my father hates my sisters husband?

Question

My sister has been married for 6years
my father his hates him, he calls him ******.
and alot of other nasty names in front of their 5yrold son.
My sister is 29 and hates that my dad acts like this.
On thanksgiving my dad accutly threatend to slit his throat and than smashed him in the head with a beer bottle.
Last year he put a onion in my brother in-laws sandwich knowing they make him violently ill. He has hit him with a baseball bat in front of my newphew also.
He teaches my newphew to call his father a fudge packer and other gay slurs. I dont understand Matthew(my brother in-Law)
is always so nice to my father. He has gave my sister a wonderful life and treats all women with the best respect. But my father still hates him.

What should i do to make my father stop.

i dont want my dad put in prison.
my sister obv doesnt want it ethier cause they have never took police action.

i just want my dad to accept my brother in law.

Answer 1

call the FBI on your dad, and tell them you overheard him talking about killing 4 girls and violently raping them & that he tried to bomb u school
goodluck sweetie!!

Answer 2

Sorry to say happy to help wasn't too helpful by calling you a fool. Sometimes these situations occur and they are beyond your control and the best you can do is your best in the given situation. Ask yourself "Do I love my husband and are we both willing to make a family unit together?" It is not easy to raise a child on your own. Try not to allow your feelings for your sisters and their feelings for you to cloud your judgement. Perhaps they don't like the thought of losing their brother. He looks after his sisters because he is close to them and although you resent this because of the way they are with you, that will only add fuel to the fire. It is important to show respect for their relationship and set the example so you aren't pulled into behaving in the same manner as they are. inside yourself are the answers to truth and what will be the best. Listen to that and you can get through the situation. All the best to you and your beautiful baby.

Answer 3

I don't think you should do anything. Your sister clearly needs to stand tough and spell out to your father what will happen if he continues to act like an idiot. I realize your father doesn't like her daughter's husband, but that doesn't mean he needs to act like that.

Personally if I were your sister, I'd say knock it off, otherwise you won't be seeing me, or your grandson anymore. If he continues, then she needs to carry through with the threat of not attending family functions.

If the other family members have a problem with her doing so, tough. Maybe they should put pressure on dear ole' dad to wise up and keep his mouth shut. I feel bad for your family in terms of your dad acting that way. Certainly your brother in law shouldn't have to put up with such abusive behavior. Someone should also point out what a poor example your dad is setting for his grandson.

Answer 4

well you can oviously see that somethings going on between to 2 and it might be beyond what you know,so maybe talking to your sister to see what the problem is and maybe tell your father that there is a child involved and he should not act so childish around him.
Most people say that if a child grows up around that kind of behavior then he will turn out to be the same or the opposite so whenever you have a chance get the child out of there...when they are fighting you should say hey lets go play a game so he doesnt hear whats going on...and for your dad telling him to call his dad names,reasure him that he shouldnt say things like that...try the best you can to not get the child involved.


best wishes,hopes,and dreams
...♥Krissi

Answer 5

Your dad's behavior is definitely not normal. My suggestion is to consult a psychologist or psychiatrist about getting help for your father, because he sounds as though he is in need of serious therapy. If your father has actually taken action to harm your brother-in-law physically, and is teaching his grandson to be abusive to his own father, then he has some serious issues that need to be resolved.

Answer 6

Maybe your Borther in-law should just stay away from your dad, and keep his son away too. Until he can learn to respect him and your sister should do the same. Its not right that your dad is telling
your newphew to call his dad these bad name,your sister needs to step in and put her foot down by not going over to your dads house.

Answer 7

Your Dad needs help, like yesterday, good heavens....Your brother in law should stay away, he will never win him over so for everyones sake he should stay away, that poor child! There is nothing you can do with a man like that. Tell your sister also stand by her husband, move if they have too.

Answer 8

Are you going to wait to get the police in until someone is dead?
If this is true why cannot you face the fact that your fathers behavior is criminal.Your brother in law should have laid charges against him.DAD WON'T STOP UNTIL YOU RING 911.

Answer 9

Can you prevent them seeing each other? Talk with the younger guy and tell him not to be around your father maybe?. And your father does not seem like in good health. Maybe he's having a depression? Can you take him to a doctor? You should find someone whom your father would listen his advice.

Answer 10

Try to find out the reason, that why ur father hates ur brother in law.It is very important to know the reason of his hatred towards him.If possible speak good things about ur brother in law in front of ur dad.May be ur father will be knowing something bad about ur sisters husband try to find it out.It is tough.still all the best.

Answer 11

wow that really sucks! i think ur dad should go 2 some sort of therapy or something like that because that doesnt sound good at all! poor mathew!