Hi all,
I am actually having good feelings with this guy that is 2 years younger than me. We can chat and talk about almost anything in life and I feel really comfortable with him around in my life.
He is my colleague and we are working in the same project last year. We work overseas and stay in the same company condominium. It was like seeing him everday during work and back home at condo. We were terribly close until everyone around us sometimes wonder whether we are a couple.
There is 1 barrier that makes the whole thing not working. He say he goes for looks and cute girls. He knew its not really right to see things in this way but he still can't let go that desire. He told me that maybe that is his childish thinking and he is not ready for any relationship yet.
The question here is, should I continue to treat him really good and hope that he realises that looks really is not that important after all? Should I gamble in things that I am not sure whether it will work out?
2007-01-03 17:05:25 · 16 answers · asked by nOt gIvIng uP 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Why don't you do this: keep the door open for this guy, but don't prevent yourself from looking for others in the meantime. You don't have to put all your eggs in one basket.
Frankly, I have to say that it sounds like this guy really isn't into you that much if your looks are that important to him. When we really care about someone, they are more attractive to us. The fact that he doesn't find you attractive makes me thing that he's not that interested. I wouldn't hold your breath. And do you really want a relationship with someone who's that focused on looks?
2007-01-03 17:08:38 · answer #1 · answered by drshorty 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh just stop!! You don't mean that!! He is Sooooooooo insulting!! What do you have Gulag syndrome?? Where the victim starts to feel an affinity for their captor??Tell him he doesn't deserve YOUR good looks and class act and that he needs to get his head out of his--whatever! and watch your cute self as you walk the heck out of his demeaning presence!! Find someone worthy of your goodness it's not meant to be wasted on such a shallow person!!
2007-01-03 17:13:48 · answer #2 · answered by Faerie loue 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Never treat a guy good unless he is giving you the treatment you deserve in return. It feels nice to treat guys nicely but if he isn't doing anything for you in return, forget him. If he cares about you and wants to change his attitude, you'll know and then it will be more of a mutual thing but for now, don't waste your time.
2007-01-03 17:09:13 · answer #3 · answered by lins0043 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried telling him your feelings? If you have and he blew you off I would not waste my time with him. It may or may not work out. I would hate it for your heart to be broken. You deserve to be with someone who cherishes you! I feel that everyone does. I hope for the best for you! But I feel that if you cannot be more than friends with this guy then you may be able to at least be friends. So, yes I would still be nice to him but not "I want your body nice".
Good luck.
2007-01-03 17:15:59 · answer #4 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can continue treating him nicely but be prepared that he doesn't like you still. Or you can try to treat him just as per normal so that you won't get hurt in the end
2007-01-03 17:08:32 · answer #5 · answered by Fleeting 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, firstly dont put your hopes on it. he is obviously not ready for a relationship yet.
And its not worth you investing feelings and emotions in something that is clearly not going to happen.
Be his friend, but nothing more.
good luck sweetie!!
2007-01-03 17:15:09 · answer #6 · answered by Saffa_Boy_83 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That sounds like a huge gamble. Why waste your time on a man who doesn't want you?
Never convince a man to want you; either he does or he doesn't.
2007-01-03 17:08:12 · answer #7 · answered by Ade 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Heck no. He's prolly saying he's not ready for a relationship so he don't hurt your feelings. You don't deserve to wait on somebody.
2007-01-03 17:13:46 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like this guy needs to give his head a shake. "He's into cute girls" what the heck are you, dirt? Move on girl and don't encourage this one.
2007-01-03 17:07:36 · answer #9 · answered by onecutebyrd 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
guys like this never change their mind, so if you did start dating, you would probably have problems with him staring down other women/cheating on you. i'd say avoid it all and save yourself some heartbreak
2007-01-03 17:08:57 · answer #10 · answered by Italian Stallion 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋