my parents just got divorced and my dad already let a lady live with him.and when i go over to his house i start crying cause i have to see her.what do i do.i tried talking to him but he is so sencitive i don't want to hurt his feelings.what do i do?
2007-01-03 15:46:31 · 13 answers · asked by smsurz 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
You are going to his house to visit him, not her. Tell him you are
not ready to visit her yet. And you are there to visit him only. Try to keep her out of your head. Focus only on you and your dad,
your life, your future goals, you are #1 & you are his daughter.
Go places with your dad, out to lunch or to the movies or beach,
just the two of you. Time with dad alone.
2007-01-03 15:59:25 · answer #1 · answered by Annie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think you have to control your feelings exactly...just put them in check a bit. It is a terrible thing when a child lives through their parents' divorce. You probably feel that it is hard to be loyal to both of them at the same time. You don't say why you cry to see her...I can only think that it is because she is not your mom. Try to get to know her...give her a chance. You won't hurt your dad if you give it a try. You might be surprised to find out that it is ok for the three of you to have fun. You are not being disloyal to your mom. Remember, they were not happy together and if this woman makes your dad happy, you should be happy for him. I hope this helps.
2007-01-03 16:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Santa's Elf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find other people your age who have been through this. If you are in high school or college, go to a counselor - they are free, and can find a support group for you. You are not alone - there are so many people who have gone through this.
The number one thing you should remember is that while your parents decisions have hurt you, they are not personal/against you. There is nothing you could have done differently. It was their inability to cope and deal with life in general that led to this outcome. Their children are victims of circumstance.
When all else fails, find a Bible (or a Bible website) and read some Psalms (seriously!).
2007-01-03 15:58:13 · answer #3 · answered by jane 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
no person ever needs to get divorced. maximum individuals pass right into a marriage hoping it lasts continuously and nicely, now and back issues do not artwork out and it would not. Do you like the doorstep mom or are you merely used to her? Do you nevertheless have a dating jointly with your organic and organic mom? I grew up in a mixed family individuals and that i by no ability truly had a situation with it. My step dad even observed me because of the fact my actual dad by no ability gave a crap and it truly is been astounding ever on condition that! Do you think of you will desire the doorstep mom to undertake you on condition that she has continuously been there for you besides?
2016-10-19 10:49:18 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to talk to him and his friend. She might not be a bad person, but it is normal for you to feel betrayed and resentful.
You need to realize that your parents are divorced, because they could no longer live together. That is not your fault, and they still love you, just not in the same house.
Your dad is sensitive, he does not want you to be upset, and doesnt know how to fix it. Talking to him will help him to understand, and also give him a chance to talk to you.
If you talk to his girlfriend, and explain how you feel, and not blame her, she will understand also, and might be a good friend. It does not mean you do not love your mother to like this person, it just means you have another friend you can turn to if needed.
2007-01-03 15:57:28 · answer #5 · answered by joy q 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was 14 when mine got divorced. It hurts.I am older now. I just never learned to like my mom and dads new relationships but I accepted them.Hard to do. It is an up hill climb all the way .Good luck.
You are the child he is the adult make him be that.
2007-01-03 16:18:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My parents are devorsed and i know the feeling when they start to date agian it is hard but the best way to deal with is to be honest with them. Your dad will understand i am sure he would rather you tell him then keep it buried inside u untily ou cant anympore and somehting happens that wont be good its just easier to get out in the beghinning
2007-01-03 16:42:01 · answer #7 · answered by rockerchick 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't control your feelings. But, with practice, you can control how you react to them.
Feelings happen. Sometimes their great - sometimes they are painful. Parents divorcing is said to be a pain second only to having one of them die.
Your parents are probably in pain, as well. Time will eventually reduce the pain and you will get better at learning how to react - and not react - to them.
Divorce sucks.
2007-01-03 15:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know it hurts but you have to remain silent,it will get easier.You don,t know the entire truth,and did not know what all went on behind closed doors..just love your Mom and your dad and don,t lay blame anywhere....the hurt will get easier if you give it time...
2007-01-03 15:53:18 · answer #9 · answered by slickcut 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just write him an e~mail saying "dad I am NOT comfortible when I'm at your house and I see "that woman" at your house. Lol naw J.K but maybe try talking to him in private
Scream in a pillow or go in a car with no one in there and scream as HARD as you can
2007-01-03 15:52:16 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋