My uncle just died leaving behind 3 kids. Where is your beloved god?

Question

He died from a heart attack in his beach house. I wasn't close to the man because he lived in a foreign country, but from what I know, he had good and bad just like you and I have. Nevertheless, his 3 children (under 13) are now left without a father. Where is this loving god of yours? Personally, I just know he returned to his state of non-existance as before he died, and although I feel bad for his kids, I know that the universe is cruel without preference without anyone out there that could have prevented this. Where is your god theists? If he expects our devotion, he should at least have the decency not to just apathetically disassociated permitting young children to die.

P.S. My 90 year old great grandmother (my uncles mom) is still alive but doesn't know her son is dead. Is this really fair on her too when she finds out?

Answer 1

Your uncle's untimely and sudden death is very sad. My own mother died just before my seventh birthday.

I choose to believe in God, though honestly I don't think anyone can be absolutely sure. The God in whom I believe, however, is not the "man in the white beard" type.

During a difficult time in my life, a person whom I highly respected recommended the book "When Bad Things Happen to Good People." The author's last name is Kushner. I had heard of the book but dismissed it because it had such a cheesy title. I read it and found a perspective I had never before considered. Though it is written by a rabbi, it doesn't push religion.

The author is the father of a child who died from a disease where he aged rapidly and prematurely, so that at the age of 10 the son had the body of an old man. Because the author has personal experience with suffering, he does not spout platitudes.

Also, I have personally found some of the practices and philosophies of Buddhism to be helpful. You can use the practice without it having to be a religion. Thich Nat Hahn has written some pretty good books, as has Steven Levine. Buddhism acknowledges that pain is part of life, and some of its practices go a long way in transforming pain and suffering, without having to believe in a god, even in Buddha.

If you don't choose to believe in a God, that is totally your right. I am just suggesting that finding a system to deal with pain and suffering that is meaningful to you will enrich your life and make you more resilient. We all have our own paths.

As to your 90 year old grandmother finding out - I hope the decision to tell or to not tell her is done with deep respect and love for whether or not it would be right to tell her. That's a tough one.

Peace to you and your loved ones.

Answer 2

whoever said god has to be kind to everyone? life is not fair. You should be grateful you are still alive and thank god it wasn't you leaving behind three kids. It is unfortunate this happened. I do see what you are saying, but maybe now you can create a relationship between these kids that you otherwise would have never been able to. Again, I am sorry to hear of this! But sadly, this is Life. And no one should ever outlive their children. This will really test your grandmothers strength. Be there for her... she will need it.

Answer 3

I feel for you and your loved ones. Be happy and grateful for the good things he and his family had in his life time. Could he see, hear, live in relative peace, father children, have good employment, have a beach house??? Not everybody can claim having these things. If God is going to be blamed for the unpleasant things in life shouldn't He be thanked and honored for the good things? Was He? Is He? Nobody ever said that this life would be all fun and easy. Look at what happened to the disciples and to Jesus Himself. Words like:rejection, ridiculed, torture, and death all fit. We don't understand all of the ways of God but we do need to trust Him. Hopefully your loved one had a relationship with God and knew that salvation is by Gods grace through faith. If that IS the case, he is in heaven and you can be with him forever if/when you get there. It takes faith..

Answer 4

Our 19 year old son has been missing for over a month, we hope to see him again but have placed him in God's care. If everyone is obeying God's word to love thy neighbor, there will be plenty of people to look after these kids and their father will be in God
's care. However if you wish to spend your life hating God and believing in nothing it is your choice. Certainly we have hard days and it is easy to just lose yourself in anger. Every person I have known in my life has followed the path from life to death so I guess that's good enough for me. And if my son has gone on then he will find others waiting to welcome him. Believe what you want but giving in to sorrow won't make life any easier for you or the 3 kids in need of someone to love and care for them. My aunt lost 7 of 9 children but kept her faith. Being a 'theist' is not for wimps.

Answer 5

It's simple~!
God is HIDING, waiting for people like YOU to Move, and do the work!! Get up from your computer and do the action!
People that you know is already in trouble, better use your head to think how to help them, rather than try to rationalize the mistery of life to make yourself self righteous.

Why you think there's always an answer to satisfy your need?

My action and response, is the only answer about my own life.
That's how i live my life. how bout you?

Who know that by your generousity to your uncle's kids will make them live longer, and they will able to reach their dream and goal in life. And by this lost, they became a better person, who able to handle pressure and keep moving on in life. inspire many many more souls, rather than you who just sitting in front of computer.

Wake UP!

Answer 6

Are you blaming God for killing your uncle?

By your belief system, your uncle has returned to nothingness. So there is no morality in his passing, only acceptance. The 3 survivors are now left to you, unless compassion is also not a part of your belief system. Then off to the orphanage it is. And please, no tears, for in this belief system of yours there is absolutely no need for emotion in an emotionless universe. No divine plan. No hidden meaning in anything. No lesson to be learned. No reason to blame anyone or anything. No reason to hope. No reason to expect anything more.

Actually, in such a universe, I would have to pity....you...

Answer 7

A man goes to a shop, picks up a beautiful cup and says "my god this cup is so beautiful" and suddenly the cup starts talking to the man. The cup starts saying "O man, I am beautiful right now, but what was the state of my being before the pot-maker made me a beautiful pot?

Before I was sheer mud and the pot-maker pulled me out of the mud from the mother earth and I felt why that pot-maker is so cruel, he has separated me from mother earth. I felt a tremendous pain. And the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me and churned me, when I was churned I felt so giddy, so painful, so stressful, I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then he put me into a oven and heated me up, I felt completely burnt. There was tremendous pain and I asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait."

Then he poured hot paint on me and I felt the fume and the pain, I again asked the pot-maker "Why are you so cruel?" and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." Then again he put me into an oven and heated it to make me more strong, I felt life is so painful hence pleaded the pot-maker and the pot-maker said, "Just wait." And after that the pot-maker took me to the mirror and said, "Now look at yourself". And surprisingly I found myself so beautiful.

When god gives us lot of trouble, it appears god is very cruel but we need patience and we have to wait. When bad things happen to good people, they become better and not bitter.

So all difficulties are part of a cosmic design to make us really beautiful. We need patience, we need understanding, we need the commitment to go through in a very calm and wise way. So all difficulties are not to tumble us but to humble us.

With this understanding, let us not be against difficulty. Understand difficulty is a part of a purifying process. A purifying process at present which we cannot understand and hence we need faith and we need trust.

Let us understand how to handle stress with this background. You can be affected by stress from two angles. There is an internal stress and there is an external stress. Nobody can avoid stress; one has to only manage stress. Managing stress can be internal and also external.

The internal stress is; your thoughts can create stress, your values can create stress, and your beliefs can create stress, meaning thereby your stress is coming from your mind more from the outer world. Many people suffer not from heart attack - they suffer from thought-attack.

For example, when somebody says you are an idiot, we get so hurt, we get so victimised. My boss has called me an idiot and I am feeling tremendous pain. Now where does this stress come from? If my boss has called me an idiot, I have to ask myself "am I an idiot"?

If I am an idiot nothing to be upset about; and if I am not an idiot, then also nothing to be upset about! It is the perception of the boss. But why do we suffer from that stress? I suffer not because my boss has called me an idiot but because of the thought-attack.

I may say the boss has called me an idiot; therefore I am suffering? It is true that the words are unpleasant. But what hurts is the interpretation of the unpleasant word. The thought in me interprets. That is pain and therefore it becomes pain. Much of our stress is our mind interpreting it as pain. So we suffer from thought-attack more than heart attack.

Answer 8

Just because bad things happen in this world doesn't mean that God is non-existent. Life is not fair. Life is no fairy tail. This is not our home. Believers in God will have eternal life where there is no despair, grief, etc.

Answer 9

Your uncle died because it was time for him to go.
And you better watch what you say, because you will have to answer to God for every word you say.
Are you still alive? Then Repent while you still can.

Answer 10

No one judges God by what he receives or not receive from God.

If that were the case, God would be your servant.