last year i helped my daughter from time to time with what i could financially. well we would talk on the phone sometimes 3-6 times a day. well now that she has her income tax money she is acting funny. now when i call her she says with attitude, mom what do you want now. she is acting like im bothering her. well i talk to her about it and she got defensive. well im mad becuz i deserve better respect than that. she should get the big head cuz she got a couple of thousand dollars. that wont last, then she'll be begging again. i feel used and mistreated. what should i do?
2007-01-03 15:57:36 · 5 answers · asked by eaglestraces123 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my daughter called me too on a regular bases so it wasnt just me calling.
2007-01-03 16:04:18 · update #1
you should snap on her and make her understand
record how she acts and then play it back for her when she comes crawling for help
2007-01-03 16:01:44 · answer #1 · answered by zether 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋
OWNED....
Hey mom, it is time for you to cut the apron strings and let her live her own life. Your help here and there has created a monster... it is one thing to give her a box of food and a kiss on the cheeck when she is hungry but to continually help her out is not doing her any good....
Do not find her actions wrong as she realizes her freedom, so she is trying to break free..she is learning to have independance and no longer wants to be controlled.. it is confusing too think that your kids will thank you for them hating you so much but when you cut them loose they realize that food and warmth is a very precious thing and learn to be truly independant when they pay their own power, food lights etc...
Your right, the money won't last... put your feelings aside and let her become an independant adult... pull back out of her life, let her learn too fight and live in this world and you would teach her a great lesson... doesn't mean you don't love her... means you love her that much more...
so.... what too do, smile, good for you dear... why call her so much?.. time to cut that out... hey mom.. you need to go find a life.. take a night class, go dancing.. parachuting... your job is done with her.. let her learn... you go find something fun, adventurous and be the independant woman you are and want your daughter too be...
good luck..
2007-01-04 00:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by Maken trax 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your her mother, if she's not respecting you...it's your duty to put your foot down to her & teach her the respect you deserve. Children need to be tamed. Although it's our job as parents to look after our children, but never to spoil them to the point where they start acting like they can step all over you. She needs to be reminded that you carried her for 9 months & pushed her bratty butt out of you going through pains of hell, let her know you brought her into this world & you can take her out!
Kids can be cruel, especially while growing up to be young adults they are still in the process of maturing. As a mother, you need to be strong & discipline her more. Quit giving her so much money. Instead, teach her to be independent by making her get a job so she can earn her own money & learn the values of it. Once she becomes independent, pay her own bills, etc. She will then realize how much you've helped her & hopefully respect you from then on.
GOOD LUCK!
2007-01-04 00:05:39 · answer #3 · answered by sugarBear 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe u need to cut back on the calls i mean 3-6 times a day?! I would be so annoyed if my mum did that, no offense. Just stop calling so much and when she comes running back for more money tell her to go out and earn some!
2007-01-04 00:00:46 · answer #4 · answered by Onie 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
dont be a winer just get ur own ck.
2007-01-04 00:01:07 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋