Test for christians?

Question

Okay. There is a nice guy. Super nice. He is kind to his fellow humans, he does not discriminate, he has friends and family and hates no one, he is very responsible and is overall one of the greatest people in the world. Everybody thinks he is cool, he is nice, you get the picture.

Now, does this description alone sound like someone who you would like to be friends with?

















Okay. What if I told you he was gay?

Would that change your opinion?

Explain.

Just to let you know, I am aware that:

1) Not all christians hate gays
2) Not all nonchristians love gays
3) Most people don't see sexual orientation as a basis for friendship

I am not against gays, I am asking this question out of curiosity.

Answer 1

I really liked the way your question was delivered. I was thinking to myself, "Is he talking about Jesus?" lol You scroll on down and find that little tidbit of info and wonder to yourself if it truly matters. To me...no. It used to until I worked with and became the best of friends with a gay man. I used to be prejudiced against gays, and truly believed that God needed intervention with "those people". But God also works in mysterious ways, and He tested my faith by sticking me right beside of a gay man and having to work with him everyday. It was no time, and I realized how wrong I was to have judged someone by their sexual preference. I wouldn't want someone to judge me by what clothes I choose to wear on a particular day. What's the difference? We ended up being roommates for a summer. And that's MY story....

Answer 2

Well...it depends on what one considers morally abhorrent or not. Everyone has some level of morality and there are simply some people who have a higher standard.

What if the question was the same, then you say. "Okay. What if I told you he commits bestiality." Technically you should still be his friend since he's not hurting anyone...so long as he can prove the animal is mutually enjoying it. However, if you are normal, you would probably not be comfortable with that. You wouldn't hate the guy by any means, but you probably wouldn't be comfortable around him.

Well that is essentially how many Christians feel about homosexuality. They feel it's morally disturbing. And it's their right to have strong morals without being judged for having strong morals. Notice how non-Christians always complain that Christians judge them, then they hypocritically judge Christians for judging.

But back to your topic. Just because someone has become comfortable with a certain lifestyle (homosexuality), that doesn't mean they should shove the accepting of that life style down anyone's throat.

Owned.

Answer 3

I don't think you understand Christians very well. We do NOT hate gay people. In fact, my brother was gay. So are some girls I know. They are the sweetest girls you could find anywhere. I can be great wonderful friends with a gay person, that is not the issue. I would probably tell them what I believe and leave it to the Holy Spirit to convict them of the things they are doing. It would be the same for someone who killed, or cheated, or stole, or lied. Don't you understand that it is not the person but the things that they do? And that if they don't know any better then they are not accountable? Let's say that you go to France, and they have a law there that you can't drive faster than 30 kilometers per hour. But you don't know that, so you drive 45 kilometers per hour. You have just committed a sin and can be punished for that. But if you didn't know any better, should you receive the full punishment? If they tell you the law, and you say, "I'm sorry, I didn't know that, please forgive me" should you be forgiven? Or should you be dragged off to jail? That is what a christian is all about. Christians sin too, you know. Even the very pious ones do! It is our nature! So when we ask God to forgive us, He does, because He loves us so much and wants us to be with Him for eternity. God has that same desire for Gays and Lesbians , murderers, liars, cheats, theifs, etc. All sin is the same in the sight of the Lord. Would I still like that person and want to hang out with them? Of course I would! why, wouldn't you??

Answer 4

It would not change my mind about trying to be his friend, but I would most certainly not have a thing to do with his way of life. For God's Word most certainly teaches us that being "gay" or a homosexual, is nothing short of walking in sin. Look at the people of Sodom and Gomorrah, in the Book of Genesis. God destroyed every one of them; and this was the very reason. So if I knew such a guy as you have described, I would continuously be praying for him to get his heart right with God. A person can be a saint on the outside, and have the heart of the devil. He may have desires to do good things, but his heart is far from being right with God. Only the blood of Jesus Christ can save a person's soul; not doing good works, or anything else.

Answer 5

very good question. I do know many 'gay' people. To say that I would become good friends with them, probably not. We don't have the right things in common, however, I do not 'hate' them or wish them harm what so ever. People who have Jesus in common kind of migrate together, just like anyone else and a person who lives a life style totally polar to what God says, well, I wouldn't befriend them but I would certainly be available for them if needed, just like anyone else. I believe we all pick our close friends from within our same social/ethical/behavioral circles. What does this have to do with being Christian? Happy New Year!

Answer 6

Yes, I would like to be friends with this person. Whether they are gay or not does not matter, nor should it matter to anyone else...least of all to Christians.

In my church, many people have trouble with the gay community. I don't understand why they lack tolerance for people who are different than them, when they should be setting the example for loving everyone with equal understanding and acceptance.

I will not apologize for my short sighted brothers and sisters who harbor hate for anyone. They give all of the Christians a bad name, a hypocritical image if you will, and push others away from the church.

If you have a problem with the sins of another, keep it to yourself and pray for that person's sins. Then, pray for God to take forgive you for YOUR sins, including hatred. Hopefully, God will forgive you even though you hate someone else

Answer 7

Of course not! I honestly (though I am a Catholic) do not believe that being homosexual is a sin. People can not help these feelings. I don't understand how it could have been made that way and then be a sin. I recently heard something on the radio about the bible, how one man said that many people had misinterpreted it. He actually said that the bible was using a passage where two men had sinned. They were also homosexual. However, the bible was telling that the other thing was a sin, not the part about being homosexual.

Answer 8

Yes, it does sound like someone I would get along with, someone I could be good friends with. His being gay doesn't change my opinion one iota.

That probably wasn't what you were expecting from a Christian, right? And, just so you'll know, this Christian doesn't feel the need to pass any tests you can give.

Answer 9

I think people are great. God created us. But our hearts are desperately wicked because of the fall. No matter how good a person is if they're rebelling against God then if they don't repent they're going to hell. If they say they believe in God and believe that he doesn't care what they do or how they live, your friendship isn't going to help them accept the truth about what God requires of them.
For those who don't know God and have not accepted Jesus Christ, some will be saved by love and compassion and some by fear. The Holy Spirit draws people to God; we have to wait on his leading.

Answer 10

The question isnt if he is nice. Anyone can be nice. Even people in prison have friends who consider them really great people. As a Christian we have a responsibility of letting people know who want to know what is required by God for eternal salvation.

We put too much value on nice. Hell even terrorist are probably really nice people in their communities and loving to their children and hard working and respectable. Nice means nothing. Actions and their consequences defines everything