i am arranged to be married in 2 months, to man my parents pick for me, my parents had party to celebrate.. my fiancee was dance with me and he kissed me with tongue and on my neck and was touching my sides close to my breast. i am very attraced to him but made me feel strange. is it ok for him to do this before we marry? my mother says anything he wants except sex before marriage is ok.
2007-01-03 17:39:34 · 23 answers · asked by ♥♥indian.princess 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
It is ok for you to kiss before marriage. You were probably just nervous, that is why you felt weird. You should not move on to anything besides kissing, though. But, it sounds like he did not really do anything else. His hands may have been near, but they were not ON, so it was fine. Just don't do anything more. Your wedding night will be here soon enough and then you can do whatever you want! *wink*wink*
2007-01-03 17:42:35 · answer #1 · answered by bashnick 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Your mother is not quite correct. It is ok for him to do these things if it is ok with you. Your feelings may have been your hormones releasing the feelings due to his touch and your attraction. But, if you are uncomfortable with his advances, you must tell him. Because it is an arranged marriage, I feel that perhaps you do not know him very well. Explain to him that you need to get to know him better, that you are attracted to him and looking forward to the marriage but could he slow down his physical affection for you. I hope you have a happy married life.
2007-01-03 17:46:22 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
What do YOU want? If you feel uncomfortable, don't do it. You don't want to resent your future husband or have regrets 2 months before the wedding.
I suggest you wait it out until you are married, so you have some time to think and prepare.
If you change your mind, you can also change your actions. But I suggest you wait until you are married. I think this has the least chance of regrets.
2007-01-03 20:49:33 · answer #3 · answered by reginachick22 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
nicely, any sex outdoors of marriage is a sin. the priority is that even as anal sex easily isn't sexual pastime, it truly is for sure a sort of sex. also, the priority is society tries to contextualize sex as a thanks to commence drawing limitations as to what extremely is and is not. i have heard someone say that "oral sex is the recent 'goodnight kiss'." once you're a Christian, any style of sexuality is a sin earlier marriage. Even petting or masturbation falls lower than this kind.
2016-12-01 19:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by gagliano 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen to your mother, she should know. If you ask me, I think sex and everything else before marriage is just fine. There's nothing so special about any of this stuff that it would have to be "saved" for later.
2007-01-03 17:52:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree with mom no sex before marriage but if u feel strange tell him to stop kissing ur breas tand slobbing all over them and wait till the wedding night. if he cant wait then tell him to find someone else. cause hes not for you....
2007-01-04 12:08:53 · answer #6 · answered by Love<3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wait until your married. It's only 2 months and then you have the rest of your lives. Don't spoil it.
2007-01-03 17:49:20 · answer #7 · answered by songndance1999 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think this muh of lience is ok. but dont go beyond this you have full life to do all that things. Be in your limits you will enjoy this relationship
2007-01-03 18:32:59 · answer #8 · answered by Sujal 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anything goes short of sex. But if this includes something that makes you uncomfortable, tell him, say no, and he "should" respect that if he loves you.
2007-01-03 18:26:14 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally it is mostly your decision but my beleif on the matter is you only have two months to go i would save as much as you can for your wedding night...Make it extremely special.
2007-01-03 17:42:30 · answer #10 · answered by Cyrus The Great 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋