Body order?

Question

a coleague of mine that I work with.... smelt like She was drinking all night. I did notice it first though not saying anything to her nor other colleagues. Now other companions that we work with are talking about her? Should I say anything? Is there a way she can stop smelling? I have been out on a lot of business functions and can say/vouch for her responsibliness... so AA members please understand my freind is not at that stage. Although that is always her decision. Thanks peeps......

Answer 1

I wouldn't say anything unless you are really, really "best of friends". If not, it is too personal. This is why an office has a Manager. Go to your Manager and give her/him the problem.

Answer 2

Was this a one time situation or on-going? Is she a collegue and a friend? If on-going and a friend, I would suggest a quiet conversation with her. Be tactful and don't mention that "everyone" is talking about it. Ask her if there is anything bothering her that she would like to talk over. Depending on how the conversation goes, tell her you have been concerned because you thought that she might be drinking more lately because you can smell it on her (breath? body?). Tell her that you mention this because you care and don't want her to be embarassed. Hopefully, she will take a long look at herself and determine whether she is an alcoholic or not. If she has that odor, I would say she is. Do not, whatever you do, say that to her. Just be there for her and see if you can help in any way. Good luck. You seem like a caring person.

Answer 3

Pull her aside or take her out to a private lunch and tell her you have some sensitive you'd like to talk to her about. Then TELL her. I have a friend like that and she THINKS she's taken precautions to hide it. But.... Maybe her steps aren't working....

Now personally speaking, I do not have a sense of smell--never have. And I've never been able to smell my own body and have forgotten to use deodorant from time to time. I use it for other's sake.... Not my own. So if I were out there stinkin' on the job.... I think I would appreciate a polite heads up about it---coming from an employee that I liked and trusted. Otherwise, I might get a bit embarrassed about it. And Lord, please don't let someone just blurt it out..."You stink!". I've witnessed people do that before and it really is a demeaning thing to do. And if it were me, I'd be quite upset by it.

Answer 4

I was top of my class in a prestigious university graduate program AND working full time - took my team from 208 to #2 in the country in three years- AND a full bore hard core alcoholic that drank a lot AND everynight.
However, I only went to work once and smelled of booze from the night before.

Maybe YOU shouldn't be the one who decides if "she is at that stage yet" - and simply tell her people who drink normally dont come to work reeking of booze the next day -
I had a lot of really well intentioned people protecting me from the reality of my alcoholism - and despite my love of them, they made me "suffer" a lot longer than I did.

Answer 5

Seriously, learn to write english first! Before you SAY anything!!! Then, try breathmints or gum if she seeks you out individually. If not, let her go and find out for herself. She probably already knows and if not, it will be a good wake up call for her!

Answer 6

There is no way to talk to her without her getting offended.

Maybe wait until after lunch when she smells, then make a comment - "wow, how many did you have at lunch?", or say "man, you should brush those teeth after breakfast. I don't know what you ate..."
She might get the hint.

Answer 7

She probably was drinking all night. Wait a day and see if she airs out.

Answer 8

does she smell like liquer or unwashed

Answer 9

Body odor?
you should tell her before she gets worse.........

Answer 10

She will change or she won't. You can't make her change.