Parent Problems...?

Question

My parents are kind of really strict! i cant do or go anywhere by myself!
I cant even go to my best friends house becuz they live more than 10 min away. One day i let this guy in my class use my cell phone to call his parents becuz they werent there to pick him up, when my mom came i guess she saw him give me back my phone... so she walks up to him and says "Get away from my daughter!" i was sooo mad! Then my parents waht me to open up tp them and tell them about my problems and stuff, but how can i even do that? becuz the problem is them, then wont let me do n e thing! i mean its not like i get bad grades, and they r always telling me how responsible i am! so why wont then trust me, i even asked them that but they are like " its not you i dont trust, its them" and yes i know they r protecting me and they love me but*sigh* its kind of annoying i mean they read my text messages,and if my phone rings they must know who it is. i mean im only 14 but i cant d8 till im 25!

so i try not to get huge crushes on guys and stuff becuz it always just ends up hurting me in the end cuz if i liked a guy abd he liked me, i couldnt date him anyway! this kind of crap gets me upset.
I have only one frend ( all the resto of them ditched me cuz i couldnt go to there parties ) and i think my one frend is getting sick of not being able to go to the mall or n e thing w/ me, she thinks i should run away! lol i dont think so, i may be fed up... but not THAT fed up.
but u know i love my parents, and i dont know how to tell them that that they are making me upset! i guess thats why i like school (sorta) becuz my parents arent there to WATCH over me every seccond of every class. and i get to spend time w/ my friend, but still its SCHOOL but i better not complain cuz school is the only freedom im getting here.

Answer 1

I can relate to you because my my mum is like this. She even says the same thing, " its not you i dont trust, its them." I used to have so many arguments with my mum and slowly i learnt that this is the worst way of sorting it out. The only thing you can really do is listen to you parents. It will take a while for them to start letting you go out more but this is the only way to do it really. Your parents have their own values that they have learnt from their own lives. You just have to learn to trust them and they will see this. It may be hard for them to accept that you are growing up. Also you should try to talk to them seriously. You should explain to them that you understand and agree that you should not be going out constantly as it is not safe etc etc however you feel that you should be let out say twice a month? (set a low number at first so that both you and you're parents are happy) Mention to them that you are losing friends because you never get to see them. Hopefully you will find a balance. Make it seem like they have some control over this aswell. So ask them what time you have to be home by and where you are allowed and arent allowed to go. Good Luck! :)

Answer 2

If i were you i would ask first of all to have a family conversation and bring in the talking stick idea so that only the person with it can talk and then tell them " you know mom and dad i am getting to the stage in my life were i need my privacy and a bit more freedom. And if you never let me protect myself and learn some things for myself i will truly never be able to get along the way i should when i finaly get to the real world. and you guys know that trust is the most important part for my future relationships. And if you really want to protect me from certain things you need to give me my space and freedom now so i can understand things better and so that i can expirience all the things that i need to now while i still have the supoport i need at home."

Answer 3

I would sit down with your mom and dad and talk to them. There's a difference between protecting your children and being "overly" strict....my mom made me call her every on the hour to "report in" where I was even when I was 18....it ruined our relationship because she had such great trust issues (and I honestly spent more time home then anywhere because I was too embarrassed to go anywhere!). So definitely sit down and talk with your mom and dad. Good luck!!

Answer 4

wow your parents r really strict
my aunt is 14 and her parents are like that to
im only 13 and my mother lets me go across town at night to see some of my friends by myself,she even let me stay a whole week at my friend house which is a boy(nothing happend,we just close friends)anyway u just gotta tell them to stop treating you like a child
thats what i would do
sometimes i wish my mother was a lil strict it is fun to break rules sometimes

Answer 5

LOOK time moves fast. ITS not you they dont trust. ITS the world. TRUSt me its worse then when i went to school 10 years ago. LISTEN to your parents.GET your education. GEt a great job. SUPPORT your self and move out in due season. good luck.