Alright my family has been through so much and dealing with my younger sister is reaching its breaking point. Ever since she turned thirteen she's been nothing but trouble to the family. She has a job and a boyfriend that she's been with since she was twelve and he's two years older then her. Right now she's threatening to runaway and not tell anyone where's she's going because she's tired of us. She's not even home right now. Everyone is exhausted from trying to help her and my parents feel that they should call the police and let them deal with her. I've tried over and over again to talk to her and nothing is getting through to her. I know this is vauge, but this has been going on since 2003 and there is too much to explain. I'm 18 now and I never went through this and I try to understand her, but I feel like nothing I do will work. Anybody have any suggestions on what to do or how to get through to her?
2007-01-03 17:46:44 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yea we've tried counseling and she didn't want to to talk. It was bereavement counseling because our brother was murdered in 2003 and thats when this all started. We've left her alone, given her love, include her in family discussions and such, but in the end she acts like we don't matter.
2007-01-03 17:58:45 · update #1
My mom is scared to let her go because she's a female and there are so many things that happen to girls out there. She's really into her boyfriend and he doesn't help the situation at all. She's not into drugs or drinking just causing chaos.
2007-01-03 18:02:27 · update #2
she's discovering life and she had something tragic happen to her and she doesnt know how to deal with it all it may feel like its not true that hes gone but as hard as it is she needs to understand that the best thing to do is deal with this horrible event but even though you all sad and horrible that this happend she may feel that either this was her falt,or that she may have been really close to him so this was like losing half of her and if you guys didnt get to say goodbye well we all know that people feel like they should have done something to save him of at least been there to help or say the last words but, try to just let go of the situation for a while and have fun with her because with all of this happening(doctors,police) she probaly hasnt had fun in about 4 years so she just needs her sister to be there and as much as you try to talk to her it just wont get through right now and knowing that she is now 16 she probaly hasnt had the pleasure of creating here sweet 16 so even if you didnt have one try to do something special for her and when the time is right to talk about the situation then maybe you will get through to her i know that you and your family love her very much but maybe you are the only one that can really help...BUT WHATEVER YOU DO DONT GIVE UP!!
2007-01-03 20:27:37 · answer #1 · answered by BrOkEn_LuLLabY...♥ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I see you mentioned all the bad things she does but does she ever do anything right, and she probally is hearing it the way I am seeing it you are the perfect kid with no problems and she gives heart ache to the family, she feels she does not fit in does your family include her anything. Seek professional help, before she runs away and does not ever return rather talking to a school counselor. Just get help, so much negative where is the positive such as her having her a job handling her business.
2007-01-04 01:54:57 · answer #2 · answered by just curious 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother was a hellion... i'm a couple years younger then him and he was into every drug imaginable and there was nothing we could do to help him. I was ready to leave the house because he'd beat me up and he'd be mentally and physically abusive on all of us.. we were so stressed out. Then my parents kicked him out, and that helped a bit but he always called for money .. and finally they said no and he snapped and didn't talk to us for quite a few months.. but then he called.. he quit smoking and quit drugs.. and he said that us cutting him off and kicking him out was the best thing that we could have done.. because he learnt the hard way..
He slept on the streets, he went days without food.. and it killed my mom inside not to know where he was, god knows we shed many tears over him.. but they have to learn. He got a taste of the real world and he couldn't afford his drugs or his bad attitude.. he had to change for the better.
Let your sister go. She needs to know her threats are naive and ridiculous.. she needs to grow up. And it's scary to let go.. even to push them out.. but its all you can do.
Just so you know.. we've placed him in rehab and had him in councelling to... he just rebelled more. You shouldn't force anything onto them.. it wont work.. especially with a 16 year old teenage girl ( i'm 17) when someone tells you what to do.. it makes you want to do the opposite
2007-01-04 01:57:03 · answer #3 · answered by Totallylost 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well definetly give her space, dont mention it to her, dont bug her, question her, discipline her or anything dont ignore her though if she wants to talk she will... if after a week or 2 opf this and shes persists with that behavior, send her to a counselor or worst comes to worst a rehab center on runaway watch or boarding school/military school
2007-01-04 01:55:56 · answer #4 · answered by juicycouture911chanel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its the death of her brother thats making her this way she is so young and confused and doesnt know how to handle this problem and it wont go away over night.Let her know u will be there if she needs to talk.
2007-01-04 02:11:44 · answer #5 · answered by wildpalomino 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pour out your love on her. Listen to her. Respect her. Love her. Ask Jesus into your heart, and let Him guide you and your family. Put God first, and everything else will just fall into place. He does the work for us! Praise God!
2007-01-04 01:51:31 · answer #6 · answered by selah 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Deeply sorry about your brother,Give her a present that represents him and tell her you love her.The little things can last forever.
2007-01-04 03:03:41 · answer #7 · answered by JACK 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋