I got this girl who I have known for the past 3 years, we are really good friends and once per month we get together and see a movie or go out to dinner. The issue is that she is currently in a relationship with another guy for the past 5 years, and to complicate things further, he was married when they started going out and just finalized his divorce (Or so he says).
They should have gotten married by now, but he kept on putting it off. In addition, a few weeks ago she told me she can't marry him until he gets a better Job because she now realizes by the time he pays his Ex wife Child support they will have no money.
Because she is going out with this guy, I have always kept my feelings about her to myself. I did buy her a ring for her B-Day and a necklace for X-Mass. I think she knows I like her, but because of her Boyfriend she will not express those feelings either.
Do I just wait this thing out and hope they split up, or should I tell her how I truely feel about her?
2007-01-03 18:44:00 · 16 answers · asked by David R 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i think you should say verbally you love her, buying her thinks is just not enough. if u do like her u should have the courage to say it. i guess she was waiting for somebody else togd make her lovelive secure because of her current situation. i think u should say how you feel to her ;p... i am sure somehow she will appreciate it and if she does love you, make her feel secure.. if you fated to be together you will..
2007-01-03 18:51:34 · answer #1 · answered by lizze 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't tell her... or you might make it uncomfortable to keep the friendship going. And don't EVER think you will get stuck into the "just friends" box. We girls don't really have those boxes - most of the time if a girl likes you enough to be a close friend then she is always open to be more than just friends with you - just not at the moment and (sorry but true) maybe never... If you never end up being more than "just friends" - it's because that's all you were going to be in the first place. If a girl likes you, she will make it VERY clear eventually - and heck who knows, she might be feeling really weird herself having feelings for two guys. Either way just be happy to have a good friend.
2016-03-29 07:01:23 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel, but, be prepared that she might actually want to avoid commitment with anyone, ie. she is involved with a married man and after FIVE years she has begun to think she can't marry him because of the support he will have to pay! Think hard about this: do you want someone who so devalues marriage that she is willing to break up a marriage? How faithful to you do you think she will be in the event you become a couple? You sound as though you deserve better than this!
2007-01-03 18:59:54 · answer #3 · answered by jom 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know how u feel. i too have the same problem, the only difference is that i found out she had a boy AFTER i told her that i loved her!!
but i would say if u have a better job than the other guy THEN u can tell it to her! orelse u would just end up lookin like a fool. best of luck. and she maybe waitin for you to tell her that if she likes spendin time wit u than the other guy. does she?
2007-01-03 19:01:34 · answer #4 · answered by mark 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey,
I really think that it is a sad thing even though i'm girl....well, i think you should just tell her how u feel about her now,because she may thing u like her,but she's not sure...and i think when u'll tell her how u feel she will b thinking about it,and she'll b comparing u 2.........and later she'll tell you back some answer,either she likes you or she's really into the other guy..
thats my opinion...
wellgood luck
2007-01-06 04:03:42 · answer #5 · answered by Rina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should tell her the truth, because the split that u r hoping for may never come...plus she shouldn't be hanging around with a married man... and if u tell her ur feelings, then u will either accept what she says or let it bother u. but i would tell her...good luck!
2007-01-03 18:48:49 · answer #6 · answered by lattekiwi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man, does time stop?? NO!! Time leaves, man. You're already balls deep in it you may as well just tell her. be like "You know what? I fcuking want you, okay. We both know that. I know theres feelings from you to me too, cause ive seen the way you look at me.... aight. I can take you and make you happy babe, we can have our own kids (when the time comes) tell me now if you want to be with me and leave him. so that i can just leave right now. because i cant watch you be with him any longer. and i dont want to see you marry anyone else. I wont"
And so on and so forth just tell her so you can stop tripping.
2007-01-03 18:59:58 · answer #7 · answered by rooster 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
What are you thinking? Make a move already! Or, wait until her wedding day and interrupt the ceremony. :/
2007-01-03 18:47:40 · answer #8 · answered by chelow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's now or never. Better do it while you still have the chance or regret what you didn't do for a long time.
2007-01-03 18:50:37 · answer #9 · answered by . 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell her how you feel! Maybe her boyfriend can go back with his wife where he should be.
2007-01-03 18:48:38 · answer #10 · answered by Miss k 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋