For 6 years now, there is one guy who calls me about every month or so and practically begs for me to date him. I've always quite visibily strung him along.
We are both home for Christmas break from different colleges, and he called me every day for a week or two and finally I met up with him. I really realized I liked him this time, so now I am the one that calls and contacts him and I feel like he's losing interest fast. HELP!
2007-01-03 18:05:04 · 11 answers · asked by Kristin N 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
The same thing is happening to me! I notice that if I don't call him and he finally calls I feel in control and like the ball is in my court. But when I give in and call I feel powerless and vulnerable. I think it's a power game and I am in it to win! I am not going to call anymore (New Years resolution). He will have to catch me if he can. I urge you to try it an see. Good luck!
2007-01-03 18:15:48 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, play hard to get again. He seems to be a guy who likes to do the chasing instead of being chased. If you don't call him he will definitely want to find out why. Maybe he is just giving you some of your own medicine and you not taking the bait will drive him nuts ! Leave him be for a while - a long while - and see what happens.
2007-01-03 18:11:50 · answer #2 · answered by Tequila Sheila SA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes do!It's all about the chasing after a girl for the guys. they enjoy it and get a kick out of it. A girl that is not available is more appealing than a girl that is available. Accept some of his invitations, but others make up excuses like you are going to movies with your friend, you have to do work, you are tired and need time to rest etc.
2007-01-03 18:11:40 · answer #3 · answered by viciousmishious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well I know its hard to maintain that balance between keeping a guy interested and showing interest in a guy, but don't be the one calling him all the time. Let him call you. Call him every once in a while, and show interest in him by asking him questions about himself/his hobbies/his life whenever you do talk to him. Just be patient.
2007-01-03 18:13:18 · answer #4 · answered by Flagstones925 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey sister, here's what worked for me in bagging the best catch of my life:
I focused on being comfortable in my own skin, I set some educational, personal, and career goals for myself (careful not to come off as "self-centered"). I had started this process shortly before he came along, after a string of bad dates and failed connections with other guys (but its not too late for you to start this process now!).
I decided to make myself my #1 priority in the early stages of our relationship (or the "game phase" as I call it), and by doing this made him feel like being with me was being a part of a life that is centered, focused, and driven. All that you'll have going for yourself in pursuing your interests and goals will peak his interest if he has one ounce of maturity. Embellish a little if you have to on your successes, downplay your failures, just don't LIE. Without being rejecting or cold, this gave him the impression that I could proceed on my course with or without him.
We dated for a month and I took a short-term job in another city despite our growing feelings for each other (killed me to do it, by the way). After one month away from him and after endless hours of phone calls (4,000 cell phone minutes burned in a month, never would have happened if I hadn't gone away from him), he was on a plane to Chicago (where I was working) with a gorgeous engagement ring in his pocket. The phone calls were mostly initiated by him but I never missed returning his call.
The distance removed the opportunity for a physical connection and helped me to discover that we connected on all other levels, which is vital if you're gonna last and not hurt one another.
Bottom line: YOU are first priority in your own life until he deems himself worthy of your time, attention, and your dedication. No games, be mature about it, and you will come out on top, even if he doesn't take the bait. If he doesn't come after you, he's not the one for you, trust me! You'll have so many other things going your way that you won't even miss him, and you're making yourself available to meet new folks as you work toward your goals. Probably will meet lots of good dating prospects along the way. Hope my experience helps you out. Good luck!
2007-01-03 18:50:18 · answer #5 · answered by sommerlayne 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play anything, always be honest. You can check easily if he's lost interest: don't contact him anymore. That's not playing hard to get, it's info for yourself if you want to go on with him.
If he only would be interested in you if you are 'playing hard to get', then better ditch him.
2007-01-03 18:33:41 · answer #6 · answered by · 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some guys just like the chase.
2007-01-03 18:08:17 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's worth a try. Guys try harder when women make it clear that they have other things to do than spend time with them.
2007-01-03 18:15:28 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
play hard to get for another 6 years.
2007-01-03 18:58:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
for men the hunt is one of the fun parts.
some don't realize that love is actually fun and falling is the best part
2007-01-03 18:12:41 · answer #10 · answered by frozenthunder 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋