ok i went in my boyfriends phone the other day and found all these text messages to a girl he works with about how they are going to hook up and all this stuff. i confronted him about it and yet he said it was just pay back for his friend bc he acutally liked her and she played his friend. i dont know if i should believe him. he tried to turn everything back on me for going in his phone and stuff. i still dont know if i can fully trust him for the texts bc he wont do anything ot gain my trust back. though i cant trust him i still want to be with him and work it out...and also should i really believe him on what it was?
2007-01-03 16:17:56 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to put your foot down. If he doesn't like you going through his phone then he needs to stop being so suspicious. If he isn't willing to gain your trust back leave him. I'm sure you will find a bigger fish someday. The fact that he turned it all around on you is a sure indicator of guilt. Example: You lied to your friend about eating their apple.
Them: Did you eat my apple?
You: No. But you ate my orange yesterday. Pretty messed up that you would accuse me of eating your apple when you did this to me.
Them: what orange?
Get my point?
2007-01-03 16:23:47 · answer #1 · answered by Eruthiadwen J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nope! what would you exepct him to say if he is caught yes dear i admit i mean those things and hurt you that is not a good pay back he si stupid top leave any in there tell him to turn off message archives.. adn dont ever snoop into a guys phone as this old saying curiousity killed the cat.. i know its hard to trust him.. i bet he was getting a thrill out of dirty talking as some people do they feel like they are getting away with a daring thing but dint have contact.. but when u find out he may have as well as now it hurts dont it? this is why i hate texts in phones as so mnay people do hurtful things this way and they think its harmless.. its more or less saying if they could they would but heres a tidbit of sex to get you thru your day to her adn to him.. i woudl be on high alert as if it was a payback ask the girls bf!! see if he saw it!! see what he thinks and if he knows nothing then your bf is busted!! h-ll you already went over the line and invaded his privacy go the distance now and ask her bf if you dont know him find out your good at investigating.. you see hun you followed your gut instinct for a reason huh? you did not trust him.. now look ...
2007-01-04 00:24:51 · answer #2 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to ask yourself the question: why did you check the phone in the first place? Were you already suspicious? Personally I would not believe it outright. Do you find that he lies about other things to you? Have you heard him lie to others? Lying is really easy forsome people and those are the ones to avoid. If there's no trust, your chances of a happy relationship are pretty low. Either get this resolved or walk away, soon.
2007-01-04 00:26:39 · answer #3 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well in a relationship, you should be able to trust one another FULLY so maybe there's something going on..
Your conscience is probably telling you something and warning you ...
Ask God if He's doing something behind your back and if he is, that you would be able to get out of that situation and that He would help you through the whole circumstance, and if he's not cheating on you, then that God He would show you that its okay.. But if you need any prayer or just want to talk
Email me at thecross_mylife@hotmail.com
Blessings
Hope that helps
2007-01-04 00:23:23 · answer #4 · answered by Mickey 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's cheating you can't make him stop and the relationship is pretty much over (unless you like to share).
If he's not cheating, don't give him reason to go out and do it. One of the top reasons men say they cheat is that they were already being accused of it. DROP IT with him. Also if you're not all over his case all the time it's easier to spy on him. I think I'd find reasons to drop by his place of employment unannounced on a fairly regular basis if possible. And if he starts deleting the text messages, that's suspicious behavior. If he has nothing to hide from you, why does he care what you saw?
2007-01-04 00:24:34 · answer #5 · answered by mommy333 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Watch that boy like a hawk for the next little while. Sometimes guys do just stick together to pull some revenge, but more likely he is lying to save his own ***. Men are pigs (mostly) and so must be monitered constantly.
2007-01-04 00:22:36 · answer #6 · answered by Naomi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He made up a quick lie to tell you on the spot. He is up to something and he turned it around on you which isn't fair. You deserve a lot better. Why would you want a guy who's secretive and cheating when there are tons of guys waiting to date you.
2007-01-04 00:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by Serinity4u2find 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
bad news! be strong and have dignity. i knwo its hard but if he cheated before leave him now. and how long have u been dating him. a lot of guys are fun to hang out with is this guy really worth it. guys are really good at lying im not kidding about certain guys that is so watch out for this one. be careful and make sure u don't start to get too attached or mentally abused. and u knwo u don't want to be..."that girl" who is stupid enough to stay with the guy whom everyone knows he is cheating on you. u deserve a healthy relationship.
2007-01-04 00:28:49 · answer #8 · answered by annette1911 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
wow sounds like my baby daddy who was cheating on me the whole time i went thru his texts he accused me of cheating the whole 9 then one day i looked and this gurl texted him to ask when she could come over and i seen what he wrote it said shes going to the doctors at 830 so come at 840 i got home form the doctors 7 months prego deathly ill and seen the blanket balled up so i punched it and there was a female there neways from the sounds of it hes up too no good leave before you get hurt
2007-01-04 00:22:18 · answer #9 · answered by honesty_lil_mama 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your bf needs to be more discreet, silly of him leaving text messages on his phone...not that I condone cheating:)
Now you really need to find out his true feelings and maybe put a tail on him for awhile!
2007-01-04 00:24:58 · answer #10 · answered by Brad H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋