i have been going out with this girl for bout 5 years, we even engaged last year. i was in love with her. but my love for her has now turn from love to care for her.she is really happy to spend her whole life with me and taking care me. but now i met a girl that i really in love with. both of us think that we are made for each others, both of us think that we complete each other.i feel my life will be empty without her. really dunno what to do, or how to tell my girl. both of them love me. i'm now torn between responsibility and happiness
2007-01-03 18:55:23 · 5 answers · asked by lee m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think it would be unfair to your fiance and relatiionship of 5 yrs to pretend you still love her. Marriage is about love...not like and respect. If you don't see her int hat way, you need to tell her the truth. Even if you don't go with the woman you've fallen for, feelings like that you shouldn't get married to someone like that. Itll end in a disaster. Talk to your woman, tell her what you told us. Follow your heart and gut.
2007-01-03 19:01:51 · answer #1 · answered by * Kittles * 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wait a minute. How long have you know this new girl. Are you sure it is not infatuation or lust or just "something new". I would really search my soul before giving up the one you have loved for so long. Also, how did you meet this new girl and fall in love if you are engaged? Have you been cheating on her? The only honest thing to do is take a vacation by yourself....make a list of the pro's and con's of each person (be honest now) and take a long hard look at yourself. Then look 25 years beyond now and make another list and another long hard look at yourself and each relationship. Make your decision, then break it to the "lucky" one that gets to get on with her life without you. Just kidding....this is an important decision that will affect the lives of more than just you so be cautious and good luck with your decision. You will have to live with it.
2007-01-04 03:04:16 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let me ask this, How long have you known the new girl? Could it be that the girl you're engaged to has just become to routine and this new girl has just spiced things up? I would wait to see if it blows over. You may feel you and this other woman are made for each other, but not too long ago you thought the same thing about your fiancee. 5 years is a long time to be with someone just to give up on her. Give it 3 months then ask yourself, would your life be better without her? Also, you really should not commit yourself to a new relationship so fast. For one thing you're engaged to another woman, by the way how does the other woman feel about that>, you need time to find out what you really want and need in your life without other people's influences.
2007-01-04 03:05:05 · answer #3 · answered by LaurenElyse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wuo! man you are in serious problems! i mean first of all im sorry but i just think what your doin is just wrong! i mean your playing with your girl! she really cares about you! and if you actually loved her before....are you sure your gonna be able to live without HER? first think about that before making any desisions ok? if you really feel you love the other girl then i think happiness is in base of love! so go for it! just be very careful on dumping the other girl! she sounds pretty nice...
2007-01-04 03:01:54 · answer #4 · answered by PuNk RoCkEr GuRL 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
make a list of all the things each does all the pros and the cons and u choose in the end hope this help!
2007-01-04 02:59:09 · answer #5 · answered by I'LL LUV RICH BOYS 4 U 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋