At what age should adults married or not cease to be intimate?

Question

i had a few of friends over (ages 21 -27) and one of them brought up the fact that they accidently walked in on their parents (age 50+) being intimate and it sparked a discussion some thought that their parents had ceased 'the act' years ago, some felt they should have ceased 'doing it' years ago and some didn't really care and some thought it was great their parents were still attracted to each other after so many years but still didn't want to walk in on 'it'...my question is two part...at what age do you think your parents stopped 'doing it'...and/or what age do you think they SHOULD stop?

diamond...did you not read it some felt it was great some didn't not all were saying it was a bad thing and too i asked what YOU thought not your bashing of what others thought...don't answer it if you can't at least read the question.

PEOPLE - read the damn question ! i didn't say i thought they should stop, i didn't say all my friends said they should stop...I ASKED what age do you think they stopped (whether its true or not) and what age do you think they should stop. geez, most of you just jump right in with your verbal attacks and don't even think ! TY is the only one that answered it honestly and correctly....

TY - thanks for your honest response, i think that is the way most ppl think, they know it happens but don't want to know. my cousin swore her parents never touched each other that way (and they were 30!) of course the reality hit when she learned she had a new baby brother on the way...she still wanted to believe it didn't happen 'that way' !

MEGHAN - if you thought it was a ignorant question then why did you go on and rant about it? ignorance ?

THE REASON I REFERRED TO IT AS 'THE ACT' IS BECAUSE YAHOO BANS SOME REFERENCES TO SEX AND I DIDN'T WANT SOME IMMATURE IDIOTS LIKE SOME WHO HAVE POSTED HERE TO TAKE THIS AS A SEXUAL QUESTION ITS ABOUT INTIMACY AND MANY OF YOU DIDN'T EVEN READ IT - YOU JUST STARTED MOUTHING OFF WITHOUT EVEN THINKING...FOR GOD'S SAKE IT WAS A SIMPLE QUESTION, I WAS NOT MAKING ANY MORAL JUDGMENTS ABOUT OLDER PPL HAVING SEX...SOME OF YOU ARE IN NEED OF SOME SERIOUS COMPREHENSION LESSONS OR PSYCHOLOGICAL HELP...

Answer 1

Oh, my parents don't actually have sex. Every young and grown child believes that. Logically, I know they do, but I'm in denial. And no one realistically SHOULD stop having sex, simply because they're old! Old people do have sex. But I don't like to think about that, so I pretend that they sit around and knit or whatever.

Those viagra commercials with old people creep me the hell out. Before they came out with heating KY (I work at a pharmacy), I could just pretend all the elderly people buying it were buying it because they were dry in their old age, and not actually gonna have sex with it. But now the old people come up to my counter with the warming KY and there's nothing else that is for than sex! And that's gross. Thanks grandpa, for making me imagine your wrinkly self having sex with granny who's vag is probably all droopy and dry as sandpaper :P

Answer 2

I think that is up to the couple. If they still have the love and the energy at 90, why not. Do you or your friends really think that making love is just for the young? If your friend's parents are 50, I would think your friend is probably old enough not to be living at home. If that is the case, she should not just "walk in" to their house. She should ring the bell or better yet, call first. That is what is so great about the times after raising the kids, you can "do it" anytime because there is no one there to interrupt.

By the way, the basis for a good relationship is friendship, love and intimacy...not all intimacy means intercourse of the body.

Answer 3

i read it and understand exactly what you're talking about...i can't understand why some of the others on here are being so rude but hey thats their problem, just ignore the idiots. : )
and thanks for wording your question respectfully, why anyone thought you were making fun of or saying older ppl ought not to have sex is incredible. anyway, to answer your question, i think most young people know their parents are still intimate but there is a built in mental block that pops up mainly because they are your parents. i am 51 and have been married for close to 30 yrs. and yes we are still intimate, it changes though from the 'wild' younger years but its still there...my parents are 71 and 75 i am sure they don't 'do it' anymore...or thats what i tell myself anyway...that darned old mental block. your discussion with your friends is normal and natural and you obviously don't think anything is wrong with that so don't let those who verbally jumped on you get to you....who knows why some do that. i think your question was a good one and helps others to see how others think and most importantly lets others see that the older you get doesn't necessarily mean you have to give up everything....good luck and thanks

Answer 4

Sex has no age, Healthy sex among couples will continue until end of their life. That is why couple are known as life partners and though women have periods and cycles there is not such thing in men and their testoverane is their whole through their life time and the desire / drive for sex is also there. Just think this way do you think that old people should not eat or sleep ? sex is also similar and cannot be abstained due to age. Hope this answers your question . All the best.

Answer 5

My mom is 67 and has a new boyfriend who is 71. They met dancing some time ago, they are really really good dancers and she especially loves the hot latin dances with him. Recently they took their relationship 'to the next level'. I applaud this and think it's great that they make each other happy... But had to explain to her that all children believe their parents stopped having sex when they were born and that I don't want to hear about her sex life!
You should NEVER stop having sex.

Answer 6

It's funny how we all picture ourselves as being 'macho' or having a high libido well into our elderly years.

But it's entirely different when we think about our parents 'doing it.'

Trust me, my sex life has changed in the past 29 years of marriage. Now I have sex a lot more often. The kids are older, and don't knock on my door every 5 seconds...THANK GOD!

Sex is much better now than it ever was at 27.

Answer 7

There is no such thing. No such age.
The time people should stop being intimate with each other is if they ever decide they don't wish to anymore. Thats it.

No-one elses opinions, morals or values should influence a couple on this matter either. If you love someone, and you still love them when you and they are in their 80's, who's business is it if you are still able and willing to make love? No-one elses' but your own.

That's all there is to it. It's fantastic if they're still that intimate. More power to them.

For the first time, everyone elses answer agrees with mine LOL.

Answer 8

me and my friends had this exact same discussion and we're in our 30's ! what started it was that seinfield episode where jerry or george walked in on their parents...its not a stupid question, i think its a great one, makes ppl stop and think about how they view their parents and grandparents...they are still human after all...but sometimes even at my age its hard to separate them from being your parents and being adults with needs and wants...don't let rude and nasty ppl stop you from asking questions, they're usually just jealous. i looked at some of your other ones and they are some of the most interesting on here. you go girl !

Answer 9

I'm 70 and I still do "it", and still enjoy it. My wife is 61 and we have a lot of fun together, having sex and as well as just holding hands. I'm curious that someone would feel they had control over their parents by thinking what their parents "should" do or not do. How about when parents tell their kids they "shouldn't" have sex until marriage...or some nonsense like that? I know couples in their 80s that still enjoy sex. Remember, sex is mostly an attitude of mind. How about the times you haven't been able to get it up? Was it age or mental impairment?

Answer 10

My parents have not stopped "doing it". I do not believe that anyone, at any age should ever stop making love. It is the one thing that a couple share with one another and no one else. Usually anyway, or at least I would like to believe so.....I do not think there is an age to stop, unless their are strict rules from a doctor to stop due to heart attack or something.