my boyfriend and I have been dating for almost 2 years, and have talked about getting married many times. We would be getting married sometime in the next 2 to 3 years. Yet there is still no ring or proposal. In August of last year, while he was away, a friend of mine who was getting married that month asked me to go with her to pick up some last minute items at the bridal shop. I went with her, and ended up trying on dresses. I found one I liked, and went ahead and bought it. Have I jinxed my wedding?
2007-01-03 17:29:38 · 25 answers · asked by gidget2523 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
P.S. He doesn't know about the dress.
2007-01-03 17:32:37 · update #1
the reason we are waiting so long is because we are both still in college, and he graduates in about a year and a half, and has said he wants to get a good job before we get married.
2007-01-03 17:57:02 · update #2
If it's "the dress" why not? If I were you I wouldn't mention the dress just yet
2007-01-04 15:00:11 · answer #1 · answered by Kati B 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you didn't jinx it, but I think buying a dress this far in advance was a bit hasty. For example, what if you don't get married for another 3 years, fashions and styles for gowns change every season, so the dress that you have bought may look a little dated by then, unless it is very plain and classic in style.
2007-01-03 19:59:57 · answer #2 · answered by sparkleythings_4you 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Short answer, no I don't think you did. However, you may have jumped the gun in terms of buying the dress. It sounds like you don't know for sure that is what your boyfriend wants. He may (and I'm not sure here because I don't know him) be upset that you bought the dress assuming the two of you were going to get married.
I certainly wouldn't tell him about it now as it may scare him off. If you guys do get married at some point, I think your going to have to level with him though.
2007-01-03 17:39:07 · answer #3 · answered by milwaukiedave 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you didnt and dont buy in to any of that Hocus Pocus VooDoo
stuff. If any thing you might wanna ask why do you have to date for so long, 2 years and then maybe in 2-3 years might get married....Ummmm whats the hold up? If you both know that you are ment to be together your his Mrs. Right and he your Mr.Right why the long wait? Why wait 4 or 5 years before you get to say " I DO "
2007-01-03 17:54:22 · answer #4 · answered by Porcelain Doll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. If this man loves you, no silly superstitious belief will stop or delay a proposal.. Focus on the real issues on your relationship, perhaps all these thoughts and distractions are really the cause of your dillemma. It's like the hypochondriac who spends all their time worrying and fretting over nothing. The worrying and anguish will inevitably be the weakening factor in that person's mind and body. Myths have been around for thousands of years, they are tales and nothing more. Relax, love your boyfriend and do the things you know make him love you more. You will see a ring on your finger soon.
2007-01-03 17:38:53 · answer #5 · answered by Rock, Paper, Scissors 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would keep the dress at your mother's house and not say a word about it! You haven't jinxed anything. Just relax and breathe. This is just a classic case of don't ask don't tell. You will become more clear on this concept after you get married.
2007-01-03 18:39:19 · answer #6 · answered by Julia B 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that you have. My boyfriend and I have been together for 2 years as well. We have talked about our life together in the future and also talked about marriage and he knows that I want to marry him but I also made it clear to him that I would want him to ask my dad for my hand in marriage before he proposed to me. That is something that is dear to me. I am still waiting for a proposal and a ring. I will just wait for the right time for him because when he is ready he will do it.
Good Luck!
2007-01-03 20:33:09 · answer #7 · answered by Renee B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wont say you jinxed it but you definitely jumped the gun. keep it and dont say anything until you are engaged. i have been engaged 5 years and still dont have a date set let alone look for a dress! if you love the dress, great!! thats all that matters
2007-01-03 17:32:12 · answer #8 · answered by sammi girls mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Jinxes" are for people who believe in stupid superstitions.
So--- jinxing? No. But I DO think you are TOTALLY jumping the gun and are going to regret this purchase. Few people marry their high school or college boyfriends.
2007-01-03 18:59:39 · answer #9 · answered by Etiquette Gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not jinxed, but it was kind of stupid. what if you cant even fit into it by teh time of the wedding? what if styles change and you dont like it anymore? what if you havent stored it proberly and it starts to yellow? it needs to be boxed to keep from turning and thats pretty expensive. I think you just threw your money away. sell it on ebay while you still can.
2007-01-04 02:24:23 · answer #10 · answered by Jenn ♥Cadence Jade's mum♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was not a smart thing to do, not because of a jinx or anything, but because of your mental health. It will hang there as a reminder of what may not be coming.
2007-01-04 00:37:02 · answer #11 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋