So iam in this dilema... I love this guy alot! He is the most caring and sweet guy ever... And he would do anything for me..I've been with him for a few years now, and things are getting serious now. BUT he has no money to support me and i dont really think hes capable of holding on to a job. HELPPP
2007-01-03 15:17:20 · 13 answers · asked by FairyTale94 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well, normally i would say that you are shallow because of this, but there are different degrees of no money
no money = he is not a milionare
no money = he does not make enough to buy me the things i want
no money = he can't afford to take me to anything fancier that mcdonalds
no money = he has no job and no money and can't even take me to mcdonalds
it all depends on your concept of no money, but if he is on the low end of this list htne its probably not going to work since alot of couples fight and get divorced over money issues
if he is on the top end of this list then i will just say you are shallow
2007-01-03 15:26:20 · answer #1 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
coming from experience a guy that cannot hold a job is something you do not want to get yourself into. I'm only 20 but i was in a 3 year relationship with a guy that held a job in those 3 years for no longer than 4 months each ... although love is powerful and should be able to get you through things it is tough to be in a relationship and live with someone and do things as a couple or a family with only one bread winner in the family... i mean there is one thing to not marrying a guy or being with a guy because he is just poor or cant have a job or whatever but its a completely differne thing when you are with a guy who cannot hold a job because of lack of ambition.. that makes you think what else is he lacking ambition on? poor parenting came come from lack of ambition (as i have found out thru friends parents), its all a cycle, get out while it is still good
2007-01-03 15:37:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well if he really loves you and would do "anything for you" let him get a job and date you but don't live with him and don't have babies yet.. if you feel he cant hold a job there is a gut instinct you have already so um.. wake up serious is only how far you let your guard down and get sappy right bout now. I learned a long time ago if a guy loves you he will buy you things not necessarily high ticket items but think of you and buy you things and give his time to you and get a dam job and keep it .. its called mature and all grown up and responsible.. otherwise hes ripping himself off of quality of life but your as well.
2007-01-03 15:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by gypsygirl731 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think you should just be friends becuz you really dont want a man who cant do nothing for you. not trying to be funny but thats real life. if he stays with you he need to hold a job. cuz if you ever needed help no one will help you. they will say where is your man why hasnt he done anything to help. then most people wwould wonder why are you with a man who cant help you. some people will say you dont need his help and to get your own money but those are the ones who have money already. well tell him to get a job and hold it done. cuz nothing going on but the rent, you got to have a j-o-b if you want to be with me.
2007-01-03 15:23:53 · answer #4 · answered by eaglestraces123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Does he have any ambitions. If he has none then maybe he is destined to be a loser. That says a lot about responsibility. Put a couple kids in the equation and it could become a big problem.
2007-01-03 15:20:13 · answer #5 · answered by Pete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with Pete. Does he have any ambitions? If he has no ambitions, and he's going to "mooch" off you all his life, find another guy. My sister married a guy like that, and then he cleaned out her bank account and mailed nasty letters to her employer and ruined any chances of her being promoted at work. Needless to say, she divorced him now and he is not even allowed to see his daughter (my niece.)
2007-01-03 16:13:24 · answer #6 · answered by gidget2523 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While money is always a concern, it shouldn't overshadow love. Are you looking for someone to support you, like you shouldn't have to work, or are you looking for a partner?
2007-01-03 15:21:04 · answer #7 · answered by daddius42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your asking this question, then in my opinion, your not really in love. I know that When i was in love, i didnt care if she was poor, rich, skinny, fat, bald, hairy, whatever. I didnt matter to me because i loved her.
2007-01-03 15:24:35 · answer #8 · answered by J_Dawg 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay with him. True love can get you through anything
2007-01-03 15:21:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
99% happiness comes through money .
2007-01-03 15:24:50 · answer #10 · answered by unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋