I already said I wanted to take things slow because I'm 20 and she's 19, but this is the first time I've ever been out with a girl in my life, and of course she has a baby. I don't believe that the baby's daddy knows about the kid (she never told him, i don't know why). We've gone out once, and talk on the phone alot. She's also a coworker, but we hardly work at the same time.
Just so you don't assume things, I'm studying for Mechanical Engineering in college, and I'm not out looking to get laid.
2007-01-03 14:39:15 · 8 answers · asked by Wocka wocka 6 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
I think you should just try and remember that when you date a woman with a child that the child is part of the "package". Treat her with respect as you would any other woman. She's not defective for having a baby. It just means that she has more responsibility.
I suggest that once you have been on more dates to try to perhaps include her child in some of your outings. Make an effort to get to know her child. You never know she could be "the one" and you would need to learn how to be a stepparent.
I had my son at 19 and when I met my husband he never judged me for having a baby. He treated me like any other woman and he bonded with my son as time progressed. Now my son views him as his dad way more so than his biological father.
I would never assume you are just trying to get laid. The fact that she has a baby doesn't mean she is promiscious.
Good luck!
2007-01-03 14:47:43 · answer #1 · answered by Cute But Evil 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first figure out if you are going to have a serious relationship with this girl before you even meet the child. if its not going to go anywhere dont involve a kid. take the relationship slow though, she may have some issues that she has to work out if she has a kid with someone else and is no longer with him. try to have a talk with her about where the babies father is, if you do end up in a relationship with her this might be important information to have as he may come around again for whatever reason. good luck
2007-01-03 22:46:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you like her, and want to be with her, make sure you occasionally include the child in some of your outings. Not all, just some. Ask about him during your many phone calls. Don't let him dominate your conversations, just show that you are interested in the childs well being. Understand, any mom with a child that young, you're getting the whole package, not just the mom.
2007-01-03 22:48:11 · answer #3 · answered by daddius42 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually I was in your situation when I was exactly your age. Word of advice, she might have to break a few dates once in a while due to no babysitter available. It happened a couple of times to me with her, so I we went on our first date together to her house for supper and played with her son most of the night. It will be tough but be patient because she has a little one to put first.
2007-01-03 22:52:48 · answer #4 · answered by DLG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get laid, enjoy her company, don't knock her up. I married a girl that had a 5 year old. Eventually she became more protective of him and less interested in me. We divorced 7 years later.
Don't marry her. That is a job for the father of her baby. If she rejects him, she will likely eventually reject you, even if it is several years from now.
2007-01-03 22:48:13 · answer #5 · answered by Tim 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't need any advice. just be yourself and her son has nothing to do with the date. i am sure she is not looking for a daddy for her baby. so just go and have fun
2007-01-03 22:43:03 · answer #6 · answered by jumiboo 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your going out with the girl, not her son.
2007-01-03 22:52:49 · answer #7 · answered by tequilagold_32 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will be fine as long as you talk to her about what your thinking and feeling
2007-01-03 22:44:06 · answer #8 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋