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Question

Lately, it seems that all my friends are turning from me. For no reason, they just are rude and ignoring me. When I know I haven't done anything, I feel like everyone hates me, like i'm not wanted kinda feeling.I cant get a job, my parents yell at me to go get one and move out, (im only 21, not 40).I see my bestfriend have SO many friends and i'm jealous,ppl luv her, and all I get from my group of friends(other then her)is the often HI.and nothin else. PPL are busy I understand that,maybe I'm asking too much? I like to keep in touch with friends on a reg. basis.I never ask for materialistic things, EVER. All I do everynight is cry,and stay up until 6am.I cant figure out wat im doin wrong.At points id rather not live then live alone. Although of course i want to live and have a great life, but it's seeming impossible, is life throwing me hard balls? or am I doin it to myself. am I overreacting?

These friends lie, and never do anything they say they will, and I get upset over it, because thats one thing that hurts me the most, but it's so repetitive in the last 6 months that I can't take it anymore. And I don't make friends easily b/c I'm shy and I don't open up, b/c I get hurt so much.

Answer 1

hey sweety... making friends is a skill.. some people have it.. some people learn to obtain it. sounds like to me u need to work on ur confidence. if u feel secure with whom u are. shy or not.. people will see this. and are more easly acceptable of u. ur friends? maybie they are tired of hearing how they have hurt u. dont ask anything from them, that u know that will end up in hurt. u sound a bit depressed. loneliness will cause this as it sounds like ur dealing with it. work on ur confidence. have faith in urself. believe in urself. love urself. im sure u heard all this before. and proably sick of it. but there is truth behind this. im one of those people who DO make friends easly. i have friends who sound just like u. i have friends i swear need their face slapped for the stuff they do.. but i love them anyways.. i look at it this way.. if u accept urself for u are.. people will accept u for u. i dont expect much from people.. other than to respect me and be honest. i c honesty is a huge thing with u. im sure lies in ur childhood are the reason for this. when u start to make new friends.. make sure u when u talk about who u r and what u do in life.. u make this point very well understood. right from the beginning.. your parents.. dont know what to tell ya. parents can be just as frustrating as having children... ive been pretty much on my own since i was a teen.. its not a easy world to go and get a shitty job and hope u can find a place to live.. pay for food and etc. yes u r 21.. ur all the leagal adult u can be. your parents are proably sick of having u in the house and want their alone time. its part of growing up and nothing wrong with it.. but i do recommend they have some patience with u.. if they are so hell bend on u getting a job... maybie they can be the ones who should go with u as u go to ur job interviews.. maybie they should go to the job agencies places so they CAN SEE that you ARE trying. most importantly have paitence with urself.. being a adult and living on ur own, dealing with relationships is very stressful.. so dont be so hard on urself.
your gonna be ok... have faith!

Answer 2

A long time ago I added a corollary to the trite ‘Some see the glass ..’ . “Some see the glass as half empty. Some see the glass as half full. I see you’ve got the wrong glass!” Initially, this was just a funny wise-*** remark, but I’ve always remembered it. But now, some 30 years later, the saying has developed a real meaning. Some people go through their life bemoaning what that have lost, wishing for the ‘good old days’ and knowing the best is behind them. Some people go through their life angry about what they haven’t achieved and received, envious of anyone who has a life they always wanted and usually expect they will never ‘make it’. I’ve come to the point that I actually like my ‘glass’. It’s not overflowing, but I’m not thirsty either. I know I’ll spill some along the way, and I can use a smaller glass. I know the universe will provide more than it can hold and I can use a bigger glass. My satisfaction with my life isn’t determined by what I used to have, what I want to have or by what I have today. I’ve had setbacks and downsized my lifestyle. I’ve had good fortunes and lived better. I've loved and left and I've loved and lost. I don’t envy those who have more nor pity those who have less. That doesn’t at all mean that I don’t have compassion for those in need. I do, and I give to the extent I can. Nor does it mean I lack goals to make improvements in my life and others. It does mean that I can allow myself to be happy regardless of my lot in life. It means I cherish memories of the past and learn from them. It means I eagerly look forward to new achievements and work toward those goals. What size is your glass?

Answer 3

You would feel better if you could try to focus on someone else .I think you are taking everything that happens or doesn't happen too personally. When troubles get you down , help another with his problems and soon will find that you feel much better.Volunteer at your local hospital or Big Brothers Big Sisters , or help feed the homeless... this will make you feel proud of yourself and help you meet new people. Some times friends just grow and move on at different paces.You might read some self help books also. My favorite is Dr. Wayne Dyer.."10 Secrets for Success and Inner Peace , also "The Power of Intention". I think both come in an audio version if you don't like to read. Try your local library , they usually have them. Try some positive thinking also, instead of crying til 6 am. try visualizing how you want your life to be, go into detail, see yourself already living that life . During the day try to take steps in the direction of your goal. If you do this , I think you may surprise yourself by seeing what you have invisioned actually happening in your real life. Try it , what have you to lose? Your way of beating yourself up over old friends unattentiveness doesn't seem to be working for you. Now that I think of it, it is at about your age that friends seem to drift apart as they go about striving for their own dreams. I wouldn't take it all so personally, it's just time to make new goals and focus on the future. Set your goals high, and don't be afraid to fail. It is in failed indevers that most new discoveries are made. Be kind to yourself. You are still very young , go for your dreams, the rest of life will fall into place. I have faith in you. So have a little in yourself too, o.k.? Read Dr. Dyer. It will help.

Answer 4

I dont know of anyone who hasnt had these feelings before. Try getting a job and a new set of friends. The job will give you a purpose and the new friends that will come along with the job may be better than what you have now. Just find something to do. all the sitting around is the worst. it gives you too much time to sit around and think the worst. The world aint easy but its not that hard either. Pick a direction and go with it.

Answer 5

hey sweetie! chill man... who has great frnds these days? life is abt living joyfully... find happiness in what u have and not what u r lacking.. at 21 u have lots to concentrate on ure career... remember if u run behind the world they kick u but if u kick the world they run behind u... m sure there is no abnormality in u for which u sud have such less esteem ... balls to the world man.. live life ure way and enjoy it...