I have fallen in love with my best friend. How It happend is when we first met he liked me and then I started. We were too afraid to make moves on each other but we both knew what we had. Now hes it into other girls and I cant move on. I hate the fact the more he pushes me away I want him more. How can I stop these feelings?
2007-01-03 20:14:47 · 15 answers · asked by Dex's Gal 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We both felt it. He'd treat me diffrently and people have pointed it out me. We used to spen lots of time together and numerouse people ask me if were going out. This 'connection' went on for about 1 year! Also. that is why am posting this question, is to ask how I am suppoed to get out of feeling this way. I realize that I need to stop... thanks for all your answers though!
2007-01-03 20:57:27 · update #1
concentrate on being a friend to him. mingle with other boys. date other men. love yourself. let him go.stop thinking about him. open your eyes. there are other attractive and interesting men out there! be busy.
2007-01-03 20:19:08 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is your best friend, but are you his best friend?
In any case, it was silly of you to keep feelings suppressed for long and suffer. This does not work in love. By doing this one actually shows that he/she does not respect the friendship and does not trust the other person completely. It should have been easy for you to share your feelings with him as he is your best friend.
Anyways, it is not late yet, I think. Go and tell him how you feel about all this. He will be happy to know when you tell him on his face and clearly. Don't let ego or shyness come into your way, have courage. I think he will say yes, but be prepared for a no. If explained clearly and politely, gracefully accept his answer. If he is rude or makes fun of you, don't give him a damn! there are many. But express your feelings as soon as possible. I am sure its not late and you will have positive response. You absolutely have nothing MORE to lose. All the best!
2007-01-04 04:27:28 · answer #2 · answered by Infinite 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always remember that true love could not be forced upon. The fact that he pushes you away seems to indicate that he has no wish to go further in his relationship with you. Since he has moved on, so you must do likewise. You can surely get over this and stop these feelings after you found someone who loves you more. All the best!
2007-01-04 04:21:18 · answer #3 · answered by Alfretz T 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest with yourself did you feel this connection yourself or did he tell you he felt it too... you said you fell in love with your best freind you didnt say you fell in love together how long was it when he started talking to other girls was it years or a few weeks later, meaning he wasnt all that into you from the start. because if it was a actually a soul mate connection there is no way he can go to other girls so easily if in fact it was only you it will be more easier to get over it if you are true to yourself and admit to yourself that it was only you and not the two of you.
sorry sweetie
2007-01-04 04:38:41 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let another moment go by without telling this special person how you feel. Life is way too short to miss out on love. Most loves become your best friend over a long period of time, your ahead of the game. Best of Luck.
2007-01-04 04:18:57 · answer #5 · answered by mike j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
honey you must tell him how u feel. he may be thinking that you are not interested in him in `that` way. or he may be trying to see if you get jealous when he is with other girls. tell him what`s going on in your head. but if it turns out that he doesn`t have the same kind of feelings for you, you will have to be strong and not have contact with him for a while, you will need to rely on your other frinds for support. if he is not interested (you say he pushes you away) you must NOT keep throwing yourself at him. you will really cause yourself a lot of pain doing that. if he does not want you as anything more than a friend, you must accept this and keep your dignity! good luck x
2007-01-04 04:28:33 · answer #6 · answered by splee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I also liked my best friend. Told him...and it was down hill from there. You don't want to ruin your relationship. Just carry on with life, find someone new and never look back. he's clearly not that into you
2007-01-04 04:53:27 · answer #7 · answered by Kandice 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's no way you can stop them, but this happened to me.
I started going out with other guys, I started acting more myself around him, within 2 weeks he started liking me back.
2007-01-04 04:19:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to him..tell him, he is ure best friend and YOU doenst like it when u make other girl friends or u dont like him to be with other girls... dont u stariht say tht u love him.. let it go slowly.. and let him know tht u care for him and tht u just cant stand anyone with him,except YOU.
hope things work out for u .. All the best dear :)
2007-01-04 04:18:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you can't stop these feelings... But you have to face it, he has moved on so stop torturing yourself... Go do your thing and have fun in life... take care..
2007-01-04 04:17:49 · answer #10 · answered by Rain L 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋