I was told, "to find the right one, u must first be the right one" all my life i been prep on how to be a love and caring gentalmen. but some reason i was never able to put that into practice. is it foolish of to me prep myself to eb the perfect lover and yet i know not how to be love.
what should i do, stop being nice to girls and be more agressive?
they say" good guy finish last"
2007-01-03 14:29:56 · 9 answers · asked by Thomas Le 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
NO NO NO, don't stop. Lots of girls (high school, anyway) aren't looking for a lifetime love yet. Just stick it out. I've heard the same thing, and I'm still working on it. I'm not flirty like a lot of girls my age, because I just don't feel the need to attract a lot of guys. I'm waiting for "the one," if you want to call it that, and so I think I would seriously make a better love than a date. Stick to your morals. I wish there were more guys like you.
2007-01-03 14:37:35 · answer #1 · answered by angelsong_04 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you can be too nice. I don't think you should start being a jerk just to get more dates, but you have to stand on your own two feet and stop sucking up to these girls. If you're too nice, they'll trample all over your heart. It seems like there are very few women who will like a REALLY nice guy. Especially when they're young. So back off a bit, be confident, and have the attitude "I like myself no matter what anyone else thinks." That should help. Then, start asking girls out on DATES, and learning how to spot rejection. And forget the notion that you will win them over by starting as friends. It just doesn't happen that way often enough to put a whole lot of effort into it (much less to put your whole dating life on hold for some girl who just wants to be friends). Good night!
2007-01-03 14:43:05 · answer #2 · answered by anonymous 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself. You will be perfect for the right woman. The wrong women will move on out of your life for many different reasons, some may be because you are what they consider too nice. But you want to find the woman that appreciates the person that you are when you are yourself.
Good luck!
2007-01-03 14:35:02 · answer #3 · answered by MW 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be yourself, and take a trip to Bela Horozonte in Brazil...It's like the college party town and the women outnumber men by over 200k..Their way of flirting with you is to come up behind you and pinch your butt and then slowly run off hoping you go after them...Some of them will even get into fistfights(over you) right in the street(I'm taking him home tonight, I saw him first!!)They love American men.
2007-01-03 14:38:24 · answer #4 · answered by Diggs 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can be both aggressive and a total gentleman. A lot of woman love that...the strong gentleman type.
You can never be too nice IMO. It comes back to you, Your prep is not wasted!!
2007-01-03 14:33:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
you cant be nice be nice and you cant be mean you have to be self confident and just do what you do dont care about how people tell you , you have to be to get a girl. be self confident and act they way you are and you will get a better girl than you think try it, you will see
Good Luck
2007-01-03 14:35:57 · answer #6 · answered by eddie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the kind of girls you [probably] do not like are the ones that like jerks.
on the other hand ... the really good girls that are worth keeping like guys that are nice and decent. I would rather have a good girl ... besides you will reap what you sow ... better to sow kindness, respect, and everything else good than to reap a ton of bad things in relationships ....
what goes around comes around, as they say here where I live
a good guy is the right guy ....
2007-01-03 14:37:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
stay the way you are...as a girl i was told never to change myself for a guy, && im saying the same to you...don't change yourself for a girl...if you have to change your personality to be with her then she isn't the right girl for you & someone better will come around who appreciates you for the nice guy that you are.
2007-01-03 14:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Melanie 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dude, don't worry about it - BE YOURSELF because there's a girl who's bound to like your type of guy and what's wrong with good guys finish last? - you'll get the best girl when you're last -trust me!
2007-01-03 14:32:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
It will come.
Sounds like your making good plans.
2007-01-03 14:33:14 · answer #10 · answered by zen522 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋