ok here is the situation I’m with this girl who I have been going out with off and on for 2 and 1/2 years we used to work at the same place and about a month ago I quit to join the military I asked her to go with me she said no, and the other thing she said once your settled ill think about it her mom is a crack head and abusive toward my girlfriend but my girlfriend is still attached to the umbilical cord and always treats me like **** compared to her family what should I do?
2007-01-03 18:55:05 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
She treats you like crap? Why are you asking what to do? Move on without her, she is abusive. Youve wasted enough time on her. Find a sweet girl.
2007-01-03 18:57:56 · answer #1 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, she seems very vulnerable right now, so maybe breaking up with her NOW isn't the best idea. Ask her straight out if she's being abused and ask if you can do anything to help her. I don't understand how you could be with her (on/off) for 2 and a half years and have her "treat you like ****", maybe ultimately, she cares more about her family than you, and if that's true, then you need to decide for yourself if you still care for HER.
2007-01-03 18:58:40 · answer #2 · answered by The Small Elephant 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you have to ask then you aren't doing her or yourself any favors by staying in the relationship. It sounds like you might need your space from her for awhile. Just know that if you let her go and you regret it, she might not be there later. 2 1/2 years is a long time for you to ask advise from a computer about your life.
2007-01-03 19:07:28 · answer #3 · answered by j.austenluv 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Realize that her family is her family and she has an attachment to them..It all comes down to if you love her..If you really love her then stand by her side and be her statue for support through all of this..She will eventually come to when she see's how some body acts that really loves her..When she realizes the way she deserves to be treated..Don't punish her for the way that her family is..
If you do not love her then by all means move on with your life and do not fill your life with extra drama that you do not need!! This decision only you can answer..It all comes down to how you feel about her...Remember only you have to live with the decisions you make everyday, nobody else will!!
2007-01-03 19:02:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
you have reached a point in your life where it is about you,being in the military is will be hard for you and girlfriend or not you have to give it real shot,who knows what is on the horizon for you! you,no doubt wont see as much of her as you did and this may help you to come to a decision with regards your relationship and it has to be said,,it may be your choice of 'career' that helps you see where your life is heading,give it your all and your choices may suddenly become easier.
2007-01-03 19:01:45 · answer #5 · answered by lex 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well if u feel that u must go u must go but what I would recommend is that u have been going out with her for 2 years are u just going to give up like that shes ur girlfriend man show some respect.
2007-01-03 18:58:38 · answer #6 · answered by Deviance 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she just feels afraid to leave her family in the lurch. Maybe her mom has some kind of hold on her. You'll probably never really know why she won't leave them to go with you. Move on - or else you will just have to wait around until she is ready to move with you.
2007-01-03 19:01:22 · answer #7 · answered by Tequila Sheila SA 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Thank You ... you joined up in war time that takes big ones , as for the girl Id advise you to move on you are going to need to keep your head clear of unneeded drama ... your life and others may depend on it ,you are about to become a bigger man than you know ,QUICK ....THANKS AGAIN
(if you enjoy your freedom ,thank a vet...)
2007-01-03 19:02:25 · answer #8 · answered by SE7EN 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont make such a drastic change like ending it with her. i would talk to her first, tell her how you feel, just be honest. if she loves you then she will understand. and when it comes to her mother, tell her youre only concerned about her best interest and you want her to take the apporiate measure to resolve that. just talk with her and be 100% honest with her, tell her how you feel sparing no details.
2007-01-03 19:02:02 · answer #9 · answered by So in love. 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
grow up. and i really honestly do not understand why she is even with u. u should be happy she wasn't the first one to break up with u
2007-01-03 18:57:16 · answer #10 · answered by jacky 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋