my bf was like feeling my waist and telling me how good of a figure i have and he was like swaying me side to side gently which i really didnt understand. and then when we hugged he was poking me.. and i was like umm.. and he was like "what?" and he pressed his wood against me. and i lied and said i had to go home. should i have slapped him?
2007-01-03 18:14:28 · 35 answers · asked by ♥♥♫ 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You should of stood your ground and told him that it wasn't appropriate and you didn't like it. Slapping, I don't know how that would help. That isn't my advice for fixing a solution. If you want him to talk to you...again....talk to him about what happened and why you didn't like that. Give him his boundaries and his limits. I'm proud of you for not giving in to his "persuasion" and leaving the situation. However, if you don't tell him what he did wrong he will do it again or itll get worse. I wouldn't use physcal contact (hitting) unless absolute need be.
2007-01-03 18:18:32 · answer #1 · answered by * Kittles * 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
No you shouldn't have slapped him unless he was forcing you, but you were right to lie and say you had to go home, if you weren't ready for that, and it sounds like you weren't. Trying to get a boy to take no for an answer is sometimes next to impossible, so it's better if you can just split. Don't feel bad about it at all, you did the right thing. And now you know what type of advances to expect from him in the future and you can be better prepared to either accept them or avoid them altogether by keeping a two person space between the two of you.
2007-01-03 18:19:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't know your age, how long you have been dating, what you have let him do in the past but I can tell you that slapping a guy is only for the movies. Think about it....what if he slapped you for something you did? Everyone would say he was abusing you. Well, turn it around. If you were not happy with what he was doing, tell him so. I don't understand why you lied to him.
2007-01-03 18:22:50 · answer #3 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe not slap him if he is your boyfriend...
You didn't like it? I think he was trying to get sexual with you.
If you don't like what he does, you should be upfront about it and candidly talk it out. Just saying you have to go makes things really awkward, I think.
Just talk about it with him honestly, and you will both find things that make each other comfortable.
Maybe he might like to be slapped, I don't know. Mention that too.
2007-01-03 18:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
hitting and lying are both really unhealthy for a relationship. don't slap him and don't lie and say you have to go home. if you just lie, he won't know that it bothers you and he might do it again. tell him that you need to talk seriously about your relationship. outline clear boundaries with him and tell him what you feel comfortable with and what isn't okay for you. that's the only way for him to know! a relationship is a learning experience and you both need to be really open for communication.
2007-01-03 19:41:57 · answer #5 · answered by lindseyyy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
LMAO wow um...well i am a guy and I probably woudn't have done that but if i was a girl i probably would have slapped him. It depends though on how long you have been dating and if you have had sex. If you've been goin out for a couple years or even a year and have had sex more than once...then no.
2007-01-03 18:24:22 · answer #6 · answered by mrwrong720 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's your boyfriend, he was just getting a little cheeky. Just make a joke out of it next time. Boys get turned on sometimes by their girlfriend's body. It's nothing terribly serious.Just tell him that you didn't appreciate the wood pressing.
2007-01-03 18:20:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you and your bf need to figure out how intimate you're going to be. If ya'll have done the deed (I would assume by your reaction, you have not), then I'm confused. But if ya'll haven't, just tell him you don't like it, and if he's smart and respectful enough, he'll cut it out. It sounds like a guy who's in to you and was trying to be amorous. I don't know if that's slap worthy.. if you've told him to cut it out before, then yeah. If you've never addressed it and you're dating, then ...maybe. If you've slept together, I'd say you're nuts. I'd also like to add that even though you "lied" and said you had to leave, he got the picture right away.
2007-01-03 18:18:04 · answer #8 · answered by That Guy! 2 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Probably not. It depends on how much you like him.
He was trying to get you to have sex with him if that isn't already obvious to you. If you don't want to just tell him to stop. If he doesn't stop and you don't want to you might HAVE to slap him.
What you did wasn't wrong. It was a good way to stop what was happening without having to hit him.
2007-01-03 18:19:39 · answer #9 · answered by Warren D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you were comfortable and feeling good too, there was no need to do this. But if you are too young, perhaps you can gently tell him that you are not ready still to be intimate.
2007-01-03 18:19:36 · answer #10 · answered by Smriti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋