My brother and I went out with his wife. And his wife was putting me down and saying hurtful things about me. So I tell her how I felt without profanity. Now my brother and his wife are still mad at me to this day. I apologized to her, but they are still mad. All of this happened months ago. What do you think
2007-01-03 15:09:20 · 22 answers · asked by christina 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
I forgot to say she never liked our side of the family to begin with. I've never said anything bad about her, I have always been nice to her. And she calls herself a Chiristain going person.
2007-01-03 15:20:03 · update #1
I think you should have stood up for yourself. Your brother should have told her not to treat you like that. But, he probably didn't because he didn't want her mad at him. Just keep praying for him and he will eventually come around. I know you are hurting, but just put it in God's hands and he will help you throught it.
2007-01-03 15:21:47 · answer #1 · answered by Cindy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your brothers wife is saying offensive things about you than she is probably feeling threatened in some way by the relationship you and your brother have. Don't bother asking her this she may not even know this herself.
She is wrong to say those things but your response put you in the wrong by lowering yourself to the petty squabble the wife was trying to start with you (she was successful, and now gets to play the victim) her husband (your brother) is right to side with his wife because that is the role men play in a marriage (provider/protector).
If you want to fix this try talking to your brother and tell him that you were wrong to tell his wife off, but were hurt by what she said and lost your temper (which doesn't excuse your actions).
You must be honest and sensitive to their feelings in a situation like this especially if it involves family.
2007-01-03 23:17:32 · answer #2 · answered by PKs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like to need to have a one on one chat with your brother. Family should stick together, but sometimes it takes work. If he isn't;t willing to work things our between the two of you, it is probably because his wife is influencing him a lot. I would suggest another attempt, and if he won't try, then tell him that you will give them space...and no drama...and when and if he needs you...call you.
2007-01-04 00:00:25 · answer #3 · answered by catywhumpass 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U ARE NOT IN THE WRONG HERE!!!!!! if u have already apologized and such, there is nothing left for you to do, ESPECIALLY if she is the one who started it all. your brother should know that u told her what u felt because no one likes being attacked. dont worry, they'll come around. most likely your brother is embarassed of his wife and is trying to figure out how to approach you, becuz he is sort of in the middle here, since he loves both of you. but YOU come first, ur the sister.
2007-01-03 23:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Fun lovin girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
some people need more time to digest and accept things than others. Give them more time or try talking about it to your brother, especially if you were close. Tell you problem without sounding rude and placing blame.
good luck
(ps. You were right as long as you are not over reacting)
2007-01-03 23:12:38 · answer #5 · answered by curiosity killed the cat 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is a hard question because i don't really know details but i think that you should just let them be or if you really want to try to fix it then try to talk to your brother and tell him that he shouldn't let that come between your friendship because you guys are family and thats not right and it's immature. but if you try to fix and it still doesn't work then i would say leave them alone.
2007-01-03 23:14:13 · answer #6 · answered by Mrs.Dennis 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is only mad because she is mad and if he where to take your side he wouldn't get any. Try and talk to your brother alone and see what happens.
2007-01-03 23:15:40 · answer #7 · answered by Mr. Sir 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that it's your brother's and his wife's move. You apologized.
If you've told the scene straight, it sounds like maybe it was your sister in law's problem to begin with.
Be friendly, but not pushy. Maybe time will help the problem.
2007-01-03 23:13:53 · answer #8 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had a similar problem with my boyfriend's sister. I cursed her out one good time and I haven't had a problem since. Sometimes you just have to tell people how you feel and move on. If they don't like u after that, oh well. Life goes on.
2007-01-03 23:26:58 · answer #9 · answered by kiya 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to your brother alone, tell him what you told us. Then tell him that you love him, he is your brother, but you will not feel guilty for sticking up for yourself, as he should have stopped the conversation before it got that far.
If he wants to stay away, that is his choice, but you made the effort.
2007-01-04 00:27:39 · answer #10 · answered by joy q 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋