I'm 16, I'm overweight and I don't think I can get a boyfriend. But this 400 pound girl in my grade has a boyfriend. I don't want to be the only one person who hasn't had a boyfriend. I don't want to die a virgin, but at this rate, I think I will. x_x I mean, I don't *need* a boyfriend, and most of the time, I don't *want* one, but I also sort of do want one--as an experience, I just feel weird and abnormal. I know I shouldn't rush into it, but...I just feel the need for a meaningless relationship like every other girl my age has. But then again, what's the point of the meaningless relationship? I usually scoff at the pointlessness of teenage dating. It's shallow, it's unimportant, and it goes nowhere...or does it? I just want to try and see it for myself, but I can't stand any boys at my school or anything, and I'm not desirable. I don't understand how the meanest, most unpleasant girls get the best guys. x_x
2007-01-03 15:49:23 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You might feel bad right now and things might not being going how you would imagine them, but don't worry. Once you are out of high school, things will change. They do for everyone. Some of the guys and gals you see now that are dating will be the same jokers you will see 15 years from now hanging at the local bar with a job at the gas station. Some of the people that aren't in the big social circle will be there too, but many of them will have moved on to bigger and better things. Think to the future and don't dwell on it now.
Another thing to think about for the future is that it is much easier for a gal to find a guy than the other way around. Good luck to you, mate!
2007-01-03 15:54:15 · answer #1 · answered by ebush73 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are only 16 and still developing, you sound intelligent and I'm sure you can loose weight by changing you eating habits and exercising (do it for health reasons only). Remember that not everyone likes bones.
As far as not having a boyfriend yet, I am very proud of you. You are young and love will come to you when you least expect it. Those girls with meaningless relationships (you said it yourself), that is not love, The meanest and most unpleasant girls get the best guys because those girls give it up (sex). They are been used at their own choice. You are better and deserve better.
I suggest that you have a lot of friends, just friends. The best love relationships grow from friendship. During friendship you get to know the inner beauty of individuals and end up falling in love the right way (healthy way).
One girl told me in front of my classmates that I was a lesbian because I didn't have a boyfriend in 8th grade. She just hated me because all the guys in our class were my friends and they respected me. See, I was popular the right way. Anyway I had my 1st boyfriend when I was a Junior in H.S and it was ok, no big deal.
You are smart! Continue making smart choices. Good Luck!
2007-01-03 16:12:27 · answer #2 · answered by Abby 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you are very smart and know the answer to your own question. You know you shouldn't just do something because other people your age are doing it. As long as you are happy and healthy, someone will desire you. Just be confident and keep a positive attitude. Do not rush into anything. I promise that if you do, you will only regret it later on in life. You sound like you have a good head on your shoulders. You are still young and have plenty of time to worry about guys. Right now just figure out what you want to do to make yourself happy. Find a college to go to, etc.. The most unpleasant girls will get a wake up call when they get to the real world. There are so many things in life beyond high school so don't worry about them. Good luck with everything.
2007-01-03 15:57:34 · answer #3 · answered by lins0043 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honey Listen. I think that there's absolutely nothing wrong with not having a boyfriend at 16. I didn't have one at 16 and thats because I didnt want one. At this point in time there are other things that are more important and when that time comes for you to get involved in a relationship it will happen. Dont rush something that you are not ready for. I believe that the older you are the better you are at figuring out whats bull and whats not. The reason why is because you have seen others go through it. Now there's nothing wrong with just having friends that you kick it with, go to the movies, eat, whatever. Dont ever think that because you are overweight that a guy wont like you. When you do get with someone; you want someone to like you for whats inside, your mind, your heart. Never put yourself down. If you feel that you need to improve yourself then do so ......but only for YOU and not to get a relationship.
2007-01-03 16:01:26 · answer #4 · answered by B S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen nothing is wrong with that, im 19 im in my first relationship, have been for a year and a half, Waiting to loose your virginity is good, all my friends lost theirs when they were 13 and ****, none of their relationships have worked, and they have no self worth! Instead of worrying about that experience, worry about what makes you happy, it worked for me! Boys right now at your age just want sex and easy girls, no commitment and not a good friendship. Im sure there may be someone out there thats not totally like that, and they'll notice you, cause your not like all those girls! Just have fun and be safe! Sorry if im not any help, but i went through pretty much the same thing not that long ago! As far as your weight goes, it doesnt actually matter, its your personality that does! Good luck!
2007-01-03 15:58:09 · answer #5 · answered by ashleycasperblue 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I am 17 and I have never had a boyfriend. It used to make me sad, but now I am okay with it. I do not particullary want a boyfriend at this time. I'm not totally opposed to the idea eitheir. However, there is no one I really would like to date right now. I think High School dating is rather silly. It is not like you are going to marry that person. I plan to wait for college to begin dating. And then see what happens. Howver, it is my deepest desire to find a man who loves me and marry him and even though i have not yet had a boyfriend I am confident that I will find the person perfect for me. Right now though I feel as though my focus should be on God. i know he loves me and that he is all I truly need. I have faith though that he will provide me with someone to love and love me back. But the time is not right yet and I am okay with that. I Suspect that you too will someday find the right person. Until then try to keep your chin up and not worry about it. And know that God is the only one who will truly be able to fill the hole in your heart. Best wishes.
2007-01-03 16:01:07 · answer #6 · answered by answer me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The guys that seem like the 'best' guys probably are far from it. It is what is inside that makes you desirable. When you are younger you judge people alot on silly things, as you get older you realize what is in someones heart is much more important than what brand of clothes they where or what reflection stares back at them. Don't rush into anything. You could join some local clubs, don't aim for having a boyfriend, aim for meeting some boys for friendship only. After a friendship develops then and only then will you know if you are compatable with a certain boy. You seem much smarter than alot of girls your age and I am sure you are very desirable to a boy that cares about your heart and mind more than one who only cares about your body. Be strong and have faith in yourself hunny.
2007-01-03 15:55:47 · answer #7 · answered by surfer_grl_ca 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
totally. I'm 17 and I've had 3. I don't go out with people alot because I want to keep my focus on God and worry about the important things. I think that's the best thing to do because I see too many teens today being affected badly by relationships. They get hurt or turn into sluts, gays, lesbians, and bisexuals. I totally understand what you're saying though. that's how it goes though. the worst girls usually always get the best guys. I think it's an image thing tho. Hollywood has everyone worried about image, so no one cares about what really matters. That's why the divorce rate is getting higher and higher.
2007-01-03 15:58:39 · answer #8 · answered by Britt 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen, your weight has nothing to do with your beauty and personality. You obviously havent found the right guy that just makes your heart melt...You dont have to rush into a childish relationship with just any guy...you can be different. Besides, you have your whole life. You will meet someone one day that thinks you are angel. I understand that a lot of girls at your school are experiencing sex and making out...but trust me, you dont want a reputation like that. Respectful guys do not want girls that have been around a lot. Also, if you are not interested in guys at school, you could try getting to know someone from church...but please dont rush....just have fun, even if that means staying single until youre 25!
2007-01-03 15:57:51 · answer #9 · answered by apye1984 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's definitely normal. No need to rush into dating unless you're ready for marriage. You will meet so many more men after high school and in your 20s so I wouldn't worry about it. Take your sweet time! People change over the years, too. The person you date now, will not be the same person later. It's way better to wait until after they've had some growing up to do, especially when it's around the time that you're ready to marry.
2007-01-03 15:53:06 · answer #10 · answered by kakolikapiha 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋