understand my daughter.
2007-01-03 20:24:29 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
I have the same situation... wat i would do is start with compromise ... b4 i plan to go out i start telling her that we will go out shopping would u like to come with me ... and ofcourse she agrees and u start compromising with this point u say if u would to come honey then we cannot take anything with us , no toys etcc... then she refuses then u say ok if want to go shopping we bring one thing only and promise her that if she is a good girl and takes one thing only then u will get her something nice for from the shop. And keep ur promise..
As for bedtime do the same thing one thing max 2 fav things whatever they are as long as they are not dangerous. Give the reward in the morning but try without a reward and see if it works.
Believe me it takes time and she will grow out of it as long as u start training her and then explaining that things at home toys etcc belong at home wen she is a bit older like 3yrs.
Mine is four yrs now and doesnt take anything out now.
Be patient and good luck.
2007-01-03 20:43:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't read to much into the actions of a two year old. Her experiences are still few and learning that she has the ability to take these new discoveries with her is part of growth. If her new interest are taking to much time, you might think of limiting the amount of items she can pack and do not always allow her to take the items into places. You might suggest to her that the toys need to make sure and watch the car while her and mom go into the store. This is also a very good time to establish boundaries with her. The most important thing is to stick to your rules, even when the child throws a fit. You will be better off in the future for the crying you listen to now!
Good Luck.
I have Three Daughters and have had fun raising them all!
2007-01-03 20:36:07 · answer #2 · answered by Lo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your daughter may be just pushing your buttons. Tell her it is time to go 30 minutes before you really intend to leave so that will give her time to pick up her little treasures around the house she wants to take out. They are such funnly little creatures and she is at that age that she is going to try you. So what if she wants to go to bed with a calculator. Take some advice from someone who has been there. . . . .choose your battles wisely. It it is not going to hurt her then let her do it. Save your frustrations for when she is bigger and you MUST put your foot down. I would recommend though in the morning after she has slept with the calculator you tell her she must put it up where it belongs unless she is putting in her bag again. My neice at the age of 3 insisted on carrying a sanitary napkin around with her in her bag. Sometimes she even wore one. Just enjoy the innocence of child hood and make sure you put the funnly little things she does in her baby book so when she is older you can read it together, laugh and remember how sweet she was at the age of two. Good luck and cherish EVERY second.
2007-01-03 20:44:09 · answer #3 · answered by icunurse85 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My daughter will be 4 in a few weeks, and still does this. She will HAVE to have her glitter flip flops, a can of peas, the door stop for the laundry room door, a string of beads, a straw and other unrelated items in her backpack before we can leave the house. My daughter takes weird things to bed too... I think it's just a "thing" some kids do, and isn't anything to worry about. My daughter is very happy, very well adjusted, isn't shy and knows that Mama and Daddy are here and her home is her forever home. (Our two youngest are adopted.) Don't worry about your baby, humor her, help her pack up and just tell the ladies working the doors at Wal-Mart that all this junk in her bag, she brought with her. I have my daughter's "get out quick and always be prepared" stuff marked with a Sharpie. I just holler from the bathroom in the mornings, "Gini Baby, get your pack pack ready, we gotta leave soon." I'm sure they will grow out of it.
2007-01-03 20:47:04 · answer #4 · answered by ihave5katz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Best thing to do is stand by her and tell her she can ONLY put one or two things in her bag for the trip out today. Hand her a blanket and a stuffed animal for it and tell her thats it nothing more. As far as taking stuff to bed with her tell her only her and her stuffed animals are allowed in the bed. Only things you can really do is be consistant and firm. You will have to deal with protest of course but in the long run it will be worth it. My daughter liked to take things everywhere but now if it aint a blanket, stuffed animal, or a cup she can not bring it and if she does it must stay in the car when we go inside.
2007-01-04 00:00:19 · answer #5 · answered by Cowgirl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is a child, a normal child. Be happy it is a bag, a friend of mine's daughter would carry her grandmothers size 22 underpants around. Gross. She needs that security. It is the same as a security blanket. Please do not take it away from her now wait until she is at least 3 or 4.
2007-01-03 20:42:03 · answer #6 · answered by grannywinkie 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just let her take it with her it hurts nothing. If its a matter of getting ready to go quickly then keep the bag packed or pack it the night before. She just likes to have her stuff with her and it really is better than wanting just one thing (like the teddy) cause if you lose that one thing oh boy your in for it then.
2007-01-04 03:29:12 · answer #7 · answered by elaeblue 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's completely normal. My oldest son did it too and I've read it's a security thing. Don't worry - she'll outgrow it. Before I understood what it was all about I used to tell him someone might accidentally take his stuff or he may lose it so he better keep it at home or in the car and that worked (most of the time). Good Luck!!
2007-01-04 01:33:46 · answer #8 · answered by Mum2Boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she sounds like my daughters a pack rat... no i wouldnt stress over it but tell your daughter ok its time to pack your bag for when we go byby tomorrow. then she can do it when your doin dishes or something. shes occupied and so are you... take her out to the car and leave the bag in the car or even by the door then just remind her when your leavin you packed your bag last night its right here or in the car..... if you choose to stick it in the car she might pitch a fit on the way out there but since shes 2 she will probably be intrigued by the idea of havin that packed bag in the car already and want to check it all out..... just an idea for you to try out... best of luck
2007-01-03 20:31:42 · answer #9 · answered by jingles 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just be patient and let her carry the book bag. It gives her security when she is away from home. Home is a special and secure place for her and she likes to have reminders of it to give her security.
2007-01-03 23:01:25 · answer #10 · answered by Teddy Bear 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋