One thing I find odd about dating is the whole "being exclusive" thing. My impression of it is if a couple do not agree to be "exclusive" even if they're considered "dating" they can see other people. If that's true, then what's the point of being with someone if you're just going to do what you did when you were single?
If that's not true, please explain.
2007-01-03 19:08:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i thought if you were dating someone then they were the only one. then again ive been out of dating system for a while.
2007-01-03 19:11:52 · answer #1 · answered by vanessaoz 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes it's true....Exclusive means - not being shared. A lot of people think that after going out for a few dates mean the person you've been dating is your bf or gf. In some cases, people do regard dating as really 'dating'. So no strings attached. Isn't that's what 'date' is supposed to mean? And not 'relationship'??So perhaps that's why there is a confusion there......So I guess people decided to clearly state it as 'exclusive' so that there are no misunderstandings!
2007-01-03 19:18:41 · answer #2 · answered by Cookie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's the point? People are so different in their feelings and practices of dating that this is why it's important to verbalize where you stand. Otherwise, somebody is going to get hurt. I've had men tell me on second and third dates that they wanted to be clear that they are "seeing other people." Now, after 2-3 dates, I usually haven't a clue whether this is a man I want to be "exclusive" with, so I might date the guy a couple of more times (without sex involved) to see how it goes.
Here's a hitch about all of this: People jump in the sack so soon after they meet that this throws a whole other monkey wrench into the works. Many people simply have the expectation, without verbalizing anything with their partners, that once they go to bed together, they are "exclusive," monogamous, or whatever. That also is playing with fire.
You need to be clear with your partners about what you want. If you don't want to see other people, let them know. If you want the relationship to be sexually monogamous, for God's sakes, let them know! That one can really bite you on the a** later. ("We never talked about being monogamous!") Do you really want to hear that after finding out that your partner was having sex with other people? If your partner goes out and has sex with other people after you had a discussion about being monogamous, you've got some decisions to make. Decisions about whether to trust this person again, take them back, leave them, get couples counseling, or whatever. But if nobody ever verbalized whether monogamy was part of the game, who you gonna blame?
Non-verbal communication doesn't work. Tell people what you want, what you need. Then you raise the bar. You have expectations of behavioral standards. If we both know we are agreeing on monogamy, I've got something to work with if my partner doesn't hold up his end of the bargain.
It sounds like your general practice is to date one person at a time. That's great that you know this about yourself. It would also be great if you let your partner know it! Good luck.
2007-01-03 19:17:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, seems like these days you have to spell out the obvious. To me, if I am dating someone, I just assume its exclusive. Unless of course you say otherwise.
Being hurt before, you need to state the obvious to save yourself heartache.
Being exclusive means not seeing or dating anyone else. Like you are boyfriend and girlfriend, but say you are not comfortable with the term "boy/girl-friend".
Some people just don't want to be alone. So they have open relationships. That way they can kiss or sleep with whoever they want, whenever they want without any guilt or feeling of cheating. For me, this is just about satisfying physical needs for affection, not being connected to someone.
Sure I've had people tell me they feel a connection with a number of people, but you can only truly be in love with one person. Anyone who says otherwise doesn't care about the person they are with.
2007-01-03 20:06:50 · answer #4 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being exclusive means only dating AND sleeping with 1 person. Some guys and girls date 1 person but screw around with others which is definitely not exclusivity and very dangerous in this day and age
2007-01-03 19:24:29 · answer #5 · answered by Tequila Sheila SA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being exclusive simply means two people are only seeing each other, no one else. If they aren't exclusive with the one they are dating then they are probably dating various other people randomly.
2007-01-03 19:13:46 · answer #6 · answered by Night Wind 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Being Exclusive is used by a dissatisfied member of the relationship. They do not think that their feelings are being reciprocated back to them by the other person and they hope that by labeling the relationship exclusive that will happen for them.
It's a label, nothing more. Relationships are defined by those within them. All are different and personalized. If yours is not what you want it to be, takes steps to change it but more labels won't fix it.
2007-01-03 19:18:12 · answer #7 · answered by caine9174 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are dating then both of you should be exclusive. That's how I work and most other people.
2007-01-03 19:15:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i think once you start dating someone as boyfriend/girlfriend you are exclusive until other wise stated. exclusive- not going out on a date with anyone else. not seeing anyone else. inexclusive- you go on a date with the person every so often, but you date around.
2007-01-03 19:18:32 · answer #9 · answered by So in love. 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
excusive=you're only dating and f*cking them;) . Dating and being non-exclusive, you have someone to call and hang out with etc. but there may be other people on the side...
2007-01-03 19:11:28 · answer #10 · answered by Waiting to Scream* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋