Damn...I am a devoted christian woman..but I am sexually frustrated.There is the guy..who is attractive..and he's always nice to me..he came up to me and asked me why I was sad..and he want to see me smile, when I see him my heart start to race, and I think of him in so many other's(if you know what i mean) I'm not a hoe..but damn..it's making me feel bad, these sexual thoughts of him..I know it's lust...but should I feel bad for these thoughts...and what can I do to stop..it's hard for me to sleep..What should I do
2007-01-03 16:15:58 · 39 answers · asked by Virgo1980 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
It's biology baby. You can't stop it but you don't have to act on it.
Keep your dreams. The day will come when it's OK. Mean while, you'll learn to deal with it, we all do.
Don't be too hard on yourself. A racing heart is nothing to be ashamed of. God made us that way for good reason. One day you can put it too good use. Keep your head up till then. That racing heart will help lead you to the water to put out the fire (wink).
2007-01-03 16:21:29 · answer #1 · answered by outdone 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I agree with the other posters that you're feeling attracted to this man is not under your control and is a part of being human. We can't always help who we're attracted to and when, and it's nothing to be ashamed of. Why are you ashamed of fantasizing about this man? Is it because you are in another relationship? If so, is it possible to turn that lust for the other man towards the person you are with right now? I've been in that situation before and sometimes it's possible to turn that sexual desire you fantasize about someone else towards the person your with- sometimes it can build your passion, if you try:) Or I would suggest watching a romantic movie to get that sexual energy out of your system. Or dancing with the music turned way up loud- sometimes that works too, Just channel that passion/longing into something/someone else if you can.
2007-01-03 16:25:12 · answer #2 · answered by hj55f 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart, let's see where do I start with you? If God didn't want us to have sex then how did we get here? I don't think you would be a hoe if you like the guy then tell him! He's probably about to bust himself waiting on you! It's okay! You'll feel better and God will probably bless you with a husband or at least a good boyfriend. You just trying to relieve some tension right? Then either tell the guy you like him or invest in a toy and plenty of D batteries. Have fun!
2007-01-03 16:24:14 · answer #3 · answered by saturn man 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know exactly how you feel. Just remember this....
Lust is not:
noticing that someone is attractive.
noticing that someone is attractive and having an involuntary bodily reaction.
accidentally looking at sexual areas of the body.
having a sexual throught cross your mind.
It is okay to notice that this guy is attractive, or get that "feeling", or accidentally look at the wrong part of him, or even having a fleeting sexual thought about him. That last one.... It is merely a temptation. Whether the thought is sin or not depends on whether or not we hold on to it and elaborate or get rid of it right away.
However, please remember....
Lust is:
allowing yourself to imagine sexual experiences in your head.
scanning another person's body with your eyes, deliberately looking at their physique.
No lovely fantasies, and no undressing people in your mind.
Just remember: No temptation is too great for you to bear, but every time you let that temptation turn into sin, it hurts God, like you've cheated on Him, in a way. He is only doing the best for you by setting these values, and you are only hurting yourself in lusting, whether you think so or not. God does know best! :)
Pray! :)
2007-01-03 16:26:15 · answer #4 · answered by Drinking from a broken glass.... 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
so you are having a problem dealing with a basic human trait but are feeling guilty because of how you were brought up in a christian lifestyle. Well hon, get used to it. Religion is all about making you feel guilty and repressed. My advise is to read the reams of questions in the religion section here and see if a bell goes off. If it doesn't, try to forget him by praying 10 hours a day and giving all your money to the church. Sorry for being so cynical.
2007-01-03 16:22:07 · answer #5 · answered by m-t-nest 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, I think you should get a vibrator. You wouldn't be breaking God's law by taking care of yourself. So I guess it'd have to be up to you with defining God's interpretation of sex. If you're shy you can shop online, as long as you have anything but Paypal or Ebay because they don't support adult products. They sell them on occassion, but it's against their policy. Stick to your belief hun. That's self-respect! I bought an ex-g/f this for Valentine's one year http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rabbit_vibrator You can stay celibate and kiss, be loving, romantic, and honest with the situation. It's a matter of knowing that he understands your belief's. Buy the toy. That toy is what a man should try to emulate for her pleasure. Not sure if you consider oral sex to be intercourse or not. It's not a question of is it sex or not. I hope this helps in some sort of fashion.
2007-01-03 16:35:58 · answer #6 · answered by lostinmontana406 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What you are experiencing is called being human. Having lustful thoughts isn't a bad thing, and it's human nature. Just be calm. But are you or him married? Then you could run into ethical and legal problems.
2007-01-03 16:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by o 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Thoughts and actions are different. As long as you keep them at just thoughts, you are fine. Don't give up your beliefs because you like some guy. Give your love to the partner you choose to marry. Its hard in this world to not do things of that nature, but I think you can do it.
2007-01-03 16:19:38 · answer #8 · answered by Eruthiadwen J 1 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I don't see why you can't be a devoted Christian woman and have some modern beliefs. There's nothing wrong with fantasizing about, or having pre-marital sex.
2007-01-03 16:22:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
humans ,,,we humans all have sexual thoughts, be mature as long as you are not doing anything about it and it stays inside your fantasy there is nothing wrong with it, the bible tells us that if we think of it we sin, but how do we get over it when logically we are made to want sex. just dont do any thing about it, and it does not harm any one you need not have problems with it
2007-01-03 16:20:03 · answer #10 · answered by haringmarumo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋