Answers please!!! I need as many as possible!!! Very tough decision!!!?

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SORRY FOR ASKING THIS QUESTION SO MUCH GUYS! I'M JUST TRYING TO GET AS MANY DIFFERENT OPINIONS AND ADVICE AS POSSIBLE!!! =]

OK so here is our deal. We first started going out in May. Everything was perfectly fine for like the first 4 months. Then she cheated on me over the summer with one of her ex's. She called me and told me about it..and I forgave her for it..cause this is my first relationship and I didn't know what to do at the time..then school started again and she broke up with me on my birthday (big bummer), and then a month after that we started going out again, and then one of her Ex's started calling her (a different one), and for some reason she says she hates him, but they talk on the phone (arguing most of the time, but then they start apologizing and talk for like hours, her best friend told me this, dunno if having information like this being given to me by her friend is a good idea or not..)and she has his myspace on her friends list, and they argue alot on there too, and he always keeps asking her out and **** on there, and then when I asked to know what was going on,

she got mad and broke up with me again, assuming that I thought she was cheating on me, when I just asked what had happened. Then like 2 weeks later we got back together AGAIN, because she said she was second guessing, and the same stuff happened. For some reason ever since we broke up the first time we have been fighting. We had never fought before...I'm not asking anyone to decide for me, I just need some advice is all..because I think she is going to break up with me again tommorow because recently she's started acting weird..she doesn't kiss me anymore, doesn't let me kiss her, her hugs are shorter and she used to say she loved me too whenever we hugged but now she says she doesn't want me to tell her I love her..instead she just either says bye or nothing at all..

Answer 1

The problem here is not her, is you...Take your life back, and love yourself a little bit, when you know who you are, what do you want and what do you deserve, you dont allow anybody hurt you, play or make waste your time. She is sick and have a very serious problem, she need another kind of advice, but you have a great future, and when you be sure that just great things have to be in your life is when you going to start receiving it. Your problems is because you feel lonely and idealize a relationship, but if you are honest with yourself you know that nobody and less you deserve a treatment like that. Is better be alone and happy than sad and worry trying to convince that bithc to love you. Love yourself

Answer 2

Sounds like this relationship has run it's course and it's time to move on. Sad fact is that your heart will be broken many times throughout your life but you will also be responsible for breaking some hearts yourself. That's just life and it sounds to me like your young so you have many more loves to go through before finding Ms. Right. Give yourself some time to grieve the end of this relationship then go out there and show the world that you are an able and confident young man. Trust me when I tell you that your heart will heal and that you will find another girlfriend and hopefully one that isn't into playing all these games on you. Best of luck and have a great 2007.

Answer 3

Yeah, ok could you repeat all that in english? It seems like the relationship is a little one-sided to me. I don't know all the details of the situation, but you can't let this girl keep doing this yo-yo thing with your emotions. It isn't fair to you. Every relationship has its problems, but it might be time for you to move on. There are plenty of fish in the sea. If anything, maybe the two of you should take a break and sort through your emotions. Just an idea.

Answer 4

Mm usually what I've learned is that when people accuse you of cheating it's because of one of two reasons. 1. They are either cheating on you or 2. They are incredibly insecure about the relationship and is genuinely worried. The thing is which one do you think she is?
Secondly, I'd hate to break it to you, but her behavior sounds pretty familiar to me (and it wasn't good). But honestly, everyone's different, so you never know. The best thing to do is to bring it up to her so that you two have an honest relationship. And it's best not to let this drag out on it's own (trust me), it'll just make things worse. For instance, if you let it sit, it may be too late to save the relationship, or it may hurt more later on.
Point being, follow your gut, if you want to fight for this relationship fight for it. But if you're not feeling it anymore, don't stay in this relationship just because she's playing hardball.

Answer 5

This will hurt. She is just using you as the "guy that will always be there NO matter what she says or does" STOP being a door mat!!!!! Get some balls about you and be a man. This world is full of great girls. Stop letting her hurt and make fun of you as if you had no feels. You can be sure she tells all her girlfriends about the other guys and they think your a loser for letting her do these things to you. SORRY but this is the way it looks.

Answer 6

Listen, I myself am a female and it sounds to me like she has an extremely guilty conscious. She wouldn't have gotten mad and broken up with you before just because you asked her about it if there wasn't really something that she was afraid you'd find out. And as far as her not being affectionate toward you anymore, she's either got something heavy on her plate that has her mind messed up or she just doesn't feel that way for you anymore. Sorry, but that's how I see it

Answer 7

OK, ALL B.S. aside I think you should dump her. She is using you in between. She breaks up with you and as soon as she and her X break up she comes back to you. She has done this more than once and she WILL CONTINUE to do it as long as you let her. I say dumpy her and you might tell her (IF you really like her) to call you when or if she gets her life together. If you don't dump her then just be warned that she will continue to walk over you every chance she gets. GOOD LUCK.

Answer 8

no one deserves that. my friend put up with that for a year and she says she would do anything to not have to go thru that again. relationships are not supposed to be that hard. its all inside. and how you feel. i personally think shes wrong. just let her go. there are plenty of girls out there that would treat you a lot better. and i know it will be hard, esp with your four good months, but it might never be that way again wit her. good luck. and im sorry you have had to deal with someone like her, and i hope you make a good choice.

Answer 9

ok be to the point and go and ask her straight away and dnt let any third person comes between you guys. And as u say she has so many ex's and its ur first love then plz dnt spend time on her she is not ur type. sorry to say this but this is right. no boy will accept any girl who has so many ex's whom she continue takng after getting a serioius one. asi m in a relationship so i knw how much it hurts.

Answer 10

well if you are just waiting for someone to tell you what you want to hear then forget it but it sounds to me like this girl dosent really love you she just dosent want to be alone.you dont cheat on the person your in love with ..i understand this is your first love and thats the hardest one to get over.but you need to move on.some girl is out there just waiting for you to find her so she can love you and treat you right.and the only way 2 do this is to get out there and meet people and keep your self busy so you dont have time to think about being hurt.remember there is someone some where waiting for you .i hope you find her soon.