2007-01-03 17:07:53 · 19 answers · asked by gopackgo51 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I'm sorry but it just takes time..!
2007-01-03 17:12:45 · answer #1 · answered by ~♥Jade♥~ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think it really depends on how much you liked or loved the person.
I thought it would be getting easier as days go by, but strangely, I find it getting increasingly harder. Like the first few days after he broke it off with me, it was easy to distract myself with my friends, or cleaning the house, and preparing for Christmas. As soon as New Year passed, I'm finding it even harder now to get over him......
The thing is, I believe I can get over the idea of him getting over me, and i can get over my strong desire of wanting to be with him, but I don't think I'll ever be able to get over him completely. Because he was the first person that I really loved, and you hardly get over your first love.
I guess, the best thing to do is not to worry about it, accept the pain and learn from the experience. That's really all you can do. Don't hate the person, don't plot against the person, and don't pretend that the person does not exist. And never forget this thing ever happened. Be grateful you met him/her, because regardless of what happened you learned from it and who knows, it may have changed you for the better.
It's far easier getting over the break up rather than getting over the person. Don't try too hard, give it some time. Just don't result to getting a rebound person to help you forget him/her. It wouldn't be fair to that person.
So, once you have accepted the fact that it is over, move on. You'll get through it as long as you're strong enough. Well, if you can handle it then you're stronger than you were the past year. You fell for someone and you fell hard...all you can really do is find a way to rise again, because how well you rise after falling defines the kind of person you are.
I probably haven't answered your question, but I hope in some way this has opened you eyes to think of a "break-up" in a different way, and somehow, within revelation, you'll find a way to get over it.
My best wishes to you.
~ Callie
2007-01-03 18:02:35 · answer #2 · answered by Callista 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sorry, there is no "fast way" to get over a break up. 2months pass by and it feels like 2 years - just have time for yourself to reflect, be single for a while (don't jump into anything unless you're completely ready - cuz if you do, it screws with your heart and emotions even more), spend some time with true friends that will help you get through the pain and with family, writing in a journal always helps, and put all that negative energy into something physical like working out or doing a new hobby - neway, straight up - getting over a break up is not easy but you'll get there - good luck!
2007-01-03 17:37:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on the depth of the relationship that was once at hand.********** Bad blood may take longer in recooperating, but keep in mind that you are strong and you will overcome whatever went wrong. May not of been you or it was the two of you. Read a book, go out with friends, get bored, sleep, be happy, get drunk, get laid randomly (or not), enjoy life AND when you're ready because you've regained self-confidence and reassurance of character you will be prepared to date again.
2007-01-03 17:21:38 · answer #4 · answered by lostinmontana406 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's really no fast way. The best thing to do is immerse yourself in life. Take up new hobbies, go out with friends and just try not to think about the person you just broke up with. The more you force yourself to be "normal", the easier it will become and then you're no longer forcing yourself because you're over it.
2007-01-03 17:11:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I personally say go do your sadness for as long as you want, but be sure to surround yourself with friends and go do activities as much as possible.
While there is the way of just diving into another relationship, you run the risk of your wounds getting cut deeper, or hurting the other person by just using them as a rebound or bringing your past relationship miseries along with you while seeing them.
2007-01-03 17:27:02 · answer #6 · answered by Cory W 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Keep busy and keep your mind off the relationship as much as possible.Keep mind and body thinking and doing things that wont allow idle time to dwell. If it means going out with friends finding causual dates to make you feel better about yourself do it Life is short shorter than any of us living know. Worry is worthless. Sooner than you know you'll be over it.
2007-01-03 17:15:31 · answer #7 · answered by stephenmwells 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to tell you there is no fast way to get over the person you once loved.i seems as though when two people break up it take time to heal itself with time. just moved on a nothing even happed...
2007-01-03 17:29:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't think about the person, unless you are still friends. Spend time with friends. Don't let your mind wander too much. Keep focused on whatever, school, work, family, friends. Anything, but your ex.
2007-01-03 17:31:29 · answer #9 · answered by Weston 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I`m in the same boat pondering my path. My heart is still with her. Being slightly optimistic, probably just getting my rocks off would be the least painful.
2007-01-03 17:25:01 · answer #10 · answered by grtoo9 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Date lots of other people. And occupy your free time doing anything, take up a hobby you always wanted to do, like painting or fishing or whatever.
2007-01-03 17:10:30 · answer #11 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋