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We're both atheist and i thats how i want it to remain but just moments ago i found out from my sister she told me that he trying to convert her and i told her oh ya someones gettin a beat down now. I told her i'm the man of the house and i control everything here. What do you think, am i overreacting?

2007-01-03 14:19:11 · 45 answers · asked by A 1 in Society & Culture Religion & Spirituality

45 answers

You are the man!!!!! and you want to control her!!!!!! That is what you want!!! what about what she wants! it doesn't matter to you. Maybe that is what she wants. would that bother you that she actually can think for herself, and not have You control her life.

Do you feel threaten that someone else is going to control your sister and it is not you! yep that is the the ticket. Be violent. that will show him. You the civilized smart person is going to beat the other guy for trying to convert your sister. what can't she speak for herself! or have you been controlling her for so long she can't talk for herself, or stand up for herself?

Yes you are overreacting. Let your sister be the adult and don't use violence against anyone. Live your life and let your sister live her own life, and if she chooses to be something other than atheist, then it is her choice and you should respect her either way.

2007-01-03 14:25:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sierra Leone 6 · 10 0

Perhaps it is only through your eyes that he is a loser. If she converts, and you beat him down, you may just prove that he isn't the true 'loser'.
If you dislike him because you are an atheist, and he is a christian, then you are obviously looking only at the surface of the person, and not at the heart. Your sister may be drawn to the sincerity and possible peace that he may provide, and that may only be due to his faith.
It is one thing to be angry if your sister is dating someone who beats her, but another simply because of a persons' beliefs. That is no different then the prejudice of racism or any other prejudice.
Give him a chance, and you may be pleased. Afterall, aren't you confident in your beliefs of atheism? If not, then you know where the truth lies. Not in your sisters boyfriend, but in the fear she may not see your beliefs as the truth.
Stand up, show your confidence, and be the better man. You can only do this if you show love to your sister and support her in her choices. It's not about you. Let her find out what kind of person he is, and if he crosses the line physically, he also crosses the line of his faith. It's also the point when you may need to jump in and defend her or protect her. After all, being Christian doesn't mean you are perfect, only that you choose to try being more than just "human" to yourself and others, and that it is your path, and not everyone else's. It is a choice by both the wise and the ignorant. And both sides are wrought with both. Back off.

2007-01-03 14:29:24 · answer #2 · answered by John D 2 · 0 0

i think you're overreacting b/c im sure he means well and they ARE dating. but if this makes your sister feel uncomfortable or pressured then you should have her talk to him calmly about it. he may not have realised he was doing anything wrong or maybe its just a complete misunderstanding and he was just talking about his religion and didn't expect her to convert. but either way you stepping in will prob only lead to a huge fight over something that her boyfriend didn't even mean to sound like a conversion attempt. but in the end i think its up to your sister to decide what she wants to do. no matter what just support her which i'm sure you do since your her bro and she might be feeling a little confused.

I'm catholic and that doesn't make me a bad person i think that in some cases religion can actually make people more careing and have better values.Not that people who aren't religious aren't caring and what not but in some cases it does help i mean it deffinately doesn't hurt. Religion deals with beliefs NOT how you treat people her bf would be the same reguardless of what religion he believed in.

2007-01-03 14:25:52 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1 0

yeah, overreacting for sure
cant make a decision for someone else, i am an atheist as well so don't think I'm taking a Christian's perspective
everyone needs to make their own choices on religion, i personally looked into a couple religions before choosing that it wasn't for me, you and your sister have to do the same, what you personally want should, a perfect world, have no bearings on what your family believes
look into the mouth of the beast before biting its tongue
how old are yall?

2007-01-03 14:24:52 · answer #4 · answered by RagingRoids 2 · 1 0

Your obsession with controlling your sister is quite frightening...lol.

Ok, I'm going to pretend this question isn't a bunch of horse manure, and tell you the answer. This is the answer:

Beating him down won't help you at all. Don't you know that Christians and Christianity has always thrived (abundantly) in the face of persecution? He will see you as a demonic force, and become even more resilient.

Kidder.

2007-01-03 14:28:04 · answer #5 · answered by frenzy-CIB- Jim's with Jesus 4 · 2 0

I would say that you are overreacting. Religious fanatics see their religion as the "only" one and will not change. Beating this guy down will not resolve the situation.

What you need to do is educate your sister. Try to make her understand what he is trying to do and why. If she chooses to convert to a religion, it will be her own informed free will. You beating this guy for trying to convert your sister would be doing the same thing that he is...forcing a belief on someone.

2007-01-03 14:26:35 · answer #6 · answered by David 3 · 0 1

Your sister's gonna be a Christian! Ha Ha! Okay seriously Christianity is not a bad thing. You live as a good person, get to Heaven when you die and reunite with other family members and loved ones. You never have to be in any pain again. You get to be best friends with God. It's great!

2007-01-03 14:42:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

Let her make the decision, not you. If she truly wants to be an atheist, she won't convert. Even if she tries to act like a christian for him, and she doesn't believe in it, she'll stay an atheist. Let her worry about it. You'll just land yourself in jail if you go beat him up.

2007-01-03 14:22:09 · answer #8 · answered by Enceladus 5 · 4 0

Yes you are over reacting. Violence is not the answer. What does she feel about it? If the guy is harrassing her, she should be smart enough to walk away from him. Much like a woman might leave a man who is a control freak.

2007-01-03 14:24:54 · answer #9 · answered by bumppo 5 · 2 0

Yep, you are overreacting. Its just religion. If your sister doesn't like him, she should stop hanging out with him. No big deal. Besides if your sister wants to convert that's her choice.

However, if your sister tells the guy off and he won't go away, then you have the Go-Code to kick the crap out of him.

Godspeed.

2007-01-03 14:22:53 · answer #10 · answered by I like Chinese food 4 · 4 0

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