how can i get my 7 year old to belive in santa again?

Question

my son woke up on christmas eve night and seen my husbend and i putting presants under the tree. now he thinks there isn't any santa and tell his freinds that santa is a fake. how can i convince him to belive in santa again? he is 7 years old

Answer 1

You don't need to convince him. He doesn't have to believe in Santa.

Answer 2

First, do not give up hope. a friend of my daughter's tried to tell her santa was fake. There are websites where you can order calls and letters from Santa (the caller id says north pole). secondly, watch a movie like polar express. If all else fails I have the following letter on my fridge:

SANTA AS SYMBOL OF GIVING LIVES FOREVER IN OUR HEARTS

DEAR ABBY: I am 8 years old, and I have a question that has bothered me for months. Is Santa Claus a real person, and if not, why does everyone say he is? And if Santa Claus ISN'T real, where do all the letters go? -- CONFUSED IN KINGSTON, N.Y.
DEAR CONFUSED: Santa Claus is more than a human being. Santa Claus is the living symbol of selfless giving, handed down from one generation to the next. In 1897, a girl named Virginia asked the same question in a newspaper. A very wise newspaper editor, Frank Church, wrote in reply:

"Yes, Virginia, there is a Santa Claus. ... The most real things in the world are those which neither children nor men can see. ... Thank God, he (Santa Claus) lives, and he lives forever. A thousand years from now -- nay, 10 times 10,000 years from now, he will continue to make glad the heart of childhood."

Letters to Santa Claus go where every other letter goes -- directly to the U.S. Postal Service, which makes sure the letters reach their destination regardless of "rain, hail, sleet or snow."

Read on for a testimony from a true believer:

DEAR ABBY: Yesterday afternoon, as I was opening my mail, I came across an envelope with my name and address printed on it, but no return address. I assumed it was junk mail that had been made to look like a Christmas card, but curiosity got the better of me, so I opened it.

Inside was a Christmas card. It was signed "Santa," and inside were five $100 bills!

I checked the postmark. It read, "Grand Rapids, Mich., Dec. 9." Abby, I don't know anyone in Grand Rapids.

I'm divorced. My ex-husband hasn't been helping me to support our children. Times have been hard. Obviously, the card was sent by someone who cares about us very much -- someone who went to great trouble to remain anonymous. The money was a blessing. An equally great blessing is the fact that my children had a chance to witness such an act of generosity and kindness.

I hope that Santa is reading your column today, because I want to say thank you very much from the bottom of my heart. I am grateful. -- STILL BELIEVES IN SANTA, HOUSTON

DEAR STILL BELIEVES: I'm printing your letter with the conviction that some kind of elf will ensure that it is delivered as far north as a reindeer can fly. A perceptive person once said that true generosity is doing something nice for someone without taking credit for it. However, your case is exceptional -- and how fitting of your benefactor, "Santa," to take a bow. I know readers of all ages will be as gratified as I was to read about his act of kindness in this, the season of giving.

Answer 3

I'd play it cool. Like with any "lie" the more your force it the less believable it is. You can't convince him to believe, but you can give him a reason to still believe if he wants to. It sounds as if he is a bit angry at the truth, otherwise he wouldn't be telling his friends in such a way.

If you want you can tell him "Look, Could it be that Santa left the gifts and we were just arranging them? (or similar tale)" It's a gray area, but it's not really a lie because you aren't telling him that's what happened - just offering it up. Tell him it is up to him to believe or not.

He may mull it over and decide he'd still like to believe and buy into the story, but he has to come to that conclusion himself. Or it may be that the gig is just up - 7 is about the time - but he needs to respect others. It happens.

If he does decide to not believe you tell him that's okay, but he should at least respect those that do and not share his thoughts about Santa - tell him they make people feel sad that do believe. Don't force it.

You may be able to get way with okay - you don't have to believe, without confimring or denying the Santa so it still leaves it up to him that way. Or you may have to explain if he still seems unresolved. You'll know by how upset he seems if he needs further explanation.

I'd also watch "The Polar Express" with him. The boy in the story overhears parents and concludes Santa isn't real until his journey...

Answer 4

The jig is probably up at this point, but you can still share with him the age-old story of Virginia O'Hanlon, which reinforces the fact that Santa Claus still exists in other ways (in the spirit of Christmas)...

"DEAR EDITOR: I am 8 years old.
"Some of my little friends say there is no Santa Claus.
"Papa says, 'If you see it in THE SUN it's so.'
"Please tell me the truth; is there a Santa Claus?

"VIRGINIA O'HANLON.
"115 WEST NINETY-FIFTH STREET."

VIRGINIA, your little friends are wrong. They have been affected by the skepticism of a skeptical age. They do not believe except [what] they see. They think that nothing can be which is not comprehensible by their little minds. All minds, Virginia, whether they be men's or children's, are little. In this great universe of ours man is a mere insect, an ant, in his intellect, as compared with the boundless world about him, as measured by the intelligence capable of grasping the whole of truth and knowledge.

Yes, VIRGINIA, there is a Santa Claus. He exists certainly as love and generosity and devotion exist, and you know that they abound and give to your life its highest beauty and joy. Alas! How dreary would be the world if there were no Santa Claus! It would be as dreary as if there were no VIRGINIAS. There would be no childlike faith then, no poetry, no romance to make tolerable this existence. We should have no enjoyment, except in sense and sight. The eternal light which childhood fills the world would be extinguished.

Not believe in Santa Claus! You might as well not believe in fairies! You might get your papa to hire men to watch in all the chimneys on Christmas Eve to catch Santa Claus, but even if they did not see Santa Claus coming down, what would that prove? Nobody sees Santa Claus, but that is no sign that there is no Santa Claus. The most real things in the world are those that neither children nor men can see. Did you ever see fairies dancing on the lawn? Of course not, but that's no proof that they are not there. Nobody can conceive or imagine all the wonders there are unseen and unseeable in the world.

You tear apart the baby's rattle and see what makes the noise inside, but there is a veil covering the unseen world which not the strongest man, nor even the united strength of all the strongest man that ever lived, could tear apart. Only faith, fancy, poetry, love, romance can push aside that curtain and view and picture the supernal beauty and glory beyond. Is it all real? Ah, VIRGINIA, in all this world there is nothing else real and abiding. No Santa Claus! Thank GOD! He lives, and he lives forever. A thousand years from now, nay, ten times ten thousand years from now, he will continue to make glad the heart of childhood.

Answer 5

Umm, yeah too late. Odds are, he was already hearing the rumors at school and just needed seeing you to comfirm it.

I don't think you should say anything about it. Next year, carry on as though there is a Santa, and in time, he'll learn that it's more about the spirit and believing than it is the actual truth about Santa.

My brothers and I are 29, 27 and 24 and we haven't lived at home for years, but there's always something waiting for us in our stockings on Christmas morning. And we still say it was from Santa.

Answer 6

Why on earth would you want him to believe in Santa again when there's really no Santa Claus in the first place?? He's right. Santa is really a fake. Just tell him the truth!!! The magic of Christmas will not be lost with him believing there's no Santa. Instead, why not teach him what really is the essence of Christmas......

Answer 7

I used to have faith in Santa while i grew to become into approximately 6 or 7. I used to assert issues like "I heard Santa come down the chimney final night!" My older sister reported "Santa isn't actual..". I reported "he's merely too! mom and pa won't be in a position to locate the money for all those products" and all and sundry began guffawing at me My mom finally instructed me Santa wasn't actual and that i began out crying. I additionally felt extremely embarrassed for believing in the variety of factor.

Answer 8

I would say that the gifts you were putting under the tree were from you and your husband and that Santa came and put the rest out when he was asleep as he only comes when everyone is sleeping. If he still doesn't believe, tell him what my parents to me after I questioned Santa - that there was a Santa but he is so busy that they "help" Santa put out the stuff he left for us kids.... Hopefully it helps :) Good luck!!!

Answer 9

You can try to tell him that Santa had dropped off the presents and you were just tidying them up a bit. But, sadly, I think it will be hard to convince him that Santa is real. Once you stop believing then that's usually it and all the convincing from parents is pointless.

Answer 10

Why would you want him to believe in Santa again?

Santa is fake. Not the saint, but the fat guy that god-knows-how squeezes down your chimney and gives you free gifts for helping an old lady across the street and not saying mean things.

Santa is a fun thing for kids, but as you grow older, you will eventually find out on your own. There is no point of not telling your kid the truth, and it is kinda weird that you would want to reassure (notice I used re-) a 7 year old that Santa exists. Just let him be and tell him the truth.

Answer 11

1. Ask your child not to tell the other kids, tell him it's his secret or something.
2. Now that your child finally has the truth, why convince him the lie is true? Way to confusing for a 7 YO. Use it as a step toward adult-ness? Special knowledge you share?
3. I don't really know, but 7 is probably a good time to get over Santa.
Besides think of all the money you'll save