to many times
2007-01-03 18:23:56 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Either stand by him as a friend..helping him through and making him feel better. I don't see how he is your boyfriend if he has said that though?
If your not the type to have patience to help someone you care about then i suggest you give him his space and time to heal. Otherwise tell him you understand, and you want to be his friend to be there for him when he needs it. Through time he will heal and be ready to commit again and things should fall back into place.
if it were me...id ask him what he really wanted and do my best to respect and follow that.
2007-01-03 18:27:55 · answer #1 · answered by * Kittles * 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only time this is a somewhat acceptable thing to say is if he's just gotten out of a long relationship and you guys got together too soon after that and he's still not over the last girl. If that's the case, if he wants distance, give it to him. Hopefully he'll see what he's missing and want to focus on you more.
If what I just described above is not what happened, then there's no excuse. He is either a really immature guy who thinks he's being romantic when in fact he's just being selfish and afraid of commitment. Or he is using this as an excuse to distance himself from you because he doesn't really care about you. Either way this is not acceptable from your standpoint and you need to move on to better things.
So unless he's just gotten out of a serious relationship and needs time to heal, you need to get rid of him.
Oh and by the way, you can tell him that the reason we get heartbroken so many times is to soften our hearts so that when we meet the one that's truly right for us, we are ready for them and truly appreciate them. If we don't know how bad we've been treated by others, we won't know how good someone is to us either.
Good luck.
2007-01-03 18:32:05 · answer #2 · answered by yishor 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
thatsbullsh*t. if this guy is dating you then he must have decided he had something to give..unless he had it in mind to be in a selfish relationship where only you did all the giving. when you enter a relationship you throw yourself into the fire, it means you're willing to take risks and give a part of yourself. if he's going back on his word now then he's an ass. i mean really, thats just horribly blatently leading you on..tell you he want to be with you but then say he has nothing to give you.love is endless, and so is passion..some people just need to retapp into it.
let this guy know you don't have any intention to hurt him (however be honest and say that it's still a possibility though because in a relationship there's always that chance) but tell him you want to try to make it work..and that you are going to work hard at it..but he needs to be willing to do the same..oterwise..it's a lost cause.
2007-01-03 18:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by luckmess 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him if he has nothing to give then what is he doing in a relationship? He should be finding ways to heal. Sounds more like he is wallowing in self pity.
You can only do so much to help him but he has to want to get over things. If he can't maybe you should move on without him.
2007-01-03 18:26:28 · answer #4 · answered by Dovahkiin 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would kick his ass into reality (like I did my boyfriend and NOW HUSBAND!!!!) He was "heartbroken" as well and now realizes I am the best thing that happened to him and he and I were meant to be together but never would have met one another without his experiences with his past relationships. Don't let him wear you down, and if he does.....he is not worth your time!!!!
2007-01-03 18:29:24 · answer #5 · answered by bubblingbroo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would ask him about it and tell him that I'm the kind of person that only loves wholeheartedly and if not, then I don't lead people on. I would show support, understanding and comfort but if he still refused to be with me, then I'd just get out of the picture if he doesn't want me there.
2007-01-03 18:29:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends. If he said that and then went out and started sleeping with every girl in town(just an expression). Then I would know that he was full of crap. But if he said that and he really meant it,(which would show by his actions), and I really liked him, then I would be paitient and hang in there. But what ever you do take time to really think things through. Good Luck.
2007-01-03 18:27:42 · answer #7 · answered by waltinaw74 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love him he shouldn't have to give anything to you to prove his love to you
But this could be a cheap line to get you to feel sorry for him
I don't know about him, but some guys are like that.
And if he's talking about virginity, think about it first
2007-01-03 18:27:13 · answer #8 · answered by DeAd DiScO 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a male, my interpretation on this statement is that I am not 100% commited to the relationship and i am happy to coast along until something better comes along... Sorry.
2007-01-03 18:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by Lawrence V 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Just say I know....you were a mistake from the start (youre better than that girl! much better)
2007-01-03 18:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋