Okay well me and my boyfriend took a short break over the summer but we still talked like every three days or more and still hung out a lot. Well on that break he made out with like 4 or so different girls and the break was only like a month. He made out with my best friend, a couple other girls, and this really skanky girl. I didn't make out with anyone.
Well I get really jealous about girls now, and I think that may be why.
Well he saw the really skanky girl last night and talked to her and she gave him one of her naked senior pictures.
Do I have the right to be upset or not?? Because my feelings are really hurt and he says it's not even a big deal. If it's not a big deal, then why am I so hurt?
2007-01-03 13:36:28 · 12 answers · asked by shoe 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
They didn't do anything more than make out... we're both virgins.
2007-01-03 13:39:59 · update #1
and... I asked to see the picture and he said no and I asked why and he said he didn't want me to rip it up. And I said why would it matter? He said "it's my picture."
2007-01-03 13:48:27 · update #2
hell yeah you should be upset he should toss it and he shouldnt have accepted it in the first place
2007-01-03 13:43:11 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be upset about ANYTHING for ANY reason at ANY point in time. But the question is: Is what you're upset about, logical?
You and your boyfriend took a break from your relationship because (I assume) you were not sure about seeing each other as a couple anymore. Most couples view "breaks" as a time to step out of the relationship life and experiment with the single lifestyle a little bit again. If you and your boyfriend were on a break from your relationship, what is the harm in him making decisions about who to see and what to do with the people he sees? You had the same opportunities during the break; you could have made out with several guys yourself. Don't get me wrong; I'm not saying it's a good choice...but that's what the break was all about. And if you wanted him to stay loyal to you during the break, and you wanted to stay loyal to him...why take the break to begin with?
You DO have the right to be upset if he is continuing to be physically active or suggestive with these girls, so long as you are a committed couple. If you are still on a break, he still has the choice of being intimate with other women. Once again, I don't mean to make it sound like a good choice, because it's not.... But the break is HIS time to let things unwind, as well as it is yours.
If you still find yourself upset over things he did while you were not in a COMMITTED relationship, then maybe it's not right for you at this point in your life. As far as he's concerned, he had permission. And NO ONE has the right to force someone else to behave a certain way.
2007-01-03 13:51:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it would depend on why you two took a break from each other. If it was just a month, and if you agreed to see other people, you shouldnt' complain. If you agreed not to see other people, then you have a valid cause for concern. Why is it that if your boyfriend kisses a girl, she is skanky? oh well... the issue with your best friend is different. She, being your best friend, should not have done anything with him. Its an unwritten rule. Don't mess around with you friend's ex.
But again, why did you take a break? did you want to date others? were you two angry? were there terms of the break? You obviously care a lot for him or you wouldn't be so hurt because he kissed other girls. You guys really need to get together and talk about this. Once he understands your feelings, he may not want to be apart from you.
2007-01-03 13:42:15 · answer #3 · answered by David L 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your boyfriend is not mature enough to be in a committed relationship. He is being led by his hormones...even though I'm sure he does care about you and want to be with you. It might be a good idea for you both to be just friends and let him grow up more. The way this is heading with his wanting to hook up with different girls, it will end up with him cheating on you if it already hasn't happened. You both sound very young and settling down for good with you does not seem to be where he is emotionally because if he were he would know that some girl giving him naked pictures is a big deal and not appropriate. A guy who knows what a good thing he has with his current girlfriend would have put that skank in her place.
Just saw your additional comment....His refusing to rip up the picture is a clear sign of his immaturity. Tell him to keep his picture. You deserve more respect than that. It's time for you to start seeing other people. Don't be scared to let him go. There are plenty of male fish in the sea. :-)
2007-01-03 13:54:11 · answer #4 · answered by LuvMyGirls 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually, you should dump the guy. He only took a "break" from you so he could be with those other girls without cheating on you. You have every right to be upset with what happened. You deserve someone who will treat you like a queen.
2007-01-03 13:39:26 · answer #5 · answered by judirose2001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
as a guy i want to say " you shoulda got your freak on during the break too" but i cant bring myself to say it...the skanky girl giving him the pic in front of you was straight disrespect! but hey, who wants to be the chick that let her guy make out with her best friend?! i thought so... & who wants a best friend that's waiting for you & him to take a short break so she can screw him behind your back?! uh-huh... so, how long you gonna be a doormat? halloween ended months ago!
2007-01-03 13:51:06 · answer #6 · answered by J-Dizzle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have the right to be mad he shouldn't be taking naked pictures from any female unless its a playboy magazine. But about him kissing the girls while you were broken up you can't be mad about that you wern't together and about that so called bestfriend, she's not a friend at all my bestfriend wouldn't make out with any of my ex's and I wouldn't make out with any of hers.
2007-01-03 13:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by Ms. Lise 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The best thing for you is to leave this guy. Yes you have the right to do anything so make the right choice.
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2016-10-29 22:48:46 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nay you were on a break. you should have grabed some guys and did some making out of your own.
2007-01-03 13:48:53 · answer #10 · answered by orangecross666 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋