My dad went down to florida cause he broke up with his girlfriend. He give me no note that he was leaving. He's back now and sober has been for about 3 weeks. He wants to hang out sometime but i'm not sure. He left for florida 3 years ago and i havent seen him since. What should i do??
2007-01-03 18:34:46 · 14 answers · asked by Suzen Bond 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Wow, that is a really difficult situation. Especially for someone your age. I know you are afraid of Dad up and leaving again therefore you're afraid of opening yourself up and letting him in. I do not blame you either. But lets look at a couple of thing s. Dad is sober now. That is a really good step in the right direction, as he has to get himself together before he could be any good to you or anyone else for that matter. Next, Dad came back and got in touch with you after he got himself together. Parents can be screw ups too, they are human and make mistakes.
The best advice I can give you is to talk with him. Tell him how hurt you were when he left. He will more than likely tell you that he was going through a really rough time, and I'm sure he was until he became sober. But let him know that it is no excuse for what he did to you. Tell him that you're glad he is sober because you want him to be a part of your life. Good Luck to you
2007-01-03 18:46:11 · answer #1 · answered by LaurenElyse 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Respect your parents. Did you ever think that when ever you were in trouble he had been standing along you (of course barring the day he left you) and in case you did something wrong he supported you. Why don't you realize that he requires support and that can be given by a family member only. We should never be selfish but should be helpful and in this case being your father. He may have gone through some rough time and I think you should support him.
2007-01-04 03:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by Tony 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this may be something your dad thinks is nothing to be ashamed of BUT as you do,and you probably want to hear why and what is going on with him and for him to know what it was like for you,if you have things to say to him it may be wise to go,,you do not state you age and if you are a minor i would suggest taking someone as support but if you are able to do it yourself,,,,,he may have nothing of relevance to say and have no reasonable excuse but as you grow up you will likely wonder and these chances where errant fathers are concerned sometimes are few and far between,are you the type of person who knows you want answers? if you are then go,better to look back and say YOU tried rather than never know what could have happened.
2007-01-04 02:46:13 · answer #3 · answered by lex 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear about this situation.
Forgiveness is one of the best things in life but also the hardest.
Try talking to your dad about him leaving. He needs help and you may be able to give it to him.
Be strong through all of this. Remember to focus on the important things in life while helping others. If he leaves again stay strong but remember to not harden your heart.
2007-01-04 02:39:32 · answer #4 · answered by souplane21 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let him come back and if you feels that he is in a better position to talk, then have a good talk with him... Most importantly, tell him that you are disappointed that he left and did not leave a note.
2007-01-04 02:37:48 · answer #5 · answered by aUDREy TTT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've had a lot of problems with my Dad. See him, talk to him. I'm glad I chose to do so .We've worked out some problems and have a much better relationship.
2007-01-04 02:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by Jen 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's your Dad,
It's to hard go and drink a cup of coffee with him?
but every thing depend on your previous relationship with him
2007-01-04 02:48:49 · answer #7 · answered by latina_y_sincera 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Couldn't hurt. Seems to me that he is trying to pick up the pieces of his life; while it might not be so important to you to have a good relationship with him, it might be important to him.
2007-01-04 02:36:43 · answer #8 · answered by John C 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your dad is your dad regardless, so why make things worse. Talk to him and hangout
2007-01-04 02:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
MY father was an alcoholic. GO to alanon meetings they will help you deal with his drinking problems.
2007-01-04 02:37:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋