My boyfriend went to a strip club (twice) and got a lapdance (something I could've done!! And he would've got some afterwards!!) His cousin told me so I would have never found out if he didn't say so.I lost my control for a second, hit him across the face with my keys and dumped him..
He calls like crazy and wants to get back with me. He tells me that those strippers are nothing but dirty trash compared to me. I belive he totally dis respected me. Before he went I told him If he ever went I wouldnt feel comfortable and I'd be hurt.If he went he was supposed to take me..He obviously didnt respect my feelings when he went there (twice) which is why I dont want to be with him, I love him and I would like to be with him again, BUT I dont deserve to be treated this way..Should I even take the son of a ***** back??
If I do take him back how do I forget about this and move on?
How do I forgive him?
2007-01-03 14:04:27 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
We all have our standards and I this is something you feel strongly about (which it seems you do) I would hold firm to your resolve. There is no reason if he has a good woman at home that he should be sneeking around at strip clubs. The fact that he knew how you felt and still went shows that he doesn't respect you and that is not how a relationship should be. Respect, trust, and communication are keys to a good relationship. You have none of these with him. He doesn't deserve you so I would tell him to get bent.
2007-01-03 14:09:59 · answer #1 · answered by MereBear 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
everything that happened in your story is normal as normal can get. Your boyfriend is male and wants to check out a strip joint without you hanging around. When he does, your feelings are hurt. You told him if you went you wouldn't be comfortable so why would he want to take you. You are going to be mad either way. I'm sure he is not happy when he hurt your feelings by doing this to you. It is just something we men do mainly out of curiosity. We're pigs sometime. If you breakup with your boyfriend and get another he's going to go through the same feelings. Keep him, there is nothing wrong with him. One thing really bothers me though. Please don't ever hit anyone in the face for any reason. Especially with a set of keys. It's just wrong. You do not have the right to do that to anyone.
2007-01-03 22:52:15 · answer #2 · answered by Ricky: 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Guys aren't like women. They really do have two catergories. Women they respect & love and women they see as sex object (ie strippers). Unless he went to a strip club everynight, it really isn't that bad of a thing to do. He probably should've respected your wishes but at the same time, he's a guy and he's going to go along with the guys to be a sport and to not look completely whipped. Take some time to cool off and then see how you feel. If he promises to respect your feelings on whatever subject matter, take him back. If he disrespects you in the slightest, drop him again and don't take him back.
2007-01-03 22:11:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
i dont blame you for braking up with him because if you both agreed that if he goes to a strip club then he should take u with him and he went behind ur back to the club not once but 2 times but i feel that if u are with some1 u dont need to go to no strip club get it from the person u are with not wasting money on some girls taking there top off. But if u do take him back u wont forget about nothing like that it will always will be in your heart and inside of you because u got hurt and it feels like you got lied too because u both made a agreement to it and he didnt go half ways with his. But u take him back u tell it like it is to him he dont want to listin and gets all pissed about it dont even waste your time yeah u can love some1 all you want and they can love you back but all the love in the world is no point to get hurt over
2007-01-03 22:21:08 · answer #4 · answered by LifesJourney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's not much you can do about this, cause guys will never stop looking at other women, it would just be nice if they put a little effort into hiding it, but they don't. This image you have in your head isn't going to go away, and it's going to make you hate him. You're going to have a hell of a time trusting him too. You'll probably going to get back together with him otherwise you wouldn't be trying to find a way to justify it, so just try to forget about it, if you can, and remember that ALL guys want variety, and don't ever give him the opportunity to have it.
2007-01-03 22:12:33 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Going to the club isn't a big deal...going and not telling you because he knew your view of it and knew it would upset you, was not kewl. Doing it twice is even worse and it would likely have continued if he hadn't been ratted out.
Your violent reaction was uncalled for though, and he could've pressed charges against you for assult.
I recommend you two go your separate ways so he can get his stripper club fix, and you can get some anger management counseling.
2007-01-03 22:09:02 · answer #6 · answered by . 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
well my lady. its a little extreme its not like he fcked her or anything like that. its just a lap dance. its like dancing with somebody when you go to a party or something( lol lap dance) he dident realy cheat on you he just wanted to have sum fun. its not cheating so hey why not take him back give the poor guy a second chance. however he did break your word, so be alert if he does so again well the kick his *** out the door and find yourself another man thats worthy of you. i am sure you are beautifull and talented and you will have no problem in doing so, and dont worry you will forget about this sob in no time. thats waht i did when my girl cheated on me. i got me a better girl.
2007-01-03 22:11:21 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whats to forgive? He didn't hit you in the face. You're not married, right? Consider this....he chose to be with those "dirty trash" (your words) instead of you. Now your on here calling him a "son of a biotch" for the whole world to see. I think its over. Go find you a new puppy dog.
2007-01-03 22:13:40 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You know the old saying "forgive and forget". Well its impossible. For one thing, you will NEVER forget it, and if you say you forgive him, than when you end up getting in a fight, you will throw it back in his face, so obviously, you cant fogive him. It is up to you to decide if you can do either honestly. It will always be there hanging over your heads. Its all up to you. Think about it. Trust is a hard thing to build back up.
2007-01-03 22:12:13 · answer #9 · answered by Cheryl C 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No offense, but strip clubs are not that big of a deal. I can see being upset about the lying but hitting him in the face with keys??? Anger management issues!
2007-01-03 22:07:47 · answer #10 · answered by Kiss My Shaz 7 · 3⤊ 0⤋