I met this girl before uni broke up she had just broke up with her bf of three years. We only had like a couple of weeks before xmas hols and saw each other everyday but she said we should jus be friends now even after sleeping together.
She sleeps with her ex when she was back home but now tells me she realises she only wants me.
What you think I should do?
2007-01-03 19:28:00 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It is a personal choice; you were not in an exclusive relationship with her when she slept with her, even though you had slept with her before the Holidays so she was not "cheating" on you...you were also free to sleep with whomever you wanted, if you wanted to.
If you both want to commit to a relationship now, that is your choice but if you do, she will need to cut off all contact with the ex-boyfriend if there is to be any chance it will work.
2007-01-03 19:38:41 · answer #1 · answered by bottleblondemama 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, if you go back to her you have got to have a brain malfunction. I'm not sure who it was said that you were plan "b" but it's true, I simply couldn't stand being with a girl knowing I was only second pick. Cause what if a month or year or 20 down the line she meets a new guy and I become second pick again. by this time you could be married with children then that evil wench takes half your money, gets child support, kicks you out of the house and you live in a studio apartment trying to make ends meet selling blenders at best buy.
Just stay away and wait for a girl to want you and only you, there are a few of them out there I can guarantee it.
2007-01-03 19:34:42 · answer #2 · answered by P345Ruger 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well mate it really depends on you. If i was in your situation, i would not be cool with her having a bit of her ex when she feels like it. I don't know what she's like as a person but it sounds like she's messing you about.. If she has just come out of a 3 yr realtionship she may still have a lot of feelings for her ex and being with her could cause you a lot of hassle.
Stay friends with her but back off a bit, if she wants you bad enough let her chase you. Go out and find another nice girl around uni without the hassle of an ex in toe. I'm sure theres plenty!!!
2007-01-03 20:18:28 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Get rid of her!!
He is 'NOT' her X if she slept with him after they split.
I would 'never' trust this girl if i were you.
If she can do this to you, there's no telling how many other
guys she's done the same thing to.
Maybe thats why they broke up. Have you ever asked her what happened between them? Maybe he realized she can't keep her legs together (or be trusted).
I really think you should find someone you can trust, cause you
sure can't trust her!! REALLY!!!!!
Any girl/woman who sleeps with a guy then just wants to be friends, has a weird view of sex and relationships.
She may not even consider the two as 'going together'.
Which makes her somewhat of a 'LUSH' thats putting it nicely.
2007-01-03 20:24:27 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
She sound majorly confused! You don't have to though! If you like her enough go for it but also let her know that you are not in the mood to be messed around!
2007-01-03 19:38:51 · answer #5 · answered by colette b 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dump her skanky a s s. It sounds like to me that she wants you to be her school boyfriend and her ex to be her home boyfriend. Hate to break it to ya, but she's playing you.
2007-01-03 19:40:48 · answer #6 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is a situation that will bring you pain and you should end it. Her behavior is inconsistent and probably will continue to be so. There are better women out there.
2007-01-03 19:34:10 · answer #7 · answered by jom 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sleep around with other people too.
Its the only answer that makes sense.
2007-01-03 20:23:54 · answer #8 · answered by Dr Sixpack 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
do whatever you like
you didn't say whether you're in love with her...?
if you aren't, then sleep with her when it suits you
just be careful, if she's the sort who sleeps around, then at least wear a condom...protect yourself
don't get too attached, doesn't look like she is
2007-01-03 20:32:33 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
If she only slept with him once while home....well then consider going out with her but if she slept with him every chance she got, dont bother. Surely when she goes home again she'll be seeing her ex. There's no limit on "just one last time"!
2007-01-03 19:32:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋