I took my son to 7-11 before dinner to get a Slurpee. I got a bigger Slurpee than he did. We went for a walk with our Slurpees and he got to the bottom of his, and he wants more, he complains "you got the bigger one" , then says "You got all that and I didn't get squat". Note, we bought the licorice candy straw. I got pissed and slapped his 1/3 full Slurpee cup on the ground, which splashed up on his clothes.
How would you deal with this differently?
2007-01-03 17:29:08 · 33 answers · asked by Thurston Howell III 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I gave him the rest of mine because I knew I hurt his feelings. And I do feel bad about it and I apologized to him for being mean, but man has he been lippy lately.
2007-01-03 17:49:51 · update #1
Yes, you were mean. I would have told him that it's because I'm bigger,. I would have also tolld him right up front to take it easy on it, because he wasn't going to get any more,once he was done with his, he was done altogether.
2007-01-03 17:35:19 · answer #1 · answered by sweetgurl13069 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay I can't stop laughing.
Why? A few reasons. I didn't look at the answers and I know people are freaking out over you being terribly cruel or something.
Honestly, well.... that taught him eh? He's a kid. He has no right to say you got something more. Especially when YOU got it for him. Some kids somehow get the idea that they should get exactally what others get. It looks like he's starting to learn he doesn't and it isn't making him happy.
But the other reason I laughed, I did the same thing to my 9 year old cousin just a few weeks ago. If they aren't going to be grateful, then they don't need it eh?
If he had asked nicely for some of yours, sharing would have been right. But he was a smart mouth, and un grateful. It's likely he won't be complaining like that anytime soon eh?
And about giving a slurpee before dinner yadda yadda, it's YOUR child. You feed him how you want and teach him how you want. Kids are so out of control because so many people would listen to their child being a ungrateful brat (not calling your son a brat) and then handed over their slurpee instead of teaching him to mind his manners and respect his elders.
2007-01-03 18:00:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
OH Dad!
anger management- control yourself-be the adult.
he is only responding to a situation like you would.
see what I mean? So was that justified behavior?
Next time- say it
Well I'm a big guy and I get a big drink.
I will share some with you.
IF he replies rudely: Well since you are being rude-son, I think that I might offer to share my drink- after you do & say the following things- Sorry, Please and Thank you.
You "say" good job and share that slurpy!
You are the "lighthouse" YOU GUIDE HIS EVERY MOVE!
Dad- you really have no idea, how much little men look up to your for all things in life. Even the way you put on your socks, to talk to his mom and the cashier at Mc Donald's.
You need to apologize for your actions tonight. YOU were wrong ro #1 loose your temper and #2 strike anything in anger, most of all anything of a child's. You don't need to "make it up" - just claim it and change your attitude.
Parenting is HARD work dude- any age kid is a tough stage, so keep up the good work, be the better man. Remember "smart mouth " or not- he IS your destiny. Your child.
2007-01-03 17:43:15 · answer #3 · answered by Denise W 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The real question is, who is the adult in this picture? Slapping your kid's slurpee cup out of his hand is a rather immature way to deal with something so petty, don't you think? Next time take a deep breath and explain to him that you have spent the last 8 years raising him-your'e the dad and you can have the bigger slurpee if you want it-because your'e the boss. Remember that he is still very young and impressionable, and he will learn how to deal with situations from the way YOU handle them, so treat him the way you will expect him to treat others when he is older.
2007-01-03 17:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by Andreamy_23 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, that was mean. If he got finished with it and wanted more, I would have given him more. He is only 8, and it is only a Slurpee! It is not like he was asking for money or something! You should have shared with your kid.
At the very least, you could have explained that he was smaller so he got the smaller size. When he gets bigger then he can get the bigger size. You should not have gotten mad over a stupid Slurpee, and you never should have slapped it out of his hand. That is just mean and degrading.
2007-01-03 17:32:21 · answer #5 · answered by bashnick 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You should have just said, "We both got drinks to suit our sizes. I'm bigger than you, so I need a bigger drink." If he continued to complain, you could have said, "If you're not going to be grateful, next time you won't get a Slurpee at all."
A Slurpee may not be the best drink choice for a young child. They're full of sugar, which just kind of naturally leads to bad behavior.
2007-01-03 17:34:12 · answer #6 · answered by Iris 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't have bought myself a Slurpee. They are so bad for you that giving into my kids to even get them one is a treat. As far as losing your cool.. well, he did talk back to you, so here is how I would have handled it.
If he sassed back to me that way and he were legitimately thirsty, then I would have had a water bottle handy for him, because the Slurpees are so surgery that they actually cause dehydration.
If he still had a fit and talked to me that way, I would explain to him that his Slurpee privileges are cut off for a while until he can mind his manners. He may have a fit, but "oh well" lesson learned after a few weeks of no Slurpees.
2007-01-03 17:32:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do think that slamming the slurpee on the ground was a bit mean. Raising kids take a patient, calm person.
I would have told him, "Okay, if you don't appreciate the one that you got, then next time I won't buy you one at all" Try to teach him to appreciate the things that he DOES have, not the things that he doesn't.
2007-01-04 05:52:03 · answer #8 · answered by Lara Croft 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, why would you get a slurpee before dinner? Second, you don't have to answer to him. You could have just let him know that you got a bigger one because you are bigger and leave it at that. Slappiing the one he had out of his hand is mean. You may need to take anger management classes to control your temper.
2007-01-04 05:14:36 · answer #9 · answered by mel 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
By slapping his cup, you were acting like the child.
You should have explained to him that it is rude to complain about something someone gave him, and next time, there will be no treats. Children do not get the same things as adults, and he has to learn that.
And P.S. I don't believe this question anyway because first you said he got to the bottom of his cup, then you said it was 1/3 full.
2007-01-03 18:33:50 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow...um not exactly the way to handle a situation like that. Sounds really rude and mean like who does that? Were you upset about something and let out all of your anger on him or what? He didnt deserve that and shouldnt have to be treated like that as well. You should really apologize to him and let him know that, that type of behavior is not acceptable and that your sorry and hopes he never does anything like that.
I would have easily maybe gave him some of my Slurpee instead.
2007-01-03 17:42:05 · answer #11 · answered by Tori 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋