i cant help but feeling hurt and mad with him, is this wrong?

Question

i have been with my bf for sum time now and he knows how much i hate livin at home, he knows all about my childhood, things ive not told alot of people, i dont live with my mum, but with my dad, and he knows im unhappy there. i had a miscarriage recently and was very hurt by this, it was unplanned bt i wanted it. recently he has just bought a house with his mate and i dont feel he has any intention of askin me to go and live with him. i just feel so pushed out the way as everything is him and his mate now. and i feel mad cos i shud b with him, not his mate. am i wrong?

Answer 1

How long is "sum time"? Has he ever talked about it with you or promised you two would live together? I wouldn't push him to hard about it. Just ask him if he has given any thought about you moving in with him and see what he says. He might want time in his new place first so give him some space, don't chase him away by hounding him about it. It is not his obligation to take care of you. Try getting a better job and getting your own place to live in, it's a experience everyone should go through to prove to yourself you can take care of yourself and you don't have to rely on anyone else. You'll have fun too.

Answer 2

Drinking anymore than once every 2 weeks is a problem. Getting drunk more than once in 2 months is DEFINITELY a problem. You need to tell him to get some help, or you'll leave him. And from the sounds of it, he could get violent. So do not confront him when it's just the 2 of you, but obviously don't do it in front of a crowd either. He's being an asshole making you feel bad. If he really honestly cared about you the way you deserve to be cared about, he wouldn't do that. Even if he is just acting that way because he's drunk, he needs help. If he won't seek that help, then you have no other choice. You can't waste your life waiting for something that "might" happen. Another thing, you giving him an ultimatum may be the wake up call he needs. If he says he'll change, just take a break from him for a few months. If he sought help, and shows improvement, take him back. If everything stays the same, tell him it just isn't going to work, and leave for good.

Answer 3

No, you shouldn't feel wrong. You expected too much out of him. The truth is the more you rely or think a guy will do the right thing according to you, they go the other way. They don't really think or care. Is is roommate a female, family member, or a friend? I think you should look at this as a lesson in life that has been placed upon you. Remember this, nobody is going to care about you as much as you do yourself. Don't let other people put you down and trust me on this one don't expect for them to make the right choices for you. Yeah you can talk to your bf and tell him you would want to live with him...but what for if it didn't come out of his heart. So, he can tell other people you forced him to, forget it. Look don't keep you hopes up with this guy, and try to make your own life as independent as you can be. You can talk to your bf about being disappointed but don't force it on him. Find a friend of your own and roommate with them if you hate living with your dad. I hope this helps=)

Answer 4

1stly, check with yr gynae to confirm that u're not having depression problem. 'cos depression can leads u to have wrong thoughts. if u have confirmed that u don't have this problem, next thing is to sit down and have a chat with yr BF. Express how u feel abt the whole thing, and listen to his as well. It's important, 'cos it will lead to yr answer. But if u have depression problem, seek professional help and have a good talk with him. Let him know what u're facing, and I belive he'll share it with u. At the beginning stage of depression, u feel loss of security, unwanted, been ignore. How do I know that? 'cos I felt the same too after birth of my son. But I recover fast b'cos of the support from my hubby and when I hold my baby in my arms, I feel.. ahhh... so wonderful and relax. Don't feel sad upon yr lost of child, pray for it to be received by God. Feel happy for it. Cos in heaven, there's a bigger playground for it to play and many wonderful spirits to look after it. 4get abt the past, appreciate what's present and live more happily with it. Or else when u grow old, all u hv is a sad journey tat u've past.

Answer 5

You have a right to feel however you want to feel about his choice to buy a house with his friend and not you; however, by doing so he has made it clear to you that a relationship with you is not his priority.

Don't look for him or any other man to "rescue" you from a situation you are not happy in. Get a job, save money and make plans to move out on your own or with a girlfriend if you are not happy living with your father and think twice about being committed to a guy that is not ready to be committed to you.

Answer 6

talk to him and tell him how you feel in a very calm and rational, I'm-not-nagging-you kind of way.

Don't force things though. Somethings are better left alone.

Answer 7

What do you mean by his mate? I think that you should occasionally bring up the subject but not to be pushy about it.

Answer 8

His mate is a guy? Is he a homosexual? Tell him you would like to move in with him, if you refuse, leave him and move in with me.

Answer 9

no you shouldnt feel like you are wrong. but in his actions he is telling you something loud and clear. how did he react to the miscarrige. that will also tell you something about how he is feeling about you.

Answer 10

maybe u 2should break up he dun like u at all not to care by u!