What does God say about adultery,adulterers and children born from adultery?

Question

My husband has 2 children born 3 months ago from an adulterous affair.I can't help but think really bad thoughts about him,this other woman and the children born from this affair.He does not seem remorseful and has not even talked to me about it.
I have only just given my life to God and I do not want to become bitter for the sake of my kids

Seriously I do not hate the children but this woman was passed off as a friend.She knows he is married and had become quite demanding of him.I know my husband should be blamed but she did not do anything to stop this affair

Answer 1

I believe he says something like, suffer not the little children to come to me for they are the kingdom of God.

I believe that when one says, I am sorry Lord, for I know I have done wrong, please forgive me, God replies, its okay son, I already have.

That's called Grace.
**JENN**

Answer 2

I think your husband has broken his vows and doesn't deserve your marriage. Marriage is a bond of partnership and equality or it's a lie told to hide more lies. Regardless of God's will, which is poorly interpreted in man's print, you should seek out a solution that gives your children the best opportunities in this world.

That said, the woman who has born his illigetimate children may in fact also be a victim here, and should not be an object for your scorn. These children are siblings to your own children, and will grow up with the stigma of their father, just as your children will. I think you should try very hard to make certain that your children know about their brothers and/or sisters and grow up knowing them and helping them. They'll be better for it, and may even learn a lesson from the hardship your husband inflicted on your family and his other family, and may choose the lessons learned to help build stronger families of their own.

Good Luck

Answer 3

The decision is up to you. According to the bible you have grounds for divorce since he committed fornication: (Matthew 19:9) . . . I say to you that whoever divorces his wife, except on the ground of fornication, and marries another commits adultery.”

You're both going to have to take some time to sit down and discuss where you stand in your relationship. Is he not talking because he's ashamed or is it because he doesn't care? What's his attitude towards you? Are you willing to forgive him or do you want to separate?

If you forgive him the bible says (Ephesians 4:31-32). . . Let all malicious bitterness and anger and wrath and screaming and abusive speech be taken away from you along with all badness. But become kind to one another, tenderly compassionate, freely forgiving one another just as God also by Christ freely forgave you.
You can't hold his error against later on if you've forgiven him; to do so would be sin on your part.

If you choose to separate he is now going to be responsible for your family and the other children. Is he able and willing to do this? (1 Timothy 5:8) . . . Certainly if anyone does not provide for those who are his own, and especially for those who are members of his household, he has disowned the faith and is worse than a person without faith.

As far as the children they are innocent victims which are going to need lots of love and tender affection. (1 Peter 3:8-9) . . . Finally, all of you be like-minded, showing fellow feeling, having brotherly affection, tenderly compassionate, humble in mind,  not paying back injury for injury or reviling for reviling, but, to the contrary, bestowing a blessing, because you were called to this [course], so that you might inherit a blessing.
This scripture would also pertain to the other woman.

I'm so sorry about your dilemma. The best scripture I can share with you is in Philippians 4:6-7 . . .Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving let YOUR petitions be made known to God;  and the peace of God that excels all thought will guard YOUR hearts and YOUR mental powers by means of Christ Jesus.

Pray because God is the hearer of prayers: (Psalm 34:15) . . The eyes of Jehovah are toward the righteous ones, And his ears are toward their cry for help.

Answer 4

Wow this must be really awful for you. God punishes adulterers and the children are born not as believers although they may grow up and choose to become believers. In Islam, if the woman was also married he would not even have first rights to the custody of the children the husband of the other woman would according to Islamic law. This is meant to both protect the community and the wronged individuals. Hope this helps.

Answer 5

First of all leave the babies out of it - they are not responsible for what type of people they are born too. They are just babies. secondly your anger should be directed at your husband because if he did have an affair and children were born from it legally he needs to be supporting them so where does that leave you? rather than hate him I would sugest you seek counselling and talk about your feelings before looking at your options eg leaving him.

Also if you have children than this situation has ceryainly thrown a spanner in the works I would sugest that you talk with him about getting counselling as well.

Answer 6

He may see your quiet faith and be saved. You are not obligated to stay in a marriage with adultery going on, but you don't have to leave unless it's unbearable. If you leave you should stay unmarried. If he doesn't repent then he will be judged, and so will the woman unless she repents. The children are not under the law and until the age of conscience if they should die they would go to heaven. Your own salvation depends on the growth of your faith now. This will be something the Lord will use to make you a stronger Christian. Focus your thoughts on him and pray and fast when you can. And read the King James bible only.

Answer 7

Adultery is a mortal sin...one has to suffer the consequences of such an act. I know you must have experienced a lot of pain but then you must have the courage to talk to your husband just to make matters clear...to seek the truth behind the issue. God is a forgiving God but punishes the unrepentant person... its awful for your husband to live in sin because evryone will be affected. You have to take an extra effort to resolve this problem and seek guidance from your elders or spiritual adviser.

Answer 8

Honey you keep your eyes on Jesus.Your husband is accountable to God for what he has done.
Please do not hold evil in your heart for the children ,they are Innocent babies.Every day you ask God to keep your heart tender.You keep you and your children on the right path.But I would set your husband down and if you stay together work out a plan.
Your man sounds like a snake.Pray for him,pray God save him.
Your husband and you both need to seek a councilors help.Honey find someone Christian,you can talk to.Find a church that has Christian councilors.
Gods love be with you,I have prayed for you.
Read your Bible.Study Matthew,Mark,Luke,John.<><

Answer 9

Eve,

You say that you have given your life to GOD. I am glad to hear that...but what about your husband? Of course, from what you say, it does not look too much as if he has accepted the LORD.

You see, I do not believe we can expect those that do not belong to the LORD to live as the LORD wants us to live.

So what can you do? You could get a divorce. You do have Biblical grounds..but these grounds allow a divorce, it does not demand you get one.

I have written on this and you can find it in the first link below.

I also want to point out that this is a perfect example of the damage sin does. Many think they can sin and it will only effect them so it is no ones business but their owe.

This is not true. Sin always cost others then the one doing it. The sin of your husband and this woman has cost you a lot. As we can see from your feeling toward these two infants, it is already costing them too. They will most likely pay a price throughout their life for the sin of these two people.

Eve, please read the links below and if after reading them, I can help please contact me.

The Hidden Cost of Sin
http://www.shatterdmen.com/HIDDEN%20COST.htm

Answer 10

From a Christian point of view....
It is so difficult to call on this one. Your relationship with God is what matters most. Your husband unfortunately seems to not be sorry, nor give a care about your feelings. That is sad. But now, do you really want to spend the rest of your life with a man that does not care about you? If he doesn't care about you, do you think he really loves you?

The children are always going to be loved and accepted by God, they are His. You are a caring woman, I see, and thus it is easier for you to think of the children. You are right, don't be angry at them. It is their parents that have wronged you.

Think of yourself now so that you can be happy and be able to be a good mother to your kids. Pray hard. I will pray for you. This is painful to imagine, yet it happens to women everyday.
May God bless you.

Answer 11

Well I know God WILL forgive BOTH of them all they have to do is ask. and really mean it. but God does NOT hate the Children. sometimes people make MISTAKES. sometimes people are lied to they may not know the other person is married.

In this case BOTH of them are wrong. BOTH. She may not have tried to stop the affair. but i would hope both of them feel real shame somethings the guilt you feel when you find out you have been lied too is far worse then anything else. try to talk to your Husband. maybe go to your Pastor and Just try and save your Marriage Good Luck. and God Bless.