do some people really choose to be single?

Question

was it more of a personal choice, afraid of commitment, just really busy, have no feelings for the opposite sex or the same sex, what is your reason why you remain single
i remain single just 19 i just feel im meant to be single

Answer 1

Yes, I do think some people really choose to be single. I thought I would be married by now, but I am not and it's cool. Really.

It is difficult being in a relationship. You have to work on it all of the time and even then it may not work out. People change. And not always for the best.

I am single and have been for a few years. I only date when a man sparks my interest, not just physically, the total package . I am not afraid of committment and I make time for the things and the people who are important or could be important to me (God first).

Anyway, I like being able to come and go when I please, eat out when I like (or not). There is no problem with having breakfast for dinner because it is just me. When I hear of something interesting that I want to see or do, I go. No consulting someone or worrying about if they will trip because I am going out on my own. When I go shopping, I do not have to worry about overspending because I am on a budget and it is my own money. When I buy a car, it is my choice, not our choice .

For now, I am comfortable being single. But it could be nice to be part of a couple for a time. Who knows? People change ...

Answer 2

Hey, I know a guy who is 33 and still lives with mom and he is single. He had a gf when he was younger but she died (cancer). He said he doesn't see a need to get married and he doesn't want children either. He said he's happy that way so he can do whatever he likes with no restrictions. And another girlfriend of mine who is 34, got married at 24 just after her mom died....which was a mistake.....a month later she got a divorce. She said she is not cut out for this marraige thinggy and she is still single and she also doesn't crave to have children. But she did say, if a miracle should happen where she met the right guy, she would think about it.....it's been 10 yrs since her divorce.....I haven't got an invitation still! Some people just enjoy that way of life.

Answer 3

First of all, you are still SO young. You haven't met the right person yet. You have a lot of living left to do! But, on another note, I know people who are old and who have never been married and have no children. I think that some people are just happier not being in a relationship. Some people may just be too picky of other people to be in a relationship too. I dated a guy once who was 13 years older than me and he had never been married and had no kids. He seemed like a great guy until we started dating. He was so in love with himself that I felt out of place and felt like a 3rd wheel when I was around him. That could be some people's problems too. They are too in love with themselves to love someone else. It takes compromising, sacrifices, commitment, understanding, and patience (not to mention LOVE) to make a relationship work and I honestly think a lot of people don't have the strength or the want-to to make a relationship work. These are just my personal opinions.

Answer 4

Yes, I believe some people choose to remain single, for what they would consider to be logical and positive reasons. Some people feel very fulfilled by relationships with family, friends and lovers, value their independence and have no desire to have children. I know a few people who have actually told me that they will remain single because they do not desire to be parents, and in their opinion, marriage is not necessary unless children are involved. Also, some folks are gay, so that explains that one. (lol). And some are so incredibly obsessed and focused on their careers that they have absolutely no room in their lives for serious relationships and have very little to offer a partner.

Answer 5

Some people get hurt.

I got married young and had 2 kids. We got divorced, I got custody and raised them for 20 years and now pretty tired. I had other relationships but they all wanted to get married and I didn't, so they left me.

I was just dumped from a 5 year long term relationship because I wouldn't commit, that was in April, so now I'm single again.

Answer 6

I have a friend that is just over 50 and has never had a relationship. He is a really nice guy but he has to take people in small doses. If we go camping and spend a couple days together, I won't hear from him for over a month and if I call, he won't answer. We are great friends and he tollerates me more than anyone. So to answer, some people just don't like a lot of human contact.

Answer 7

some people true are meant to be single for that's the way of the lord. then some are single because of the past relationship and figure that instead of trying to figure out someone else it is easier to just be single. the way things are happening out here these days why not be safe from the killings , drugs etc.

Answer 8

Well, there are Catholic priests, monks, and nuns who spend their entire lives single in one sense, but in another, they are all married to God. I'm 19 too, and I think you and I are too young to know what we're meant to be doing at this point in our lives. If and when you fall in love, it will be like nothing and everything you've ever experienced and you will know that you can't be single any more. If not, well, it sounds like you're happy with your life, so, as they say, so be it! I remember a quote from the play Our Town that always sticks with me, though. "People are meant to go through life two by two."

Answer 9

It's usually a combination of things. At times in our lives, people often choose to be single. Especially after a bad experience. It's natural and healthy. You may feel "meant to be single" today, and who knows? Tomorrow something could happen that could change that.

Answer 10

Sure. I stayed single for two years, because I wanted to experience the city I was living in as a single, and no one particularly interested me. That doesn't mean I was home alone every night, I just didn't want to be in a relationship. Not fear of commitment - I'm dating now. I just didn't want to settle down yet. Kudos to you for knowing what you want.