You believe in God, but does not do what He wishes?

Question

I believe that God exists, but I also believe in sex before marriage, which is considered a sin. Is it really a sin? Sex with someone you really love is supposed to be a wonderful thing, before or after marriage.

Answer 1

Here are a few scriptures on the topic:

(Hebrews 13:4) Let marriage be honorable among all, and the marriage bed be without defilement, for God will judge fornicators and adulterers.

(Ephesians 5:3) Let fornication and uncleanness of every sort or greediness not even be mentioned among YOU, just as it befits holy people.

(1 Peter 1:14-16) As obedient children, quit being fashioned according to the desires YOU formerly had in YOUR ignorance, but, in accord with the Holy One who called YOU, do YOU also become holy yourselves in all [YOUR] conduct, because it is written: “YOU must be holy, because I am holy.

(Galatians 5:19-21) Now the works of the flesh are manifest, and they are fornication, uncleanness, loose conduct, idolatry, practice of spiritism, enmities, strife, jealousy, fits of anger, contentions, divisions, sects, envies, drunken bouts, revelries, and things like these. As to these things I am forewarning YOU, the same way as I did forewarn YOU, that those who practice such things will not inherit God’s kingdom.

(1 Corinthians 6:18-20) Flee from fornication. Every other sin that a man may commit is outside his body, but he that practices fornication is sinning against his own body. What! Do YOU not know that the body of YOU people is [the] temple of the holy spirit within YOU, which YOU have from God? Also, YOU do not belong to yourselves, for YOU were bought with a price. By all means, glorify God in the body of YOU people.

Also see: 1 Thessalonians 4:3-8, 1 Corinthians 6:9-11, 1 Corinthians 5:9, Ephesians 5:5, and Colossians 3:5.

The bible makes it clear that God does not approve of premarital sex. He wants us to remain as holy and clean as possible. Sure sex with someone you love is wonderful, but it should be done in accordance to Gods law; after marrige. This is for the protection for the couple and the family arrangement set by God. By keeping with Gods commands you show greater love and respect for Him (1 John 5:3) and He will thereby reward you with many blessings.

Answer 2

Hi,
Yes I also believe that God exists, What is called sin or not it depends on the person / society in which he/she live. God have nothing to do with it. The sex before marriage can not be considered as a Sin. No it is not a sin . Sex is a human need and you can decide with whom you want have and enjoys,
The marriage is not important to have sex.
These are self made rules God had not made any such rules.

Enjoy Life

Answer 3

If god did really wish me to do or not to do certain things then he should have instructed me so !
If someone claims that god did tell them then he should be their god only.
If he cannot come to me then why should I consider him my god ?

Laws governing societal relations ie., relationships in society are the creation of wise humans for the good of the society. In order to establish healthy relations and safeguard the future of mankind that the rules governing sex and marriage are established. Based on their perception and the need of the time different societies around the world have developed their own systems. God has nothing to do with it except for the fact that obedience can be extracted from individuals by putting the fear of god in them.
Sex is a very potent power, and as with any other power if not controlled and used in the right manner can become destructive and threaten the very existence of mankind - a point that the heterosexuals always miss because of being blinded by uncontrolled sexual urge fulfilling which they claim to be their right.

Answer 4

Show me marriage in the Bible? Marriage is a tradition of men, there are many animals that marry for life with out a LAW or rules to go by. Doves and wolves both marry for life. Sex in it's self is not sin, but to want to sleep with every woman or man you see is! If you are committed to one person a piece of paper doesn't matter. You get married to obey the Law of America not God. So you can write off on your taxes. If people truly married God as Christians then the world would be a much better place to live. But as Israel played the harlot in days gone by so are Christians today playing the harlot saying they are God's children and living any way they please. But marriage as we know it today is not really taught, except as a tradition of men. Having sex in the Bible made a man and woman married, not a paper or ceremony

Answer 5

Do you have a reference to premarital sex in the Bible. I have the New International Version and it talks about sex in 56 different areas, but none deal with premarital sex. The Bible says Adultery, which is sex where the other person is married to someone else is a sin. Marriage was a much different concept in Biblical days and I don't think premarital sex is even mentioned.

God Bless!

Answer 6

If you believe in God but don't always do what he wants then you're basically just human.

And there can be the perfect moment with that perfect someone and you are both in that perfect someplace having the perfect feeling. Its still a sin.

But don't worry, he's not going to instantly punish you or hate you or curse everything you do.

But don't push it..

Answer 7

Well I am not a Christian, but if you think about it the Bible says that humans will sin no matter what, so if you are gonna sin, I can't think of a better sin to do.

Answer 8

according to what i've read, sex before marriage is a sin because it defiles the temple of the Holy Spirit, which is your body.

Answer 9

You say "is it really a sin"? Sin is what God defines sin to be. You better find out what God you believe in and then go to the Holy scriptures of that religion and find out what it says. If you say that you believe in God but no specific religion, I would say that you are just making up the rules as you go along and making them up so they'll fit what you want to do. You're, in a sense, creating your own God and your own religion.
As a christian, I can tell you that sex before marraige is a sin in the bible.
If you really love someone, you'll make a commitment to them in marraige. If you aren't willing to make that commitment then I would question whether it's really love as opposed to lust.
When I was in my senior year in high school I had a class called 'contemporary american problems'(cap). It was required for everyone before they graduated. My teacher told us that some of us were soon to be married(since we were all about 17) and many of us would end up in divorce. He said "don't sweat it, you can always get married again and the experience you had the first time around will help you to be a success the next time after all practice makes perfect in anything, just look at all the people who have failed in business 4 or 5 times and eventually became a millionaire". He said you learn how to deal with the opposite sexs' emotions and how to perform sexually. That made all the sense in the world to me and I believed it until I was about in my mid thirties and I started looking at the research and the studies. The divorce rate at that time was close to 60% for someone's first marraige. If my high school teacher was right the divorce rate should go down for the second marriage. After all, you know what you are doing the 2nd time around. Actually the divorce rate for the 2nd time around went up to close to 70%. The divorce rate for the 3rd time around went up to close to 80% and it keeps going up the more times you've been married. I just couldn't understand why that would be. What my high school teacher told me made a lot of sense to me. I had a lot of psychiatrists that I came to know through my job. Finally I decided to start asking them why that was. They all told me the same thing. They said that there are a lot of positive things that you learn in a first marraige but the negatives far out weigh the positives. They said that when you get into any kind of a relationship that is sexual(whether in or outside of marraige) and there is a breakup, one of two things happens: 1) You end up with so much inner anger and bitterness, which is almost impossible to get rid of and you just take that into the next marraige and it ruins that marraige. 2)Some people who have been involved sexually enough times just become hardened and they lose their ability to love and without a real capacity to love, the next marraige still breaks up.
Another eye opener is the statistics for the couples who live together before they get married. That's another thing I was told, namely, that if you live together before you get married you can get some real info on whether this marraige is going to work and therefore have a better chance at it succeeding. That also made all the sense in the world to me. But the statistics don't bear that out either. People who live together before they get married have a much higher divorce rate then people who just get married.
There's a lot of people out there preaching free sex and how wonderful it is and they're lying to you. I would not ignore the scientific studies that have been done on this subject(namely, the one's I've just shared with you). There's an old saying:"Liars have a way of figuring but figures don't lie". Read the bible. It is a great sourcebook on how to live and be happy as well as how to get to heaven. God is not a cosmic killjoy who's sitting up on his cloud and trying to rain on your parade and make you miserable. He knows what will destroy your life and He's trying to steer you away from that.

Answer 10

sex outside of marriage is a long historical fact of life. marrige is just a legal state, and has nothing to do with any religion since it has only to do with civil matters.