2007-01-03 15:48:18 · 17 answers · asked by christina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I am 16 he 19 and he claims to be in love with me. but he can never find a way to come and see me, and I am supposed to be in love with him. We have been together 1yr. And I just started cheating on him with a friend. I see him more than my boyfriend. He saying that I should try to go and see him, but I can't find a ride. He say that he always come out to my house which he only came about 3 or 4 times. And when we go out he only stays for about 5-10 mins, talking about he's not going to have a way back to his house. And the only ride that he can find is from is cousin, but his cousins don't like so they won't bring him out to my house. What's a girl to do?
2007-01-03 16:12:14 · update #1
Well , that is a hard question and it depends on each individual situation..If I knew more about your situation it would be easier to answer you..It is normal to be tempted, just some people do not have self control when it comes to holding back from those temptations.. Its a shame to say but some times people make excuses in there own heads just to do it and not feel bad..This does not make it right by any means but it is true..I'd like to think that if some one cheats that it means that they just do not love the other person enough!!But their are some cases that are different..This question can be argued over and over again..Its a non ending question..So you have to look at your own situation and determine if you want to give your life to this person, can you get over what happened and move on? Can you still give 100% to this relationship? If not then by all means please move on with you life and find some body that they answer is yes to each of those questions..
2007-01-03 15:58:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some it's for ego or reassurance - which suggests they're not getting enough of it in their relationship. For others it's because of the same reason we over-eat at Xmas (and other times!) Many may not have had sufficient relationships, or adventures, before the one they're with, so other paddocks seem greener at least for a ramble. We change through life, and so do our partners. If we don't grow together, increasingly valuing what we have, we grow restless. And if either or both haven't grown up sufficiently before the relationship we have, so we know its value compared with other fantasies, we tend to "cheat" rather than discuss how we feel - because we don't have the courage to be honest, or to make a firm decision to "leave the nest". That may be why many women, being eventually braver than men and more in tune with their feelings, tend to leave relationships whether they have a lover or not; and men usually leave only when they have another berth to fall into - another mother to take care of them. Men have very sensitive egos, poor things.
2007-01-04 00:01:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most males/females cheat wheneva they have a fight with there spouse. They go out and the 1st "easy" person they meet that shows them *any* kinda attention/affection, they fall for!!
I don't see why ppl cheat when they claim they *luv* the person they're with. It's like they *don't* luv them since that's the worse way to betray sumone and lose they're trust. I would say.. The person doesn't luv the other person but most of the time.. They do. They just mess up BIG TIME and shouldn't be with anyone.
Why cheat when u can just break up with the person?!?
2007-01-03 23:57:24 · answer #3 · answered by 2Cute2BYoGurl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most likely, the person who cheats has an incredible low self-image. I work with people all the time who cheat and it usually comes from a need to be validated. Sex can be validation to a man and emotional attachment through sex can be validation for a woman...or vice versa. When someone says they cheated and they say to you "it's not about you, it's me" that's probably true. Until the person is willing and able to work on "filling up their cup of self-esteem" they probably won't stop looking.
2007-01-03 23:58:54 · answer #4 · answered by surgicalvenom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The answer is very simple. Someone who cheats is turned on by cheating. When they go through the lies and cover ups and apologies, they are not being honest with themselves. The truth is that cheaters cheat because it turns them on to cheat. It's like a fettish that they're not always proud of. Once you know that, it's easy to dump them and keep them out of your life.
2007-01-03 23:53:10 · answer #5 · answered by LM S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well what everyone said is right. i have cheated on my husband but for stupid reasons. he would always talk down to me and i told him that i could find someone better and he didnt believe me so i showed him. it was a stupid thing to do and it did not get the point accross. so i dont think that 'once a cheater, always a cheater' thing applies to me cause i felt worse than he did afterwards and would never do it again.
2007-01-03 23:53:11 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Refer to the Ladder Theory: www.laddertheory.com
2007-01-03 23:50:46 · answer #7 · answered by Jeff W 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
because they're a j a c k a s s and can't make up their mind...they'd rather have it both ways than hurt either girl because they're a coward. mostly they just can't deal with no sex for more than an hour so they go to another woman because it's easiest.
2007-01-03 23:53:27 · answer #8 · answered by Naomi 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's what I'd like to know, but my question was more like why do people that claim to love someone hurt that person?
2007-01-03 23:55:37 · answer #9 · answered by Curious_Camo_Jess 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know I cheated because my relationship was monotonous and I just needed to know if there was something better out there. Vodka doesn't help, either.
2007-01-03 23:55:19 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋