I've known this guy for almost 2 months, we've hung out and had lots of fun, and then he decided to kiss me one nite so ya know everything was fine and dandy... next couple times we saw each other this happened again and he always wanted to cuddle and hold my hand and we went for walks and he would grab my hand and then i asked him wut he wanted outta this and he said lets just take it as it goes kind of thing bc he really does like me but is scared of relationships bc his heart was broke and he broke a girls heart in aug. so we hung out a couple times more and i clarified i didnt want friends with benefits but wasnt pushin into a long term thing either... he said he wasnt scared off by that or anything and that he still wanted to hang out. he has been sick for a bit and we havent hung out and then he told me that he really wanted to hang out with me this week but i txted him and he didnt respond yesterday or today... should i keep on wasting my time?
2007-01-03 14:27:23 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i'm 20 and hes 23
i do not go to school or work with him, he lives down the block
i've decided to throw it back into his ballpark told him to call me when he wants to hang out with me bc i dont wanna be the one to keep on asking
2007-01-03 14:56:46 · update #1
I think he is a player. All of a sudden after you tell him you want more but your not pushing he climbs under a rock. People can be afraid of commitment, but the heart is stronger than that. The man I am with CANT commit to me right now, but actions speak louder than words. The time he makes for me and the way he goes WAY out of his way for me even if he only has 10 min to spare tells me he DOES care. I fight with myself all the time about the relationship being a heartbreak situation, especially when he does something or says something that bothers me, but then he always comes through and makes it up to me. If you love someone no matter how afraid of commitment you are, or how afraid of being hurt you are, your still not going to be able to walk away. If you dont love them and its simply friends with benefits its easier to cool off quick. Be fair to yourself, it will hurt for a bit but its better than staying with a guy who wont commit or wont even show you unequivicably that he loves you even if he wont/doesnt/cant say it out loud. Men are a pain in the butt, but thier actions are loud enough to break glass.
2007-01-03 14:38:14 · answer #1 · answered by Kujo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the thing is that you should understand him if u really wanna go on with him. its not a joke or anythng may be he is joking but after breakng a heart he must be ashamed an he don"t wanna loose u so belive in him and may be if ur love is strong then it might change him.But be aware if he means to kiss you everytime and not been serious than u r in real danger. he can expect u as a good freind and nothng else be to the point and go and ask him wat he wants?
2007-01-03 22:33:03 · answer #2 · answered by sweet girl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honesty in this situation IS the best policy. Tell him what you want out of the relationship or whatever it is. If it's sex tell him to put out or get out. Friends with benefits are great when you need them. If it's something else. Just tell him what you want seeing as how you already know what he wants.
2007-01-03 22:31:17 · answer #3 · answered by forgiving_madison 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he had been sick, maybe he is not feeling well. When you hear from him again, ask him why he didn't get back to you the last time you sent him a text. Take it from there.
2007-01-03 22:30:28 · answer #4 · answered by grey_fox 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my ex bf was also the same as this guy .even he had an affair with a gurl who cheated on him and after that he met me.and told me that he u are too sweet and so don't get involved with me.but i did ..but it didn't work out ..cause he always thinks about his ex ..so we broke just yesterday ..trust me don't even fall for these guys ..they are always a pain .
2007-01-03 22:36:02 · answer #5 · answered by unknown 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie, you need to ask him if he's into you.
You sound like you are a bit fed up. Calm down enough to ask him what the deal is.
2007-01-03 22:30:17 · answer #6 · answered by NyteWing 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you ARE pushing him, even if you said you're not. Back off. Let him make a move, for a change.
2007-01-03 22:33:00 · answer #7 · answered by kiwi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its your time to play hard to get, next time he asks you out. come up with something. be cold than usual, we men when we feel that there is something that we cannot get easy eventhough we don't need it we ended trying to get it no matter what. so don't be the one followng him and if he doesn't play hard to get you he doesnot deserve you. play the same game he is playing with you(tell him that we need to take it easy....). I am sure he is interested or he will be.
2007-01-03 22:35:21 · answer #8 · answered by Sniffeur 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit down and talk to him face to face
2007-01-03 22:31:18 · answer #9 · answered by zen522 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he has a woman already. I would ditch him!
2007-01-03 22:31:13 · answer #10 · answered by joyall57 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋