What are some good date ideas?

Question

I have been dating a very very good friend for a long time. We both love each other very much, but it seems that she just doesn't really have much of a spark for me sometimes anymore. I need some unique ideas that could help really spice things up, something that would really make her go "Wow!" and that would really make her happy.

Answer 1

** Self Acceptance ** We must take responsibility for what occurs in our experience. We must stare facts boldly in the eye, knowing as Einstein astutely observed that "Imagination is more important than facts." The proposition here is that everything that occurs outside of ourselves, including resistance from the woman of our choice, had to first be entertained in the mind. For I am convinced (through my own experience) that the origin of rejection from others commences within the self. Self-rejection can take many forms, from neglecting your financial health, to neglecting your physical or emotional health. It is a fact that people mirror back to us those deeply held feelings and images that we have about ourselves. The wise old scholar Ralph Waldo Emerson said it best when he remarked: "What you are speaks so loud, I cannot hear what you say." We teach people how to treat us. It does not matter what we tell ourselves on a conscious level, if deep down we do not believe it. We create our own reality based upon what we believe. When we reject ourselves, we send subtle signals to others to reject us as well. What we must understand is that it is not what we say to others that is important, it is the language that we speak to ourselves. In addition to confidence, charisma, depth, and the ability to articulate ideas with ease and skill; at the core, we must affirm our worthiness, we must wage war with our doubts about ourselves. There is no such reality as a woman being out of man's league. There is only a man who has chosen to think a negative thought and thereby create a negative reality. To the extent and degree that a man controls himself, respects himself, relies on himself and loves himself, to that very degree exactly does he automatically command respect, love, and appreciation from his woman.
** Image Matters ** While what is 'beautiful' or 'sexy' is subjective, there IS a correlation between appearance and how attractive you are. This has less to do with the final 'product' being evaluated and everything to do with the evidence that thought and care has been put into appearance. If you approach a woman, especially one who thinks about her appearance AT ALL (yep, they do that), and you are oblivious to your own appearance, the woman will be insulted. Why? Because she thinks you think she is easy. Why? You seem to think you do not have to offer her anything back in return for her efforts. Most women spend way too much time and money on appearance. Pick up a women's magazine -- it may shock you. You do not have to go to those lengths, but you need to put SOME effort in. The delusions are great: My best buddy had all the ladies 'back in school', when most of us were very conscious of self-image. He is getting no action now that he is more relaxed and self-assured and less concerned with image. This seems to make no sense but it's true. What is going on!? He doesn't think about his appearance or body unless he ALREADY HAS A DATE, and he's not getting any younger or fitter. He comes off as slovenly (lazy slob), unmotivated, and oblivious to other people entirely. You all know to preen or 'work it' for a job interview, and you probably know to "look your best" for a date. But you need to put some more effort in. Maybe not round the clock, just when you shop and do 'hygienic' things. The excuses for coming off like a slob are many: "I want to be genuine" or "I want her to see the real me". Bull. I am not saying you all have to become vain metrosexuals. Hell No! But you need to look like you have put some thought into your appearance. There is a reason a large portion of women turn their heads when gay men walk by. Gay men are woman's unobtainable perfect ten myth -- women really believe that if he 'looks good', by which they often mean "groomed and coordinated" he's probably gay. So if you, a man who likes women, groom yourself and think about 'what your clothing says', you will command attention. Might I add that appearance has been considered important in military circumstances for eons? From the discipline and display of unity represented by uniforms, to the intimidation and spirit of the blue face paint, Tartans, and beards of Mel Gibson's Braveheart... And if you go to a sports event, rock concert, or geek-convention, your fandom dictates that you expend effort on props and costumes. So, if it works to psych you up, or express you loyalty in these 'macho' spaces, why not try the tactic in your pursuit of women? AGREED? Read on. First, forget everything you know from your mother about preening being uncomfortable. You want to be comfortable. There is no single 'look' you are going for. What you do should match your lifestyle and what you stand for. If you do not put any effort in, that's going to give her the message that you do not have a life. If you are a professional, you can look at how to communicate that in your leisure time too. You want a put together look, super-clean, attention to detail, and high quality fabrics. If you like the outdoors or are a drifter, you may want to purposefully wear clothes that are weather versatile (high or low tech), have many pockets (for gear), and come in 'natural' earth-tones. If you like to have fun and party, consider wearing brighter colors. If you are a 'rebel', you want the bells and whistles: tattoos, piercings, etc. Or, let's say you are into radical politics. (I choose this one to prove that there is always a preferred or recognized appearance that expresses your values.) If you are a 'radical', you want to sport things that you've made yourself or mended. You want to emphasize your hair and do something easy to manage and yet purposefully 'unkempt' (dreads, tussled look, beards). Point is, all groups have a different idea of 'what looks good', but you want to say something about who you are with your choice of grooming and clothing. Wearing T-shirts of the bands you like is okay, but not great. EVEN MORE IMPORTANT: Spend a little time figuring out what makes YOU look good. You may need a female friend or dude who knows his feminine side to help you here. Could you benefit from a different haircut or skin product? Can you make yourself seem taller, or slimmer? Give daily appearance just a little bit more attention. If you do this, you stand out, are instantly more attractive and interesting, and then by paying attention to HER, you flatter her. Otherwise you are still saying something loud and clear: "Lady, you are not worth any effort, and neither am I!" Image isn't everything, but it matters! You knew this is in high school by instinct (if you were popular). Business men know it. Military savants know it. Your favorite musicians know it. Now you know it. If you do not use this tip, no pick up tricks in the world will get a woman who respects herself to date you.
** The Friends Mentality ** One thing that I've noticed about lots of guys coming here is that they are wondering how to turn themselves from losers into players. It doesn't work that way! As everyone here knows all too well, the biggest distinction between players and losers lies within confidence/self-esteem. I have this theory as to why some people tend to have problems approaching girls: Sex is viewed like the Holy Grail, a passage into manhood, or the sense of achieving identity by some individuals. If these people aren't getting any, their infatuation with sex becomes detrimental, lowering their confidence level at the constant thought of what they're not getting. As a result, talking to girls becomes difficult because the approach lies solely on the intent of getting laid. These sex-craved individuals lose their composure, because their efforts strive toward achieving something they have yet to experience, or have trouble experiencing. This occurs due to the pressure they put on themselves to achieve their ideal goal of getting laid. To make my point here: Instead of approaching girls with the intent to sex them, approach girls with the intention of just being friends. Humans are social animals. We strive at building solid relationships with other individuals. How hard is it to make friends? This strategy can achieve the following for you: * The ability to just be yourself. No pressure here, folks! * The ability to gain the confidence in just being yourself to approach girls. * The experience obtained from approaching and talking to girls. * The possibility that your "friend" would gladly step in to play matchmaker for you. Dating and sex are complex in their own right, so they must be achieved in steps. Try passing Linear Algebra without having taken any math classes in between arithmetic and Linear Algebra. You can't just jump. When sex is the first thing you picture in your head when you first see a girl, it's inevitable your nerves will falter... if you approach her with the focus of such an outcome, especially if inexperienced. Approaching girls as yourself with the hopes of becoming nothing more than friends, you will reflect genuinity, confidence, and friendly warmth -- traits girls look for in guys. You may not hit it off with these girls, but the experience you get from it will truly make it easier to approach girls. Relax, stop trying to act like someone you're not. Stop trying to manipulate and read or direct her actions, because all of these factor in on the lack of concentration you need to talk with confidence to girls. Once you achieve the necessary confidence, that's when you can start worrying about the other factors.
WHAT WOMEN "REALLY MEAN"... I hope you're sitting down... because what I'm about to share with you will change how you view women and dating. I'm about to take you "behind the scenes" in the female mind. I'm going to give you a perspective that most men never see or realize. Unfortunately for most guys, not seeing things the way I'm about to share with you, keeps them trapped in their own little world of failure. If you pay careful attention to the things I'm about to reveal to you, you'll definitely have more success with women. THE DIFFERENCE BETWEEN WORDS AND THE REAL WORLD... Have you ever heard a woman say something like: "I want a guy who is sensitive." "I want a guy who's in touch with his feelings." "I want a guy who's a good communicator." "I want a guy who is strong." "I want a guy who is sexy." ...? Of course you have. Women say this stuff all the time. One of my favorites is: "I want a REAL MAN." I love that one. In the past, when I'd hear women say, "I want a REAL MAN", I had NO IDEA what the hell they were talking about. It almost didn't make sense. But keep in mind, even though these things don't always make sense to us guys, they make PERFECT sense to women. Here's the problem... When a woman says one of these things, she actually MEANS something that is different from what a guy would mean if he said the same words. Let me explain. If a guy says "I'm going to stay home and relax today", he probably means that he's going to stay home, watch some sports, drink a beer, look at pictures of women on the internet, and order a pizza. If a WOMAN says that she's going to stay home and relax, she's probably NOT going to watch some sports, drink a beer, look at pictures of women on the internet, and order a pizza. IMPORTANT NOTICE: If you are reading this right now and you are a woman who watches sports, drinks beer, looks at pictures of the women on the internet, and orders pizza to relax, then contact me immediately at the email address below. And send pictures. Back to what I was saying... Women are DIFFERENT from men. And the words they use often don't mean what they SOUND like they mean. So, the FIRST thing that you have to get through your head is that just because a woman SAYS something to you, doesn't mean that it means what you THINK it means. Catch my meaning? THE BIG SECRET SHE ISN'T TELLING YOU There's a little secret that women never happen to mention when they're describing what they want in a man. Unfortunately, for all of us good guys who are trying to be what women want... and hoping that if we try hard enough to please women that they'll like us... this little secret is causing us a LOT of trouble. The SECRET is that women ONLY want the things that they're asking for from a guy who already has about 100 other qualities that they never mention. In other words, if a woman says, "I want a man who is a good communicator", what she REALLY means is: "I want a guy who already has his life together, is interesting, unpredictable, dominant, funny, healthy, charismatic, confident, and loyal... who is ALSO a good communicator." The REALITY is that when a woman says one of these "I want a guy who" statements, she actually has an IDEAL guy in mind, who ALSO happens to be a good communicator. She's NOT imagining Homer Simpson sitting on his couch reading a book on communication. The reality of this situation is that what women REALLY want is a man who makes them feel the emotional and physical response that I like to call ATTRACTION. They want a man who makes them FEEL IT. But, most women either can't describe the things that actually make her feel ATTRACTION, or they don't WANT to have to describe them, because they want a man who already IS those things... without having to learn them. Think about it. If you were hiring a bodyguard, would you want one that said, "Yeah, I can be a bodyguard. Just give me some time to learn..." or would you want one that already KNEW how to kick *** anytime, anywhere without having to learn? Duh. Well, the same goes with women. They don't WANT a guy that they have to train. If you don't already have the UNIVERSAL FOUNDATION of what appeals to women, then no amount of changing and improving things, like your communication and sensitivity, is going to help you. WHAT IS A REAL MAN? Lately I've been thinking a lot about the idea of a "Real Man". You hear both women and men using the term. But what does it actually MEAN? And is it important? Well, after thinking about this particular topic for a long time, I've come to the conclusion that it is a VERY important topic. At this point, I believe that a REAL MAN is this "ideal" that women imagine when they're saying "I want a guy who is sensitive". They're thinking of the REAL MAN, and then they're imagining him ALSO being sensitive. There are a lot of aspects to this REAL MAN. Here are a few that are important: -Status -Lack of Insecurities -Standards -Experience -Humor -Unpredictability -Leadership -A Challenge ...and the list goes on. It's actually not easy to describe a REAL MAN in a few sentences... but I'll tell you what... a woman can recognize one INSTANTLY. Before I tell you more... If you don't know what a "Real Man" is, and you also get the feeling that you might NOT be one, then you need to do yourself a BIG favor and go read this right NOW: A common mistake that men make is taking something that a woman SAYS that she wants, and doing it TOO MUCH, thinking that if "A little bit is good, then more must be better". For instance, a woman SAYS that she likes guys who are "thoughtful". So you go out and buy her a bunch of gifts, give her cute cards every time you see her, and call her all the time to tell her that you miss her. What happens? She leaves you for her jerk ex-boyfriend. Huh? This would be kind of like a woman saying, "My favorite food is chocolate" and then you thinking it would be good to feed her chocolate for every meal just because it's her favorite... or adding chocolate to every single dish you make for her from now on... and forgetting that 97% of what she eats still needs to be OTHER FOODS. Let me land the plane for you. Women don't MEAN what you THINK they mean when they talk about what they want in a man. And if you take the things women say too literally, you're going to wind up shooting yourself in the foot. WHAT WOMEN REALLY MEAN... So let me "decode" what women "really" mean when they say common things. Consider this your own personal "female language translator". Refer to it often. WHEN A WOMAN SAYS... "I want a guy who is sensitive." WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS... "I want a guy who is busy doing his own thing in life, who has goals and objectives... who has passion for things. If we're out together, he always keeps me on my toes, and I'm always wondering what's going to happen next. He's challenging, interesting, and funny. I would really like it if he was also sensitive enough to know when I need a hug, or to be held, or when I want him to make love to me." Does this make sense? Again, she's not imagining a picture of a boring, predictable, Wussy who is sharing his hurt feelings because he's so "sensitive". Big difference. WHEN A WOMAN SAYS... "I want a guy who is in touch with his feelings." WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS... "I want a guy who is strong-willed, and who doesn't get upset about petty things... a guy who can deal with the fact that I freak out emotionally sometimes... and who knows how to be cool when things are tough. But I also want him to be in touch with his feelings so that: 1) He doesn't repress his emotions and then eventually kill 10 people in his workplace, and 2) When he's intimate with me, and he feels a passionate rush... he'll grab me and make love to me like a beast!" What she's NOT doing is making a picture of a meek, afraid guy who calls all the time to ask "Do you like me? Because I sure like you". WHEN A WOMAN SAYS: "I want a guy who's a good communicator." WHAT SHE REALLY MEANS IS... "I want a guy who doesn't talk all the time, because he knows how to let me know what's on his mind without using words. I want the kind of guy that can touch me in a certain way and I feel tingles all over my body. And I want the kind of guy that can say things in a way that I understand... not crudely and man-like." WHAT ABOUT "SEXY"? You'll often hear women saying that they what a "Sexy Man". Now, I USED to think that they meant that they wanted a PHYSICALLY ATTRACTIVE man when they said this. Sometimes this is exactly what they mean when they use the term "sexy". But I've found that, most of the time, women mean something TOTALLY different when they use the term "sexy". You see, a woman generally bases more of her life around what she FEELS than a man does. And the concept of "sexy" is usually used to describe the way a man makes a woman FEEL than it is used to describe how HE LOOKS. Think about women's romance novels for a moment. Women's romance novels account for about a fifth of ALL BOOKS SOLD. What do these books contain? WORDS. Words that DESCRIBE things. Descriptions that make women FEEL things. My point: If you want to learn how to be a "sexy man", then the way you LOOK isn't the most IMPORTANT thing. I'll tell you something - Learning the secrets of being a "sexy man" can be a very rewarding experience. A lot of guys out there, including me, know EXACTLY what it's like to be either on a date with, or in a relationship with a woman who has NO INTENTION of being with you "physically". In other words, she's just not feeling that powerful "sexual" ATTRACTION for you. And you don't know how to MAKE her feel it. Well, let me tell you... Just like all the other things that a woman "says" that she wants in a man... that most men don't ever "get", being SEXY is one of the BIG ONES. If you understand the secrets of being SEXY, you will notice that women start to behave VERY differently around you. For more specific techniques and step-by-step systems for becoming all of these things that I've mentioned above, INCLUDING "sexy", then I recommend that you check out my online eBook, and my Advanced Dating Techniques program. My eBook "Double Your Dating" comes with three no-cost bonus reports. One of these reports is called "Sex Secrets", and it teaches you how to take things from one step to the next when it comes to "getting physical" with a woman. If you do these things, you will INSTANTLY make a woman realize and remember that you are a SEXY man. I absolutely guarantee it.
** What Women Want ** I've found that the best predictor of what a woman really wants is the guys that she has chosen in the past and the way those boyfriends have treated her. If she has only gone out with bad boys in the past, then chances are this is what she really wants no matter how much she complains about them. If she has only dated rich guys then she values what money, wealth, and possessions bring her. If she has only dated nice preppy guys then she probably wants a nice stylish guy. If her relationships have always been filled with lots of fights and arguments, then she probably feels most comfortable in a nasty conflict-filled relationship. If she brings up how her last boyfriend was into really wild kinky sex, no matter how much she says she hated it, she's probably really into it -- she wouldn't have brought it up otherwise. The last guy she was with wanted to get serious right away and that turned her off. You get the picture. Sometimes we are told to not let her talk about her past relationships. This is wrong. Find out all you can about her by what happened with her past boyfriends. If anything, you will learn a lot about what she will be like in a potential relationship with you. The best predictor of future behavior is past behavior. If she's cheated on boyfriends before, chances are, she will do it again. This means that she'll cheat on her boyfriend with you or on you if you get into a relationship with her. A good discussion topic is one-night-stands. The topic always comes up eventually. If she's had any ONSs, obviously find out what happened. Maybe the guy was a real smooth-talker. If that's the case, then patterns and fantasies and romantic discussions will work on her. Maybe the guys were really bold and really sexual with her. She then likes guys who are confident and really go for what they want. After most of my ONSs and my frequent first-date sex nights, the explanation I have heard from the girl most often was "You just wanted me so much." These types of chicks really respond to your passion. If that's what she responds to, then keep giving that to her. (This is also one of the most effective tactics to get around the anti-slut-defense -- your "I really want you" passion.) If possible, absolutely find out what her sexual relationship was like with her past boyfriends. In my experience, chicks come in two different sexual flavors with two different types each. They are either "High Drive" or "Low Drive" and then prefer "Run-of-the-Mill Sex" or "Wild Adventurous Sex". Find out what type she is and then deliver what she wants.

Answer 2

ooh if only more guys were like you who want to do something special to spice up dating! Well, women love to be flattered and love it when their significant others do something unique/special for them...what passions/interests does she have? Is there any music group that she would just die to see? If so, try to get tickets to that concert. Does she like to dance? If so, ask her if she wants to take a dance lesson with you. And be romantic on your dates- ex. women LOVE getting flowers. It always means something when we get them and not just on valentines day!!
That can spice up any date! Just try to focus on what makes her happy and you can't go wrong. She will appreciate any effort you make to make her feel special. That's really what most women care about, not what you do on the date-

Answer 3

Well to spice things up, u need spices... :0)
I think that you should change the routine with her. for example if you call her twice a day, start calling her five times a day. Make unexpected and instant decisions for date. Take her to places where u think she like and she can't go. Give her gifts for no reasons.
In nutshell, just change the pace of your relationship.

Answer 4

I am sure you are intelligent and good hearted person. It's up to you to decide what you want to do to make self more attractive. I would advise you to make yourself happy, go out of the cycle or routine that she is used for a bit of time, think of yourself, be patient and try to go out with your closest people, coz I am sure you have other close persons around you. if not, don't worry, you can just relax, think how special you are, do your usual things during your routines when you are not with her. I guess if you can afford a gift, to be a surprise, if you know you can take her out to places where you feel relxed, beautiful nature and touristic places are good idea, coz she will feel appreciated and valued. undertand her emotions, give her space, protect from her fears, listen to her. there are a lot of things that a girl would like, let her try new food in a new environement. even, you, might need a different changes in your environment. stick to your beliefs, don't change your beliefs just because other people ignore them.
If you love her, love your self, don't give her much eye-contact, make yourself busy with your intereting things, go for fishing or any thing , read, watch sports or movies etc... be good to yourself.
if you like my answer, and tried one of the ideas, let me know what happened...

Answer 5

spark is gone and you feel this then dont bother.. love is not the right word here. love doesnt always have to spark either do things with her will ya ask her what she likes and you should know this by now.. massage is good.. traveling to a place is good it takes a lot for a girl to go WOW.. gusy can do that at games but girsl are harder to please.. they like pampering.. make them something to eat or dinner massage jewelry going places doesnt have to be expensive.. go to concerts.. get out do things.. explore whats near by or not to far away

Answer 6

Go on a daytrip somewhere. Book a couples massage, or take a just for fun class - cooking, massage, whatever. do anything to get out of your routine to bring back the spark.

Answer 7

hiya! i examine all the solutions and that i think of that a picnic could be ultimate. only make the picnic in some place the place not many human beings pass, an extremely distinctly place and devour your sandwiches or despite else you deliver. you could call it your very own place or your specific place. that could sound tacky yet while she's the kinda woman that loves to pass jogging, that is acceptable. i could opt for to be taken on a picnic. and you will additionally %. her slightly boquet of plant existence that only advance on the line or on your backyard in case you have one. it is very stunning and considerate. if a number of those issues take place, i think of that could desire to be so romantic.

Answer 8

Buy her a really nice after five dress.
Have it delivered by courier with instructions on where to go for dinner.
Show up dressed in a nice suit.
If that doesn't wow, her I don't what would.

Answer 9

The beach, saying that you are going on a regular dinner date, but bringing her camping (bring the right stuff). You could also try being more spontaneous and possibly e-mailing her while she is working that you love her.

Answer 10

You guys can have a pinic in the park or do something she likes or maybe a candle light dinner for the two of you and talk about things that she likes.
Do something that she likes to do. Maybe ica staking, skiing (maybe), Things that she would like to do.

Answer 11

Pack a picnic lunch and go have a picnic on the beach. When you are done eating, then sit and watch the sunset and cuddle.