I was raised with the belief that love is the most important part of a romantic (or any kind really) relationship. Lately I've been reading 'What Really Happens In Bed: The Demystifacation Of Sex' which has some really interesting stories from peoples real sex lives. One thing I've noticed is that without good sex these people can't really say they love their partner. I have no experience in this area yet and I am a bit older, now I wonder from reading this and other things I hear and read now days if I've been wrong all these years. I'm a bit confused over this, was I taught the wrong thing by my parents? Do I believe in an outdated religious principal?
2007-01-03 14:17:39 · 20 answers · asked by InvicibleStar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You are not the only one. I believe that saving yourself for the right person is a nice thing, love is sacred. But yeah, sex is also a problem, thats reality, I dont have that experience myself but if there is love, everything can be conquered, things will come naturally.
2007-01-03 14:21:45 · answer #1 · answered by Fallen&Broken 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
For some people, both may not exist in the same partner, but sexual satisfaction certainly is a desirable goal in a relationship. To deny that sex is an important part of any romantic relationship is a mistake. By the same token, though, it's certainly not the only thing, and it's probably an even bigger mistake to try to let it carry a relationship. That just doesn't work.
"To deny that sex is an important part of any romantic relationship is a mistake."
most people who have a real intimacy -- that is, people who are truly attached to and in love with someone -- find the sex as good as anything they've experienced with anybody else. It tends to be people who have fetishistic needs -- people who are aroused by, for instance, certain aggressive, violent or submissive sexual experiences -- who think those fetishistic experiences are more gratifying than anything they can experience in a true intimacy. But, ironically, fetishistic gratification usually isn't as complete or nourishing as true intimacy.
2007-01-03 14:25:58 · answer #2 · answered by iloeta1164 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are different ways and different life styles.... You are not wrong with what you believe. Nor is that the only way to look at it... Love is important in so many different levels. What I think is sad is when people think that sex and lust are what makes the world go around... Lust fades, most anyone can have sex, but to be able to have it all, love and sex is having something that will last... Don't sell yourself out because of a book, but at the same time, it wouldn't hurt to open the door a bit more and explore what is out there. Just don't cross any lines that you don't feel comfortable with...... Good luck....
By the way, I have had sex with people I loved, and I have had sex with people I did not love... It was always better being in love, and the sex wasn't what made me love them....
2007-01-03 14:31:48 · answer #3 · answered by Couple of Cents 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In a relationship you can't say good sex or bad sex. There are all kinds of sex. Good sex, tired sex, wake up sex, drunk sex, make up sex, lousy sex, fireworks sex, its been too long cause we've been busy that its great and like the first time sex, making a baby sex, start sex and get interurpted sex, to sum this up sex is important because it feels good and helps people to bond and feel close, but it is not important that it be the best every time, or even the majority of the time. If you love the person then being close and all forms of intimacy from holding hands to sex is great regardless of frequency or "satisfaction".
2007-01-03 14:30:32 · answer #4 · answered by escapeinthepalms 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe that you should have sex based on a relationship and not have a relationship based on sex.
Sex is an important part of an relationship of course but I think its important because its a way to become as close as you can to a person and "share" or show your love with them.
2007-01-03 14:24:54 · answer #5 · answered by storm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when two people have a sex and they are in a relationship, it is usallly more than a physical reaction to attraction; it is a way to connect on many physical and emotional levels that says "i am here, in this relationship, and we are on the same page" it is a way to express your deep feelings for someone, feelings you may not even be aware of. sex is a very important part of relationships, but it is not the most important. remember, a sexual relationship should be the product of a healthy emotional relationship and friendship. good luck!
2007-01-03 14:26:28 · answer #6 · answered by crystal t 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Super sex is very important in the beginning of a romantic relationship, but great love is the ultimate ingredient in any lasting relationship.
2007-01-03 14:21:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Very important to have love cause dat will keep a relationship together in lows and highs but without there is nothing there. Without love the relationship won’t even last a week!
2007-01-03 14:25:37 · answer #8 · answered by CHICK 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think love and sex go hand in hand. You can't base a realationship on sex alone it will get boring and feel empty after awhile. But when there is love behind sex or at least very strong feelings the sex is much better.
2007-01-03 14:29:43 · answer #9 · answered by lelani 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Such a relationship would no way to sustain any longer, for the cause that the sex is a key actor during opposite sex attracting each other. you 'd better to try to stimulate his(her) sexual desire if you want to keep your romance between your partner and you.
2016-03-29 06:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋