My girlfriend (of 2 years) and I have called it splits.
She worked as a consultant and spent many weeks away on business trips and vacations. We didn't spent a lot of time together. Perhaps 2 dates a month... and sometimes no dates for 2 months. She rarely called me, and rarely answered her phone when I called her.
When I got mad at her and told her I didn't want to be treated this way, she would say "I'm sorry but you know how demanding my job is. Don't say I didn't warn you."
So either I just put up with her ****, or just someone else. It should be a no brainer. But the problem was that I was deeply in love with her. She was perfect in everyway, which made it so hard to let her ago.
I miss her so much, but I'm also mad at her. We haven't spoken in 4 months and never will.
What's the best way to get over the saddness/anger thing? Without getting into details, my life's been a downward spiral for the past 4 months.
Thanks for reading. Take care.
2007-01-03 14:50:35 · 15 answers · asked by Mister Bingley 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You need to find someone who will treat you right and be there for you.
2007-01-03 14:53:39 · answer #1 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh you poor thing!
the truth is you never really get over a love like that, but it helps if you try to move on. Give yourself time to grieve the loss of the relationship, but don't take more than a few months. The easiest way to forget about someone is to find someone else.
And you have to remember that if she really was perfect in every way, there wouldn't have been any problem between you guys. So she may have been perfect, but together you weren't.
2007-01-03 22:55:14 · answer #2 · answered by catsup 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Once you get past the mood swings of anger and off/on depression.... things still seem a bit worse. I won't lie.
Everything reminds you of that person. You get frustrated, stressed, angry at the littlest thing. Then.. there is that one day. Clarity. You realize that life can be a bit better if I just let it be. Allow the things to progress as they do. Time is your worst enemy, yet (in the end) saves you. You don't see it but you will.
2007-01-03 23:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by sarahbelle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been trying to figure this out myself!! I haven't spoken to or seen my ex in over 1 year & I can't seem to move on & forget him.It hurts sooo much!!! He was very toxic & I should be so happy he's gone but when you love someone for 6 years,it doesn't go away because you know they are wrong for you & you are better off.I do know how you feel all too well & it really sucks!!!!! I want to be happy & I know that is how you are feeling...I guess time will tell my friend!!! Good Luck!!!!
2007-01-03 22:56:15 · answer #4 · answered by spicy1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
aww hun >>hugs<< i kno how u feel. my bf and i have been in a reall y bad conflict the last few days and in some way si kno im better off without him and in other ways i dont want to let him go coz i love him so dearly. i kno its hard, n it hurts like hell. im not sure how to get over some one u love so much, and im not sure how to make u feel better, but all i can say is, there is some one out there for u, and u need to start concentratin on urself, do things u love doing and try n hang around ur mates, ppl who make u feel good and help u laugh n stuff, try findin someone u trust and can talk to., and dont keep ur feelings bottled up, coz i kno wen u alone thats all u seam to think about n ur life starts to feel like sh.it. tryin to stay positive and gettin thru each day is wat u can hope for. i hope it all works out for u.
2007-01-03 22:57:02 · answer #5 · answered by MiSsY 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm so sorry....broken hearts are a b****, aren't they?
The best way is to pamper yourself when needed, try and visualize the sadness and anger leaving you by sitting still and breathing while visualizing (meditating) and time.
It's not easy, but.....it's obvious this wasn't meant to be, and isn't that keeping you for the person who IS? When you find her you'll realize she was worth everything you're going through now, I promise you.
2007-01-03 22:53:48 · answer #6 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
the only way to get over something this hurtful is time. if she is as perfect as you say she is then this is not something you get over. i know it may hurt but you need to realise that love is not something you get over. go on and look and maybe there will be another
2007-01-03 22:59:06 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I heard a guy on the radio who wrote a book on the subject. I didnt get it but he sounded like he could help you.
www.grief.net the book is called moving on
2007-01-03 22:54:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
find something to keep your mind off of her.but then there is those times at night when your laying in bed and are think ig of her and there is nothing to stop you. i dont think you love her i think u lust her. b/c if you loved her you would want the best for he rnot for you. saying you need her is selfish. she had things to do with her job and so if you loved her then you would o fbroken up with her b/c you realized that she needed it not you.
2007-01-03 22:55:32 · answer #9 · answered by carebear_destroyer 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
just go out and meet some other women and tell them about the girl u was with and talked and she went away they will listin and u will feel free to talk to another women about your problems because she will listin and that will make u happy
2007-01-03 22:55:06 · answer #10 · answered by LifesJourney 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋