I have been with my girlfriend for 8 months. She is really trustworthy, pretty, and overall a great girl. The only problem is it seems like she has no genuine interest in sex with anyone. We have had sex, but it's like she has no sex drive. I tried talking with her about this and working it out but she is just not much into exploring sex. I hate it because I want that intimacy and sex is rare. But everything else is great. Well it had been 3 months since any kind of sex and we had an arguement over it. I had a party at my house and a girl was there that I had known from a while back. After everyone left and she stayed it just happened and we had sex. I was a little drunk but I don't blame that. I knew what was going on and at the time I was tired of no sex life so I didn't resist her and did the deed. I have never cheated in my life and I don't know what to do about this. One side says I'm a dog but another says it was gonna happen sooner or later.
2007-01-03 15:03:17 · 17 answers · asked by jared d 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm too young for this but ya. you cheated bad time.
2007-01-03 15:07:01 · answer #1 · answered by figureskater&awsome! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
This really depends on how commited to the relationship you are. You did not write what her response to your conversation about sex was, but understand that there a lot of reasons for her lack of interest in sex, she may have been hurt physically by it or emotionally. Try easing her into it by taking an extra long time with the fore-play. That might make her more comfortable and more receptive. If you haven't told her about your mistake - don't. No need of hurting her heart. Just do not let it happen again. If your urges are that strong because of your lack of physical contact with her, let her go it will only get worse if you do not.
2007-01-03 15:12:57 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
The non-sex girlfriend is not satisfying your needs. The girl from the party did. Love is about mutual hapiness and respect. It seems like you might be happier with the party girl. If you do wish to stay with the non-sex girlfriend that is great, just don't give into her every demand. Pull back a little and let her miss you..appreciate you. If she does not have the same passion for you as you do for her, after a while, it may be time to move on.
2007-01-03 15:11:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude thats not your fault at all, are you married to your gf ? No, so your free to do whatever and see whomever. Look your gf wants to ignore the problem you 2 were having, question is do you want to be with a girl who doesnt want to have sex with you? Long-Term you want this? It's time to explore, if someone else comes along than thats great. I'd start looking for a replacement for your current gf. And I wouldn't tell her if I were you, thats your privacy there. Remember your not married here, and don't feel down, think positive and stay calm.
2007-01-03 15:09:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You two do not have the same wants and needs.
You did cheat on her and that was a bad thing to do. Ideally, if she is not meeting your needs and you have tried and failed to fix the problem, then your only option is to break up with her.
That way you can find a girl who's sexual appetite matches yours, and your current girl can find a guy who doesn't want sex, and then you will both be happy.
2007-01-03 17:59:46 · answer #5 · answered by Anna K 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are not a dog. However you cheated, someone put their trust in you and you breached. You can't changed what happened, but you should be honest with the girl you're with , would'nt you expect the same respect. You jeopardized the relationship with something you knew there was gonna be a consequence for, face the consequence.
2007-01-03 15:11:48 · answer #6 · answered by annette_642 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It was a one time thing. Do not tell your girlfriend ever!! You do need to decide how important sex is to you though. It's very normal to want sexual intimacy and if you're not getting it, you need to make a break with your girlfriend now before you find yourself commited to an unfullfilling relationship.
2007-01-03 15:10:16 · answer #7 · answered by nursesr4evr 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey, you are not married to your girlfriend. I think that you need to break up with her though. I would not tell her about the other girl, it would only hurt her feelings. Where do you think your relationship will go with no sex? Do not kid yourself into thinking that you can make the relationship with your girl be fulfilling with no sex!
2007-01-03 15:09:45 · answer #8 · answered by Pete 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude pretty tough dilemna. I would advise u to think to think about whether sex is more important or is your girlfriend. Cause it aint gunna work if u want sex with a girl who doesnt. Either u somehow get her to b more horny or u break up.
well gl man
2007-01-03 15:22:47 · answer #9 · answered by dunhate235 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are a cheater, if you are in a commited relationship - married or not and you screw someone else you are a cheater.
If you love this girl, you will feel guilty, and maybe not telling her would be the best thing, but if you have discussed this with your friends that are friends with her too, this is a bad thing, she will find out sooner or later...if it was me I would dump your a s s
2007-01-03 15:26:11 · answer #10 · answered by SAM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your girlfriend what you just told us. If she dumps you then it's your own fault but what you just told us is the best thing to say to keep that from happening.
2007-01-03 15:12:16 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋