I'm confused as to why these things aren't common sense to other women. Can you explain it to me objectively?

Question

Questions like what are my options if we are infertile, will my cycle being longer or shorter affect things, will this or that affect my baby's development, when's the best/most likely time to get pregnant, and what are signs of labor. These kinds of questions confuse me especially if these people know what the problem is by speaking with a doctor. Do doctors just not care enough to let you know what your options are, or what signs to look for? Why wouldn't you ask your doctor while you are there? And is it just me, or do most women not KNOW that the best thing to do when considering having a baby is to see a doctor, to make sure everything is ok with you and your partner, to start making lifestyle changes that will help you get pregnant and have a healthy pregnancy. I understand the women who aren't planning on getting pregnant, but those who are trying? I'm trying not to be condescending, and I know that I've made my share of mistakes, i'm just wondering why it's not common sense.

Answer 1

Being pregnant, especially for the first time, is an exciting but scary experience. No matter what you read is supposed to be normal, or what the doctor told you, there is nothing like the reassurance of another mom who has been through the same thing.
And yes, we should all be as informed as possible and ask the doctor about anything we don't understand. But the fact is that in early pregnancy, visits are only once a month. And when you have a question, that month in between can seem like an eternity. And no one wants to feel like a nuisance calling the doctor with every little weird thing we wonder about.
Sometimes, in the excitement, we may forget a question we meant to ask. It's easy to do, especially since alot of doctors try to rush you in and out, and not all of them have the ideal bedside manner that makes us feel comfortable.
As far as the big questions about fertility, infant development, etc-some people are just looking for every option. For example-my doctor and your doctor may have totally different approaches to the same problem. New treatments for conditions are only utilized by some. They may have already asked their doctors and are just looking for personal experiences before seeking a second opinion. No matter why they are asking these things, I kind of think that's the point of this whole website.
WHy are people asking about a cracked foundation on their house in a home improvement section here instead of calling a contractor?

Answer 2

I asked a question yesterday about pre labour signs, i dont ask many i try to find other questions already asked or surf the net for my answers. The reason I asked is i wanted to hear form other mothers about there experiences.(as my experience this time is different to my other 3) I already knew the answer to my question and saw my doctor today, who's answer was keep the baby in for 2 more weeks so i could have it at the local hospital. Maybe sometimes we are a little embarrassed to ask our Dr certain questions because like you said why arnt they common sense. I do wonder the same thing about certain questions that are asked over and over again. As most of the time we at home would never know.

Answer 3

The only questions that bother me are the ones that ask "Could I be pregnant? We had sex four days ago and now my period is late!". People should know that yes, anytime you have sex you have the chance of getting pregnant and to take an HPT to find out.

It's not that hard.

Other questions like labor, development etc are fine with me because usually people are just searching for other opinions. Development and labor are not always the same for each woman or child so it's fine by me if these questions are asked a million times a day.

Answer 4

i think women have a tendency to second guess themselves alot. even those of us who'er trying for a second pregnancy. and asking other people sometimes obvious questions may make them feel better about the course of action their taking. some women are actually not educated about some things, like i was home schooled and my mom never taught me much about a womans menstral cycle beyond that its supposed to happen once a month, and how to keep clean during. i had to educate myself about ovulation and other aspects of being female. and i also think alot of women don't have the option of getting a doctors advice willy nilly over every little thing, or at least don't believe they do, or don't want to call their doctor over it. so they seek the help of others who may know it. sense the beginning of man women have been having babies, and helping each other have babies, i think it is kinda natural for women embarking on having a child, (more so their first child) to seek the advise of other women who've been there, done that.

Answer 5

there is easily a such factor as uncomplicated experience. the undertaking is that the word is misused. uncomplicated experience tells you to no longer shop your hand in a fireplace (because of the fact that that occasion is used plenty. in spite of the undeniable fact that, uncomplicated experience would not tell a individual to attend in line for others to end or to buckle a baby in a motor vehicle seat. maximum human beings could say that human beings interior the rustic wherein I stay don't have uncomplicated experience because of the fact they don't understand such issues yet I disagree.

Answer 6

Some woman even though they are paying their doctors paycheck don't understand that the doctor is working for them. They are not comfortable asking questions even though that same doctor has seen them for the most part naked. They either don't have friends to ask or are not comfortable talking to them either so they ask in a way that no one knows who they are.

Answer 7

Or it's about getting various points of view on things

Answer 8

its uncommon sense if it were common sense everyone would have it