This whole time his motives were evil, how can a person live with himself by being so cruel..how do I begin to forgive, for the pain caused to my family by being mis-lead, & abused, mentally & spiritually?? HELP
2007-01-03 16:12:02 · 20 answers · asked by J-LUV 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Not everyone in the world is a kind and loyal person. Others need to put others in dire sitsuations to feel good about themselves. You were apparently just the poor victim of a terrible person. How do you forgive? Well thats really hard to answer because if you forgive the person they may think,"oh whew got away with it, so it is okay to hurt her feelings."
2007-01-03 16:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Shadows of my Sins 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people just don't give a rats-***. They are in it only for themselves and to hell with everyone else. These are not human beings they are animals. Thus the way you were treated. Never forgive. Never apologize. They are signs of weakness! Get a hobby, a pet ,a gym membership. Something. You dated a little boy. You need a man.
2007-01-03 16:17:27 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just pray and ask God for peace of mind. Do not give this person the energy that you are using to worry about it. Talk to your family and let it all out then leave it alone.
There is an old saying He can get by but he can't get away. He will have to answer to his wrong doing one way or the other.
Good Luck.
2007-01-03 16:15:58 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, remember that he is the one who did wrong, not you. And as for forgiving... why would you forgive him if he was "evil" and "cruel"? Hopefully he's out of the picture now and the healing starts. You should get some counselling right away to get you through these thoughts and learn some effective techniques to work through it with your family as well. Best of luck! :)
2007-01-03 16:19:10 · answer #4 · answered by Debbie B 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Seek professional guidance and work through the pain you're feeling. You can forgive in time, when you understand the person is unstable that causes such damage to others.
I wish you all the best.
2007-01-03 16:16:35 · answer #5 · answered by ☼High☼Voltage☼Blonde☼ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wounded people wound others. He has something wrong inside of himself that obviously makes him less compassionate. Maybe someone wasn't compassionate with him. You'll never fully understand why someone is cruel to you. You'll never fully know because you would have to have been there from the beginning of their lives to see all of their experiences to understand why they have become, sometimes the monster that they have. I am sorry that you have been hurt.
2007-01-03 16:18:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
with time, you will heal...unfortunately, there are alot of people out there that enjoy inflicting pain and heartache on others...I am sorry that you had to run into a man like that. Perhaps you have now had your turn and you will meet someone wonderful and good when the time is right....I wish you well
2007-01-03 16:15:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some people have destructive natures and can't help themsleves. It's how they get their power trips and they will almost never change. What was the evil things he did if you don't mind me asking?
2007-01-03 16:18:55 · answer #8 · answered by Brad H 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Guys are assholes, that is why nice guys finish last. I hope you are not with him anymore. He is not worth it. Dalai Lama: forgive, love and compassion. Live by those rules. Do not waste your negative energy on him, stay positive. Life is too short.
2007-01-03 16:17:01 · answer #9 · answered by Paul 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry , but nobody that's not your flesh and blood , should ever have that much of a foothold in your life . Never lose yourself , even for a moment , for anyone .
2007-01-03 16:16:58 · answer #10 · answered by prole1984 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋